Me and my partner have become increasingly intrigued by the thought of a foursome. Neither of us have any experience with having one (we’ve both had sex with others in the same room. Not with eachother, I’m talking a long time ago before we were together). But that’s as far as it goes. He has said in the past he’d be up for a 3 some with another girl, but I think that’s more of the typical “every man’s dream” rather than him actually thinking in detail about it. However, I’d be a lot more comfortable with a 4 some, as I think it’s a lot less likely to cause jealousy with one feeling left out etc. However, we have both said we think we’d struggle watching eachother getting pleasure from someone else. I’m typically quite self conscious too, so feel it would bother me if the other girl was more attractive, skinnier etc. However, despite the concerns, I’m becoming increasingly more intrigued, and feel it may even better our relationship. How should I go about this? I also wouldn’t know where to start with even finding another couple. We live pretty “normal” lives, so having foursomes wouldn’t be on the usual agenda for the conversations we have with friends. We have also both agreed that we don’t feel we could do it with someone we already know.
From reading your post I think you are intrigued but also not really into it. Having watched Open House, unless you are both 100% wanting to try, I would stay well clear of it. Personally I cannot see it improving your relationship. Your partner was interested in a threesome 2 ladies and him. How would he feel if it was you, him and another bloke.? It sounds like you and him have a lot of communicating before jumping in.
By him being interested in a 3 some with another girl, he never expressed this off his own back. It was more of when we were also watching open house, and I asked if he’d be up for it and he said yes but with another girl, not another man. We also have no intentions of jumping into anything. At this stage, I’m purely just asking for people’s advice/experiences.
@Soontobemrsg . I must admit the idea of a foursome is really appealing.
Having sex with OH and then swapping places with guy of other couple would be a huge turn on.
A group oral with two couples forming a square has definitely been a fantasy of mine… my wife isnt as adventurous as I am, but id jump at the chance if we could pull it off. ( no pun intende).
A bit like yourself, where would you find a compatible couple.
Our friends are just too close to suggest it to and as much as i love them dearly the women arent my sexual type.
Its good that you and your husband are open to the conversation bc thats really the biggest hurdle that most people come up against.
I would suggest you ask your husband why he’d be ok with another woman but not a man in a 3 some. Is it a confidence thing where he doesn’t want to be in the vicinity of a naked penis or does he want all the attention of 2 women?
I think men think 2 women are automatically going to have sex, but not every woman wants to do all things with other women. So you really need to discuss what you both want to get from it. And be honest about it, bc theres no point in not being honest.
I appreciate you’re maybe just thinking out loud at the moment and not at a stage where you want to jump in.
I would suggest joining fabswingers .com, its a swinging site that has forums to chat, you can chat 1 on 1 with other people and arrange to meet if you like them. Think of it as tinder for sex. Some people and clubs hold events, clubs are probably the safer option until you get a bit savvy with it, bc not every person you talk to will be genuine and a lot of people just like the fantasy but I’ve met a lot of good people from it. I suggest you look for swingers clubs, possibly in your area, there are also reviews of the clubs on Fab.
Have a read of Richys experience with fab and swingers clubs, the Richys were a few more steps ahead of you, but its a good read and a good first hand experience that you may get something from.
Since my wife is inactive , can I borrow two women and a man ? I love ladies but my bi curious side thinks it would like experimenting . Would it be considered selfish it they all use me , at least to start with ?
Good thing is you’ve both talked and agreed upon it and the conditions your both comfortable with 
Next step would be to put feelers out I guess to try find other willing participants
only ever had a threesome but that was 3 guys on me, never had a foursome/swap
Foursomes can be awesome.
We had an un-arranged hook up with a couple on holiday a year ago. We kind of drifted together after watching each other have sex on our balconies. There were a few shocks like initially the other lady was more interested in a lesbian experience with me rather than a partner swop. The second night we did the more conventional swop and on both occasions we all enjoyed the experience.
We have only this one foursome experience but having kept in touch with this couple we have had a threesome and continue to keep in contact. The only problem is that they live in Germany and we live in the UK. We are trying to coordinate another swooping holiday for next year.
I have loved reading your experiences both on holiday and your break to Germany. @Love_Stud_Too . Hopefully you will continue with your posts. 