Hello all
I'm spending the night away with a new partner next week, and I want to give him the best blow job he has ever had (seeing as I looooove doing it...). Any advice, anyone?
Thanks....
Giving a good blow job is not that difficult at all.
Few points to remember is that you should be careful not to bite him or touch hard with your teeth, as this a real put off. The skin on the forehead is even thinner than that on your lips and it is really painful if the woman gets too rough on it.
So the best way is to keep your jaw wide open and use your lips and tong to apply pressure around the cock. Gently and slowly you will see from the effect on him whether you can relax your jaw and allow your teeth touch him a little.
Roll you tong on the penis, before you swallow it, play with him from the bottom to the top of it, gently caressing it and leaving saliva on it.
When you take the penis your mouth, push and roll your tong while your lips keep a firm grip on it. Move your head or allow him to move his hips so that the penis comes out and goes in your mouth. If you are willing, you can do something that is it called ‘deep throat’ – when the cock goes all the way in your mouth and reaches the throat. The thing is that you should be a bit careful with this as you may not be able to breath for a moment, so mutual understanding is necessary between you both.
Most men like getting a blow job, as well as going down on their women. Shame that so many women find it difficult to understand that. As long as he’s washed himself, a man’s penis is as clean as his hands and always cleaner than a woman’s pussy.
It probably takes some time to get the experience, but it is certainly something that anyone can. And do it well.
I know I cannot give you a full training on this topic just by writing, but if you are interested in anything in particular, let me know and I'll try answering it asap.
And also, give us a feed back how the rendezvous went afterwards. Enjoy!
Go with his noises as to what he likes. Everyone is different and I've had blokes who like a careful nibble and brush of teeth (very careful mind!) because of the danger thrill but that would totally put off other men.
Lots of tongue action is good in my experience, paying most attention to the head, hole and frenulum. Hands on the shaft at the same time, hands on thighs and balls. Gentle squeezing of balls. Suckling of head.
I think these things always improve with time as you get to know each other better, but enthusiasm and enjoying it are such important things.
Hello to you both BTW!
These are all subjective apart from a couple of mates I've spoke to so the only real surefire way I would really recommend is what the others have said and ask him and pay attention to how he responds.
I still get surprised now at what my girl does 3/4 years on becuase she's so attentive and listens to what I want or varies it slightly to perfect it. An attentive and unselfish lover is the best thing in the world! You sound both of these anyway actually asking for opinions and loving to do it so I think it'll be pretty good for him regardless! But her are somethings I like or have discussed with people.... Hope some are useful but as they say, different strokes for different folks, so feel free to ignore anything or everything I say!
Don't forget parts other than his cock, ball play can be nice with a blowjob. I love my hips being touched. You might also want to wank him off while you suck, I don't know exactly what she does but I enjoy when my girl sort of sucks me off in a circle like twisting/pumping her head and hand while she sucks.
Ask him his fave position. Some like sitting others lying down.
A warm wet tongue has the ability to bring a man trembling to his knees (and also twitching/trembling out of bed, with jelly legs!), treat it like your most useful tool. I know given enough pressure, force and repetative sucks I probably would eventually cum but it takes a highly skilled tongue to simply lick a cock to orgasm. As Imeldax2 says focus on the tip and frenulum (the banjo string).
If your serious about making it his best ever then I assume you have no problem with where he finishes! To me cumming in a girl's mouth feels so much better than anywhere else, men are programmed to like cumming in tight, warm, wet places! Some men do much prefer the visual stimulation they get from cumming on a girls face or tits. You might want to ask him where he prefers, you could tell him you only swallow when your really really horny and if the cock tastes so good you have to, if you've never given him head before. It's a big compliment to a man if you tell him he has a fit tasty cock and you needed to swallow it!
