@StarKitty79 before you mentioned drugs I. Was thinking meth paranoid behaviour, especially with his previous relationship drug use. You don’t come back from heavy meth use, you just get tied up in a basement for months shitting in a bucket trying to convince him that your teeth don’t have listening devices.
You need an out plan, safety word set up with a fiend and check in times with people who know where you are. I would be tracking your phone but giving the app to your family so they know where to start digging for you.
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Hi all! Well, we have talked. I told him how I have been feeling and how upset it was making me. He said he is going through some things right now and has lost confidence in everyone and everything. He said he is in a very bad place and that there are some changes that have to be made in his life. He told me he wants me to be happy and he can’t give that to me now. When he gets his life sorted out then everything will be okay and he may be in a better place to be with me, until then he told me to “be happy doing whatever makes me happy.” He was really weird and really vague, so reading between the lines, I now suspect drug use may have been the issue. That would definitely make a person act the way he has lately.
So, basically, he broke up with me. Feeling heart-broken about the whole thing, but I will definitely be okay once I get through the mourning/grieving process. Thanks for being here for me through this mess. I think it went as good as it could have.
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You know - I think that is the best thing that could happen right now, and I’m really glad that he was mature enough to say and admit that to you.
I know you love him but deep down, you know that you deserve to be treated better 
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Sweetheart you definitely did the right thing to address this.
He may have ultimately ended things but you 100% took control of the situation. Be sad, be angry in the moment.
Best advice I can give you is don’t wait on him. Do you.
Very proud of you for facing this head on.
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It will hurt for a while, but you are worth and deserve so much more.
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Well done for recognising your worth and being really strong. Make yourself a cuppa, have some chocolate and remember tomorrow is a new day 
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@SexInTheCity I like that advice, you’d be a great friend 
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I’ll be honest, a cuppa and chocolate is my answer to most things 
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All of you are great friends. I appreciate everyone’s support and honesty during this past couple of days! Hope I can return the favor sometime!
Yes! A coffee and chocolate makes everything a little better, I’m headed to the kurig and candy stash right now, lol! 
I spent a small fortune on ligerie over the past couple of weeks in preparation for our next visit…oh well, I guess I can wear it to sleep and feel sexy. Now I need to invest in a new BOB (battery operated boyfriend), lol!
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Something tells me you’re going to get past this. 
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Ooh I think we have another UK/USA phrase difference! Cuppa in the UK specifically refers to a cup of tea. But I love coffee too, give me all the caffeine 
I’m forever prancing around in new lingerie by myself so go for it girl!
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@SexInTheCity - Haha! Yah, another difference in language from across the pond. I enjoy tea, as well. Earl Grey is my favorite.
I love putting my sets on, so I can see myself prancing around in mine in the evening, lol. I can also see myself investing in more…after I get a BOB. I’m thinking a rabbit. Never had one, but have heard good things and sounds like it would be very stimulating. 
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By all means try a rabbit, but be aware that finding the right one for you can be a bit of a crapshoot - there are many different designs/shapes, and apparently it’s all about finding one that suits your anatomy
…which is a good reason to remind you about the LH Sex Toy Happiness promise: Sexual Happiness Promise Terms & Conditions
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Don’t worry we have a thread to help with that problem too
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Good to know, thanks! I picked one out based on the penis size and shape I enjoy, so fingers crossed that “BOB” will be a good one.
Haha @Toolman31, I am not surprised! I get a real ego boost and a lot of body confidence from wearing it, so I am sure I will get use out of it, if only to make myself feel sexy.
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@StarKitty79 You did amazing just having that conversation, good on you! It’s no easy thing and although it’s tough, this outcome is better than trying to pretend everything was fine would have been. I hope he gets the help he needs and you are able to move on.
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Specifically regarding this, I will say my wife had accidentally blocked me before. I didn’t believe her but then a couple years later I had somehow accidentally blocked her.
Funny thing is she didn’t believe me that it was an accident either and thought that I was just “getting her back”.
All I’m saying with that is it’s at least possible that’s the truth with accidentally blocking.
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It can happen, but considering all the other gaslighting and controlling behaviour in this case, I really wouldn’t bet on it.
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Well just make sure bob is rechargeable just remember bob always gives he never complains he’s always there when you need him and he never talks back and he can go and go and go im really glad that it worked out for you and I hope he gets better and take your time to find the right person that gives you most if not more than you want mainly love and respect and trust good things are sure to come and my wife loves her wand and womanizer
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