Grower rather than shower

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Old topic but…..

Doubling in size would seem to be a good indication of a grower. Ive often wondered what defines a grower though. I read some stuff that said 26% of men were growers where they defined a grower as a length increased by more than 1.5 inches, this seemed like a small increase to me. Based on averages erect girth average is about an inch increase over flaccid average girth and average erect length is about 2inches more than average flaccid length. These figures would put me about average, neither a grower or a shower, an inch growth in girth an a bit over 2 in length (on an average day)

So when people say grower/shower what defines this?

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I’m going to have to say I’m a grower.

Not sure what percentages of growth from flaccid to erect are qualifiers for shower or grower. So I’ll just base it off my observations of other guys from past locker room or common shower rooms and noticing how I compare to seeing other guys. Some guys are definitely showers compared to me

My penis in a completely flaccid state, it’s pretty small and if in a somewhat cooler environment, my penis and balls both will be pretty retracted. Almost to a point of what could be close to being tucked. I’m maybe 2-3” exposed length at most and minimal girth at that point. But once aroused and fully erect I’m a little over 6” long and girthy enough that my wife is totally happy with it. Never really measured my girth size.

So guess I’m a grower based on that. :man_shrugging::thinking:

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There’s no hard definition (pun intended) but as someone who identifies as a grower I consider what is the default penis I find when I drop trou in the bathroom? Not scientifically average, but anecdotally is the penis closer to my erection size or farther away from it?

Of course there’s a whole range: in the winter I may retreat and find less than an inch of shaft exposed, plus head. Most of the time it’s about 4 inches. My flaccid girth is also generally 4 inches. I know by comparison that my flaccid is bigger for about an hour post orgasm, or first things in the day after morning wood goes down, hanging 6 or more inches and closer to 5.25 girth. That is not my default penis, but it is my first-hand experience of what I would expect to see all the time if I was a shower.

I think it’s just a pretty loose - floppy, if you will - categorization of how dramatic of a difference is there between what you’d see/show off while changing at the gym vs what shows up for sex/masturbation. I guess the whole conversation assumes that there’s some group of people whose penises don’t get noticably larger in arousal, just harder. In a quick screen of these comments I think I only saw two folks talk about partners or exes who were showers, and @Oldman noted from visits to naturalist beaches almost everyone appeared to be growers.

The final thought there, then, is that it may be a lot of perspective of what makes for a apparently large flaccid penis, given I’ve never measured someone else in the locker room. There is a strange perspective trick in what you see looking down at yourself vs across the room at someone else and how the things across the way apart bigger, or, more actually what you see looking down gets foreshortened out of perspective. I have a similar experience with my feet: looking down I think they’re rather average, then I see my shoes off by themselves and I’m like, “those are freaking massive!” Weird example, but I think it’s the same thing. So perspective is screwy and honestly it’s probably been since high school locker room that I saw much variety of penises flopping around anyway.

All that to say: :man_shrugging:t2:

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I’m a grower… especially in winter lol

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I never actually measured myself flaccid, until today. I’m about 5 1/2 inches soft, it grows to 7 inches at peak arousal, maybe just a bit more if I am crazy hot. And if it is chilly, I may be as small as 4 1/4 inches, unless it is truly frigid, then all bets are off. So, given that, I suppose am a shower.

Funny thing, when I started dating my first wife, she once said to me that she thought I was small, because she had never seen a flaccid dick, which embarrassed me. Yeah, that was true until we started messing around, then her eyes got big.

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My opinion is that there is no one size fits all. It’s common to be a grower for men down there. Some like not showing much, others want to show more.

I’d like to present my take on this, for me personally I mean. It might go against the grain, but with my life, it’s the way I am.

First, I’m older, pushing right up against 60 now. I was born in the 1960’s. I don’t want to go too far off topic and I/we can’t really discuss this so I’ll just say I was sexually abused as a child growing up in the late 60’s and 70’s. Enough said.

I will also say I’m quite a bit larger down there, in all ways and I was from a really young age onwards.

I went to a Catholic elementary school in the 70’s. 3 nuns there in particular were really not happy with me down there. Again, too much to go into so I won’t.

My mom was mean, abusive, an alcoholic and she was divorced when I was 2 years old.
She remarried as I began the 5th grade, we moved and I began going to a public school.

Classmates noticed me down there right away. I was “pantsed” often on the playground by many of them.

I met my 1st wife at 14 in 1981. We were both freshman in high school and we dated all 4 years, went to college together, got married after college, were married over 16 years and I divorced her after finding out she was cheating on me.

I’ll just say that my ex-wife wasn’t happy with me down there from the get go. She’d complain others could notice me down there, like sitting on the bleachers at home basketball games in high school, in the lunch cafeteria or walking in the hallways during passing periods.

Pools and the beach weren’t a good place for us, for my then gf and me. She’d tell me I had to roll over onto my stomach or get into the water.

She taught elementary school until we had children and then she stayed at home. I’d go to help her out in her classroom. One day after school, all kids gone, she and I were working on her bulletin board outside her classroom in the hallway.

We saw two of her colleagues walking down the hallway towards us and my wife turned to me, looked at me down there and told me I had to go into her classroom so they wouldn’t have to see “that”.

I’m leaving a lot out, I just wanted to give a bit of background and perspective.

Being larger down there, being a shower wasn’t a good thing or a positive thing for me with the way I grew up, when I grew up etc.

I’d get into trouble at school, at friends homes I spent the night in, with coaches on sports teams. I was asked to leave places.

It was a major issue for my ex-wife in the 20 plus years we were together overall and that meant it was an issue for me too.

She’d make me leave places, stay in the car etc. Before we had children, her mom and older sister visited us on my wife’s birthday and we went the pool at our condo. Within minutes of arriving there, my wife came over to me and whispered and told me I had to go back home, she didn’t like or want her mom and sister seeing me down there in my swim trunks at the pool. So I excused myself a few minutes later and returned to our condo while the 3 of them remained at the pool.

Now multiply this times a few hundred other incidents with my ex-wife. There were issues at church, in schools she taught at, in stores, in lines, in amusement parks etc.

It took me until I was in my early 40’s to become comfortable with myself, with my body etc. I began going to therapy at 38 when I caught my then wife cheating on me and I went for years.

It turned to my childhood and my issues had issues, so to speak.

By around 43 years of age, I was finally comfortable in my own skin, so to speak.

So it’s not always good to be a shower, if one is really on the larger size.