I think a few people I've recommended this to have liked it, hey it even helped someone over impotence!! Suck him while he's soft, it feels so good (well for me anyway) and is even better if you have never felt it before because it's surprising, it makes me annoyed to be hard sometimes. You can do something similar when he's erect if you pull his foreskin (assuming he has one) up towards your mouth and press down with your lips. Feeling lips between my tip and my foreskin is one the best way to make me cum.
Enjoy it, the mental element of seeing my girl squirm around desperate to suck cock is always a winner! I SOO-FUCKING-LOVE when my girlfriend carn't control herself when sucking me off and makes herself cum or plays with herself! MMM noises usually go down well just don't over do it and sound mental.
Don't treat it like you're a porn star. While some show is good for the perfect blowjob, porn is all show and a porn star blowjob is feels pretty crap. That's why porn stars always look angry with a screwed up face. Don't suck it like your trying to suck a football through a straw, unless he asks! Suck it firmly but not too hard, too hard can leave it too dry and be uncomfortable and a good blowjob usually has lots of spit!
Teasing can work very well, however it can just frustrate some. I like when my girl takes charge sometimes but others might be uncomfortable with you in charge and teasing him will only frustrate him. You need to know what type of person they are, are they comfortable with a strong women who knows what she wants and what she wants to give?
To me it's often a simple equation of:
Enthusiasm+Skill+Swallow= Very Very Happy Me!
But most of all ask him what he likes, he might be too shy or might even be unsure, plenty of men and women don't quite know their own bodies and what they like. If this is the case treat just go with the flow and enjoy it and I'm sure he will!
Enjoy your cock sucking, I'm sure you'll be good and keep us updated!
One of the most important things seem to be enthusiasm. Not over the top 'Gimme that cock' (though some may enjoy that too) but just simply that you're enjoying what you're doing, and not doing it out of some feeling of obligation or something.
Something I've found works well is contrasts in sensations. Soothing licks and strokes with your whole mouth, then 'point' your tongue and trace the ridge of the hood with it, and the slit, and then soothe again with soft tongue, etc. Also fun is take him in, then slowly pull back, open your mouth and breathe in around him - pulls in a stream of cool air on his cock! Lots of fun that one.
If you've never deep throated I wouldn't risk it just then - gagging isn't sexy. Maybe save trying that for when it's all less new with this person? To give him the feeling that his cock is all the way covered, just wrap a hand around the base so that the bit you can't reach other your mouth isn't feeling all cold and neglected.
Use a lot of spit and saliva. A lot. To you it might sound disgusting, but chances are he'll love it, and it really changes the feel of the whole thing, for me it's pretty essential. If you're not making slurping noises you're not doing it right :P
well every1 above has it covered, just keep sucking, pulling and tweaking and it'll happen, lol xxx
Can't add much other than I would concentrate on sucking the end of his cock (as that is where a man feels the greatest sensation), with circular movements around the ridge of the hood followed by licking upwards on the ridge that goes all the way up his cock from the base & I'd also include some wanking inbetween. Like others have said I'd leave deep throut until you know each other better, plus in my experience whilst it can be fun & add to a blow job its less of a turn on than having the end of his cock sucked.
Have fun & looking up into his eyes whilst sucking & wearing a little extra lipstick can also be an extra turn on.
Jo wrote:
[lots of pertinent advice]
As long as he’s washed himself, a man’s penis is as clean as his hands and always cleaner than a woman’s pussy.
I wanted to express the exception I felt to Jo's erroneous assumption that a woman's genitals are always dirtier than a man's. I think that's disrespectful and inaccurate.
I also wanted to extend my best wishes to darkhorse - I wish you every joy on your night away with your partner. :)
Guys, thanks so much. It's really great to have such instructional replies as I genuinely want to learn and I've really enjoyed reading them. He is quite shy (kind of) and I know if I was to ask him what he liked he would clam up, so it's been really helpful. He doesn't make a sound during sex (well, not yet with me anyway), so it's hard to tell what he likes. Having said that, the last time I did it I held his hand (not sure how I got there) and he did squeeze it very hard at certain points... which I loved.
