Lubyanka wrote:
Ecksvie wrote:
Lubyanka wrote:
Ecksvie wrote:
I'm currently in my first sexual relationship and can't believe I waited 22 years for it!
I'm just a bit confused about the "waited 22 years for it" part. I mean, if you're counting since your birth, then I disagree that your prepubescent years count as "waiting", since a sexual relationship at that age would have just been, um, just, no. Can you clarify that bit for me? I'd really like to know. :)
lol, just an expression, obviously I wasnt waiting for sex from birth, but in my surroundings with the people I was with, I was about 5-10 years behind everyone else. I'm really glad I waited, I didnt get my first boyfriend until I was 21. I was feeling quite a bit of sexual tension from around the age of 15-16, but my personality didnt allow me to do what my friends did and go out and find someone to let that out on. I was convinced for a long time I was going to die having never had a boyfriend and a virgin.
I'm still behind all my old schoolmates lol. I work in a leisure park and I often see people there who were in my classes with their spouses and children, but right now I couldnt be happier. I dont want kids til I'm at least 30.
Heh, "behind"? I mean, if one person eats a strawberry before it's ripe, and I wait to eat it when it's ripe, I don't consider myself "behind", I consider myself "smart". Also, ripe tastes better. :)
I waited til I was 19, because for me, that was when stuff was ripe. Stuff ripens at different times, during different seasons and takes different amounts of time to ripen. So if other people want to sample green sex, or ripen before I do, that's fine with me, I'll wait til I'm ripe. :)
From your description, it sounds like you waited the right amount of time for you, and the result was that your first sexual experiences with a partner were positive, respectful, beneficial and enjoyable. Some people who were "ahead" probably weren't so lucky. Some of them may have also experienced unplanned pregnancies and uncomfortable STIs. Fair play to you for resisting peer pressure and waiting until you were ready. Well done, and thank you for answering my question. :)
lol, well let's just say I ripened alot later than my peers, and they're going onto new horizons which I don't plan to go on to for a good few years yet! I know having kids can be a wonderful thing, but once you have them your life changes forever, I want to enjoy life a bit more before that!
I definitely think I waited for the right time. I had enough guys chasing me from school, college, work and a few other places. For my peers, that would have been it for them, if someone was chasing them, as long as they're not a complete minger, they'll do to satisfy their needs. However Disney it may sound, I was waiting for someone I really loved. Not just for sex, but the whole relationship thing. I was never going to settle for someone just because of peer pressure, sexual tension or anything else like that. I'm kinda introverted around other people, and I could never pursue something like that unless I knew without a doubt it was what I wanted, which was the case with my boyfriend at the moment. The series of texts which led to us getting together are kind of embarrassing to read now (I typed them up and have them saved on my computer lol), I was so openly telling him I loved him and I didnt even realise it at the time. I cringe at some of the stuff I wrote, although I take comfort in the fact it had the desired effect. Funnily enough, my boyfriend was one such guy who started chasing me when I was in 6th form, it got kind of ugly. However, we became friends and a long time has passed, we're both different people and the past is behind us now.
I knew he was "the one", so to speak. I couldnt imagine feeling uncomfortable around him doing things, and that was something I'd never felt even slightly with any other person I'd met.
In regards to the marriage thing, I see alot of my friends, some of them younger than me getting engaged or married. Back along at work, one of the guys announced he'd proposed to his girlfriend and she said yes. He'd got together with her within days of me getting together with my boyfriend, and at the time it had been six months. As much as it filled me with romantic dreams of my own wedding and made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside, there was still a little bit in me that was thinking "You're really gonna marry her after just six months?" I know if my boyfriend got down on one knee tomorrow, there's no way I'd be able to say anything but yes, but I do think many of them are rushing into things. There are people I know from school whose kids will be 18 before they're 40. That just seems really wierd to me. I say live life while you can. Once you have kids and get married, there's no going back. Sure, it seems nice and romantic, but I'd rather wait and make sure that I'm 100% making the right decision.
