What other options are there until you can have your own besides cabin and apartment which adds up in costs
You could see if any of your housemates would be interested in a âwanking boxâ? Itâs basically a big cardboard box in the living room that you can go in, and while youâre in there everyone agrees to ignore anything they accidentally see/overhear.
If a big box is out of your price range, you could try the budget model of the head-size one instead. 
You could ask around the local shops, they have plenty of big boxes theyâre dying to get shut of this time of year.
What options are there besides cabin and apartment to try a doll out or wear underwear or be barely clothed during summer if inside if you donât want to do it home or not only one living there
Get naked with the doll in the aforementioned box?
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Is there anything that can be done to meet girls other than school or uni until you can change jobs and/or get your own house to have more privacy with things, hearing of people finding it so easy even with the restrictions and feeling a bit left out.
Heard of someone that recently found someone all because of school
What is clues that it might be time to change jobs and what do people do to try to get through and hang on a bit longer.
Last time that had the experience with a girl was in 2005 16 years ago when
a cousin went to year 12 school formal and was 18 at time so was she and am
now 34 will be 35 in july this year and thatâs how long it was.
Canât afford to hire a social companion and also wondered wether am just going to have to do what rest of the younger people do these days to meet people that age even if not is all a good thing and take chances
also know someone else who is suspected to have found a friend and some people even with coronavirus restrictions find it so easy to find someone.
does having your own house and space make a difference or it it likely work environment,
what else would make it easy for people to find someone.
just feeling a bit left out sometimes and dont know what to do
Sometimes things are hard and so desperate also that you wonder how your grandparents old trailer thatâs barely roadworthy (which would be ok for around the local area) would go travelling at 100km/hr to adelaide or that youâll take another shortcut
just want a friend to do stuff with similar age and finding it so hard because am always working when younger people are out doing stuff and leaving the food industry to do something else isnt yet a option and trying to hang on a bit longer.
that person whos suspected to have a friend would him not working sundays make a difference
what is a professional way to ask and explain how youre feeling after the main owners 60th. if theyre still there, hoping to cut out the food and concentrate on the secondhand side if theyre still there otherwise start a part time business of your own.
with meetup how do you setup one for your area if theres none already setup in a country town
how do you talk to girls in hope of making a friend.
Thanks
It is tough, and these past couple of years have certainly not made things easier.
Itâs possible to meet new people no matter what job you have, or what your living arrangements are, or even with Covid restrictions - but each scenario will have different limitations (anti-scoial work-hours, no place to meet up privately, restricted budget, can only meet online until lockdown is lifted, etc, etc). And living in a rural area with a limited pool of people and no easy access to transport will make things harder again. All of these can make things more difficult, though none make it impossible.
But sometimes we need to make changes to our lifestyles to put ourselves in a better position to achieve the things we want. Itâs rarely easy, and can be quite scary depending on the size of change you want to make. For instance, changing jobs can be something that can get you closer to the life you want (maybe different hours, or more money, or just less stress), or moving to a different area (more people, more jobs, or just a new start). These are big decisions though, and only you can decide if theyâre realistically achievable, and if theyâd be worth the effort.
If youâre looking to find someone to chat with, you could try joining online groups that are centred around an interest you have (or want to start getting involved with). That can be a good way to âmeetâ people that you have things in common with. Some forums (like this one) donât allow people to share contact information, and most others wonât be okay with people using them only to trawl for dates - but they would be fine with anyone wanting to have a friendly chat about the subject they centre around. Shooting the breeze with like-minded people can be a great way to alleviate feeling lonely. There are even plenty of topics on this forum you could join in with. 
But, like I said previously, there isnât a magic pill that can solve this. Finding a partner involves meeting people and being sociable, whether online or in-person. The more people you talk to, the wider the net you throw, and the more chances you have of clicking with the right person.
I hope you can work something out. 
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working weekends is probably one main reasons why its hard.
changing jobs isnt yet a option even though it may make things seem better and wondered what you can do to hang on until the time is right to change jobs with different hours and get out of hospitality.
waiting until the workplace changes owners as am only hanging on because of them however am starting to think about it even though am not doing anything yet as probably wont last more than 5 years or past the main owners 60th especially doing what am doing and itll probably take that long to come up with something anyway.
sometimes with a job you got to try hang on a bit longer if you can.
what is reason why older generations push themselves until breaking point even though they dont want to do that job anymore or are showing clues and try repair their job or last 30 years and this generation changes jobs like iphones.
am part of the younger generation and so far lasted nearly 15 years or in a couple years itll be that long
Hi @daisy202027 , I get what youâre saying about not wanting to give up a career but throughout this thread you seem to be saying the reasons you canât meet someone are because of your job and your living arrangements.
Job wise, yes, you work unsociable hours but so do other people. I would suggest trying a dating app, you might not find the one but at least youâd be able to get out there and go on some dates, there will be other people who work similar hours who would probably appreciate a mid week lunch date instead of a Saturday night. However, if you truly believe that itâs your hours that are preventing you having a social life then you have no choice but to change them. What difference is it doing it now compared to in 5 years time when you plan to anyway?
Iâm sorry, it may be higher but I canât remember now are you living with your parents or in a share house? Either way, it shouldnât matter. Youâre in your mid 30s and are therefore plenty old enough to have dates come over to the house and stay over without your parents or house mates objecting.