Thanks WandA for your detailed post, which I have read FAR too many times... One question - I know he would really like to cum on my face... what do I actually do when the moment comes? Open my mouth? Shut my eyes? Feel incredibly self conscious and try not to giggle?
I quite enjoy telling my boyfriend "You stop making a sound, I stop doing what I'm doing" before I go to work on him... makes for a lot of wonderfully vocal feedback :-)
I'm afraid I can't give you any advice about him cumming on your face as that's never been an element with the OH and I.
However, I can throw in a few tips I use with the boyfriend, though they've mostly been covered by people already.
Firstly, my boyfriend loves it when I flick my tongue lightly around the head and up and down the frenulum. From what I can tell, it gives him a teasing sensation and drives him wild!
Then I actually take him into my mouth, fairly shallow at first but getting deeper the more excited he gets. When we're really into it, I start to wank the base of his cock while I suck the tip. This, combined with the twisting type motions with my mouth that WandA was describing, are sure-fire ways to get him to cum.
If your mouth starts to get tired (we're only human!), go back to concentrating on his head and the ridge for a little bit, then, when you're ready, suck down quite hard. The element of surprise will be a really nice shock for him.
Try to play with his balls while you give him a blow job for the extra sensation it'll offer him.
A few encouraging 'mmm's go a long way so that he knows you're enjoying it too.
Oh, and try to 'accidentally' brush your boobs across his cock once or twice.
Sorry my tips have mostly been covered by the other posters here (and more eloquently, lol), but at least if many people are saying the same kinds of things you'll know it's a good idea to try it.
Good luck and have a fantastic time!
Holding his hand can be a really good measure, its subtle movements like that and such as how he tenses that i'll help put you on the right track! I know i'm a little more vocal when my girl is, so the sound of you enjoying it might prompt him to open up a bit. If you feel he might avoid a direct question ask him "would you like if I...." a yes or no could help guide you and if he says says yes you can then ask more Q's or tease him slightly.
"would you like if I sucked on just the tip of your cock again? it tasted really good!" I imagine he'd say yes! "But, why on earth would you want my warm wet tongue stroking all over your cock? Isn't that a bit naughty?" It's often easier to answer a question like that, if he knows what you want its pretty hard to say the wrong thing! Compliments can go a Looong way! You might want to come up with your own ideas to avoid sounding like a bad porn script.
I've read that some people suggest wearing glasses or sunglasses! You might just feel strange in them though. You might feel kinkier! You could take it in your mouth and let it run down your body, you could let him cum over your face and if it appears too much, taste some! I really don't think he will complain.
I don't like facials simply for logisitcal reasons! Eyes and hair are a big no-no. Too much concentration for my liking! Really don't get it in your eyes. Looking like a pirate with pink eye won't look very sexy afterwards.
Me personally I'd like if a girl where to open her mouth and I aimed lower down, to include her boobs neck and chin. It also depends on the position. If your kneeling over him you can keep control easier and aim were you want. I don't think any surefire way will make a blowjob or facial any easier. You should not be self consious giving your man something he enjoys, you should feel sexy and he should be told how lucky he is afterwards!
Do what feels right and good! Most blowjobs will feel good, anything else is just a huge bonus, the type that may lead to envious looks from his mates down the pub! A girl who knows how to use her own and her partner's body is such a mental turn on too, you never know what i'll come next, (well except him)!
Enjoy your cocksucking and you are welcome for the replies, I want to be a teacher after Uni (just a school teacher) so I love when people show a willingness to learn no matter what the subject!
Enjoy, W x
Thanks everyone for your replies. I didn't expect them to be as detailed as they have been, and I'm grateful for your input. I've had very limited experience to be honest (one long term relationship which ended last year where the sex wasn't very good) and I'm so keen to explore now.
There's no such thing as a bad blowjob, just god ones & great ones (unless it end's in an injury).
