@SpookyB You’re not alone! My husband never initiates anything, so if I want to have sex or masturbate together, I have to initiate. We had some nearly sexless years, so it was really awkward for me when my sex drive was increasing to have to tell him what I wanted… I started just telling him when I was horny, and I’d try to describe how horny I was even though it was embarrassing 
Sometimes he’s just not in the mood when I am, so I’ll just do my own thing. When I don’t want to have to say, please come have sex with me, I’ll try to make it obvious with some lingerie or setting some toys that I want to use out on the bed or bedside table. Or I’ll start using a toy when I know he’ll be coming in, and then I’ll just stare at him until he gets it to come join me 
My husband gets very embarrassed when it comes to talking about sexual things. When we were dating and newly married, he wasn’t as shy, but now very much. @Kitty-Cat01 gave me some good advice on a different thread that I’ve been working on the past couple weeks with him! For me, I feel like I have to be proactive otherwise we won’t get anywhere…
I’ve noticed that writing reviews on our sex toys and being on the forum has helped me get better at talking about things on my end. He knows I’m on the forum, but isn’t really interested in reading posts on here, but he likes looking at toys on the site and reading about them together. Whenever there’s awkwardness or embarrassment, I think it just takes time to work through it 