You say you live in a small town but do you have a driving license? If so, get out, go places and meet people⌠not necessarily for dating and sex but just for human interaction and socialising. A lot if people end up in relationships due to meeting friends of friends. The more youâre out there, the more people youâll meet though I fully admit Covid restrictions have made this a lot, lot harder but there will be sports clubs or classes or something you could join in with.
I hope you find something that will work for you but it sounds like you are going to have to make some changes to get there.
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What is reason why australians arenât applying for hospitality jobs or are leaving as it reopens after shut down
And whatâs reason this generation doesnât last 20-30 years like previous generations did in jobs
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Iâm afraid I fully admit my knowledge of the Australian hospitality industry is limited to say the least⌠but Iâd assume the reasons people are leaving is the lack of job security, minimum wage and the many, many reasons you have complained of in this thread?
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Is it because when it got shut down people had to find other work and discovered they can earn more in same or less time and less demanding in other jobs
Is it also because they probably werenât going to be there much longer anyway after doing it for 10-15 years
Is it also because of all the extra requirements and people are tired
How come people these days change jobs more than older generations did
Hi
Is there anything that can be done to meet girls other than school or uni until you can change jobs and/or get your own house to have more privacy with things, hearing of people finding it so easy even with the restrictions and feeling a bit left out.
Heard of someone that recently found someone all because of school
What is clues that it might be time to change jobs and what do people do to try to get through and hang on a bit longer.
Last time that had the experience with a girl was in 2005 17 years ago when
a cousin went to year 12 school formal and was 18 at time so was she and am
now 34 will be 35 in july this year and thatâs how long it was.
Canât afford to regularly hire a social companion and also wondered wether am just going to have to do what rest of the younger people do these days to meet people that age even if not is all a good thing and take chances
also know someone else who is suspected to have found a friend and some people even with coronavirus restrictions find it so easy to find someone.
does having your own house and space make a difference or it it likely work environment,
what else would make it easy for people to find someone.
just feeling a bit left out sometimes and dont know what to do
Sometimes things are hard and so desperate also that you wonder how your grandparents old trailer thatâs barely roadworthy thats only really ok for taking rubbish to local dump would go travelling at 100km/hr to adelaide or that youâll take another shortcut.
just want a friend to do stuff with similar age and finding it so hard because am always working when younger people are out doing stuff and leaving the food industry to do something else isnt yet a option and trying to hang on a bit longer.
that person whos suspected to have a friend would him not working sundays make a difference
what is a professional way to ask and explain how youre feeling after the main owners 60th.
if theyre still there, hoping to cut out the food and concentrate on the secondhand side if theyre still there otherwise start a part time business of your own.
with meetup how do you setup one for your area if theres none already setup in a country town
how do you talk to girls in hope of making a friend.
just want a friend to hang around with regularly, what is best way to go about it when you always work when most younger people are out doing stuff.
sometimes feel left out and feel like that you dont have anyone and also feel like its not happening in a hurry.
how do you find a girl during these coronavirus restrictions.
joined a local mens shed and 4 years later am still enjoying it.
also with the imlive chatrooms as theres lots girls on there would that be a good way to practice talking to girls in the hope you find one.
and not having somewhere of your own is a bit hard to have people over unless you keep paying for cabins and apartments.
Thanks
@daisy202027 I suggest you have a read of the responses above this post as this seems to be mostly a repost of your above post 
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things will likely be way they are for quite some time atleast job wise
Only you can make the changes if youâre not satisfied with how your life is going. Change isnât going to come to you, you have to go out there and do it for yourself! Good luck x
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Hi everyone
Was wondering what you can do to find a girl to hang around with and if thereâs still hope to meet people the way baby boomers did or if we just have to accept meeting people is now different and just be careful.
most younger people work during week and have weekends off and events happen on weekends that doesnât happen in the work week and because of that and being in the hospitality industry it makes it hard and wanting to get out at some point and do something else that only works normal business hours.
What can you do to find a girl that doesnât involve paying for escorts all time even though occasionally hiring a companion wonât be too bad until you can change jobs and living arrangements.
At the moment the time isnât right to change careers which will probably make things easier and trying to hang on until the deli changes owners.
Do you lot think itâd be a good idea to plan a way out now even though am not doing anything in a hurry because very unlikely to last longer than the owners 60th in 3 or 4 years and may be doing well to last that, sheâs 57 now and itâll probably that long to come up with something.
Giving it till the owners 60th to see what happens.
Have also some business goals and wish to reach them in next 5 years.
At moment am happy enough where am living, itâs hard having people over and like to have own space to have people over and thatâs making it hard.
Eventually will have own house but am waiting until am able to buy and until then am happy with current living arrangements.
What makes it easy for other people to find a guy or a girl or friends similar age. Is it the hours they work or what is it.
Based on reading a lot of the above, I would suggest actually reading the replies, and perhaps being âteachableâ. Really not sure what your posts are trying to actually achieve.
Clearly asking the same thing time and again isnât going to solve your problems, and to my knowledge no one on the LH forums has a magic wand to improve this for you.
If nothing changes, nothing will change.
Either accept things as they are, or accept you need to change something.
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Eventually am going to change careers which will make it easier in some way but at moment the time isnât right and waiting for it to change ownership before doing anything
Do you think it will or is it upto you
Giving it 4 years to see what happens
Wanted a medium term solution until it becomes a option which might take a long time
Feeling positive it might take a long time and need a short term solution until then like older generations would do