Lots of eye contact, nice & wet, lots of mmm's & enthusiam. Job done!
How about pulling him in tighter to you by firmly gripping his bum.
I start off doing that then move my hands to cupping his balls before licking them.
He also likes it when i finger his arse but obviously not everyone is up for that.
He will probably start giving you little hints if you pay enough attention. I bet you send out signals yourself if you want him to something in particular to you. He will no doubt do the same.
Good luck
Darkhorse, as far the place where your partner may ejaculate is concerned, this is something you should have your say on. If you like it that he cums on your face, boobs, etc , that’s fine, but if you don’t, then he should not do it. Don’t do something just because he might like it, while at the same time you feel repulsion. I am pretty sure that if he loves and respects you he will not do it either. It is always better to be honest with each other and advance with steps which are mutually enjoyable. Sex is a form of expressing love and affection that you feel towards your partner and not satisfying oneself using other person’s body.
I personally would not cum intentionally on her face. I am saying ‘intentionally’ because there have been occasions when I feel that the orgasm is coming, I pull out during sexual intercourse in the missionary position and the shot is so powerful that it travels all the way from genitals and lands on her neck, cheek and so on, but that is just one of those things. Otherwise, I cannot see myself puling out of her mouth and spraying her on her face, mouth, boobs.. This is a scene I’ve seen on movies, but I’m sure it is not something any of the women I’ve been with will appreciate.
In addition, for me, oral sex is rather part of the preliminary stage of making love as oppose to finishing with it. Once I enter her vagina, I will not put my cock back in her mouth. I must say that I have been asked to do it, but I would say that since I was inside her, I’d rather not.
When I ejaculate, my cock extracts liquid and I wouldn’t expect my woman to be necessarily happy to have this liquid in her mouth. If you like it, then that’s fine, go ahead and have the full blast in your mouth. I would say that is probably the best option. I’ve never done it, but I have seen it on a short movie and I found it rather intimate experience when the woman appears to be in total control of pleasuring her man by bringing him to the point of no return and still refusing to let him go. If you do this, your man will be three times happier than to see you covered in his sperm from head to toe (or chin to belly button). You can either spit out the sperm afterwards or share it with your partner by giving him a kiss, or just keeping it all for yourself.
I am going to post here a blow job guide, written by someone else. Watch this spot over the next couple of days.
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Darkhorse, as far the place where your partner may ejaculate is concerned, this is something you should have your say on. If you like it that he cums on your face, boobs, etc , that’s fine, but if you don’t, then he should not do it. Don’t do something just because he might like it, while at the same time you feel repulsion. I am pretty sure that if he loves and respects you he will not do it either. It is always better to be honest with each other and advance with steps which are mutually enjoyable. Sex is a form of expressing love and affection that you feel towards your partner and not satisfying oneself using other person’s body.
I personally would not cum intentionally on her face. I am saying ‘intentionally’ because there have been occasions when I feel that the orgasm is coming, I pull out during sexual intercourse in the missionary position and the shot is so powerful that it travels all the way from genitals and lands on her neck, cheek and so on, but that is just one of those things. Otherwise, I cannot see myself puling out of her mouth and spraying her on her face, mouth, boobs.. This is a scene I’ve seen on movies, but I’m sure it is not something any of the women I’ve been with will appreciate.
In addition, for me, oral sex is rather part of the preliminary stage of making love as oppose to finishing with it. Once I enter her vagina, I will not put my cock back in her mouth. I must say that I have been asked to do it, but I would say that since I was inside her, I’d rather not.
Here comes the point with what is cleaner: a washed penis or a washed pussy. A point which Lubyana missed completely, but I am positive, the rest of you, guys, will take it on board. A cock is cleaner because it doesn’t drip liquid when the man is getting aroused. A woman’s pussy is very different as it gets soaking wet. So when I go down on her (which I love doing), I avoid getting this liquid in my mouth. I make her reach climax just by stimulating her clitoris and lips with my tongue and sucking on her.
When I ejaculate, my cock extracts liquid and I wouldn’t expect my woman to be necessarily happy to have this liquid in her mouth. If you like it, then that’s fine, go ahead and have the full blast in your mouth. I would say that is probably the best option. I’ve never done it, but I have seen it on a short movie and I found it rather intimate experience when the woman appears to be in total control of pleasuring her man by bringing him to the point of no return and still refusing to let him go. If you do this, your man will be three times happier than to see you covered in his sperm from head to toe (or chin to belly button). You can either spit out the sperm afterwards or share it with your partner by giving him a kiss, or just keeping it all for yourself. Surely you know that sperm is the best ‘energy drink’. It is full of nutrients, as well as zinc, which is vital for the functioning of the brain.
I am going to post here a blow job guide, written by someone else. Watch this spot over the next couple of days.
Jo wrote:
Here comes the point with what is cleaner: a washed penis or a washed pussy. A point which Lubyana missed completely, but I am positive, the rest of you, guys, will take it on board. A cock is cleaner because it doesn’t drip liquid when the man is getting aroused. A woman’s pussy is very different as it gets soaking wet. So when I go down on her (which I love doing), I avoid getting this liquid in my mouth. I make her reach climax just by stimulating her clitoris and lips with my tongue and sucking on her.
[...] You can either spit out the sperm afterwards or share it with your partner by giving him a kiss, or just keeping it all for yourself. Surely you know that sperm is the best ‘energy drink’. It is full of nutrients, as well as zinc, which is vital for the functioning of the brain.
1. Many men do drip liquid from their penis when aroused. The liquid is called pre-ejaculate.
2. According to my knowledge, "dry" is not a synonym for "clean", nor is "wet" a synonym for "dirty".
3. Semen can efficiently propagate sexually transmitted infections.
3. The nourishment quotient of sperm/semen is negligible. Sperm have evolved to transport DNA, not nourish.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fellatio#Pregnancy
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Semen_ingestion
Lubyanka, you have a nice name, deriving from a Russian word for ‘love’, but you are not displaying yourself as a lovable person at all. You seem to be some sort of a self-proclaimed totalitarian dictator policing this forum and attempting to control what others write and how they express yourself (considering some other of your posts). Hey, calm down, communism is over!
You may have read a lot of stuff here and there, but let me tell you as a man with perfectly well functioning manhood: this pre-ejaculation liquid is precisely that – pre-ejaculation. In simple language it means that the penis never drips anything and could carry on in this clean shape and form for hours until and only until the man gets so much aroused that this pre-ejaculation liquid, produced by the prostate gland and containing very little semen (unlike the shots during proper ejaculation) may start leaking out in very small quantity – usually hardly to be noticed, especially if saliva, lubricants or vagina discharge is involved. What follows shortly afterwards is the orgasm, unless of course, the man tries hard to subdue the rising excitement.
The point is, and please do not miss it this time, a penis is as clean as a finger. You can suck on it for hours, it will remain clean, unless you have eaten dirt before that. When the man ejaculates, you have the choice what do to with the sperm: avoid it, swallow it, enjoy the smell and taste of it, or gag and throw up. Different people, different preferences, different reactions. That’s the beauty of human variety.
Regarding sperm nutrients: it looks like your brain needs more zinc. Hmm, presumably you know how to get it.
Rather than doing literature lessons about synonyms and acronyms, you’d better read the title of this discussion and then, if you have anything positive to contribute so everyone benefits from it, post a reply, if not, just read the other posts and educate yourself.
An by the way, sperm has not 'evolved' as it cannot do so. Get yourself a Bible to learn the origin of the species.
Needless to say, I am not going to dilute anymore darkhorse’s discussion with unnecessary arguments, so sorry love, but I will disappoint you by not participating further in your dispute.