Im a grower too. I suppose when I was teen i might have been a bit self consious about it, but been with the wife a long time and my size seems to be plenty for her. I am not massive either probably smaller than most of the comments here. I measured it when younger but can remember, definetly under 3” soft, if the foreskin isnt pulled back it tends to disapear, nearly like an innie bellybutton 
. Probably 5-6” erect though.
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Same here if it’s cold my penis actually disappears into my scrotum. It’s tiny. But when effect I’m 6 inches and a pretty nice girth too
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Always been insecure about mine soft and hard, then just stopped giving a s**t, just thought I am who I am so be happy with it, never liked it being touched when soft, now I love putting it in her mouth and having her play with it when soft, plus it makes her cum every time, I’m 4.5 inch long and fat when soft, 6.5 inch long and 5.5 fat when hard.
I prefer to call it defence mode and attack mode..
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Hubby is a grower but i wouldnt care either way as its the erect size that counts as long as its not too big.
My OH says the same thing 
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Grower. I don’t even know my exact size when flaccid, who cares. Always been satisfied with my erect size, slightly above avg.
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It’s never been something I’ve worried about but for sure after a cold day out running or on the bike it shrinks - without a doubt. But the partners I’ve been with including my wife have all commented on the girth more so than length anyhow. Especially that last little bit that expands when in if you tense it a litle 
A grower who’s got more confidence about my size and appearance after joining a couple of websites where I make ‘tribute’ photos and videos for women who request them.
The reactions and feedback for what I think is an average 6incher have surprised me in the best way.The suggestions for how they’d use it more so !
However it may vary to do with being ‘cut’ as the Americans say as my head bulges a lot.Wonder if thats a kink for some people?
I no longer worry about my size and as a 73yr old its been a lovely revelation that I can turn women and men on of all ages with a girthy 6 incher.
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Im about 1 inch goes up to a good 61/2 when aroused.
Never bothered me
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61 inches holy cow. How many women have you killed with that 
jk
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I’m a grower. My ex used to say it was like a magic trick
Being a grower myself, it’s not a bad thing at all. Most of the women I’ve been with preferred a grower. and besides if you know how to use it, that’s alllll that matters 
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Depending on the temp in the summer and when I am warm its a shower when its cold its tiny and then a grower.
I think having a grower is a good thing - I like to think that it is a boost to the OH when I can say to her now much she has made it grow and hopefully, all those years ago, it was a surprise for her! 
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my bf is thankfully a grower, he might want to be a shower because of the locker room / changing room embarrasment but selfishly im glad it grows to a ok length for sex because if he was a shower at the size he is soft i dont think our relationship would have lasted as long, theres a diffence between my little baby brian and my bedroom brian
I’m a straight male so I don’t know, but I’m guessing a shower still grows a bit more?
I would imagine that most “showers” have a range of expanding and retracting throughout the day and from soft to hard, but are maybe more inclined toward the hanging closer to full size.
I put myself fully in the grower category but when soft can range from mostly just my head poking out all the way to a floppy 5 or 6 inches. Likewise my balls when cold can shrivel up to like a large apricot tucked up to my undercarriage or when hot can hang like a pair of avocados in a sock.
And that’s I think only if I’m not counting times in proximity to arousal: my flaccid after the morning wood has come down or after an afternoon delight is quite different from a random Tuesday afternoon.
Last thought is that having received a penis pump as a tester and put it through the paces for 30 days it did seem to have an effect on my daily dangle and generally found myself larger soft which I think actually led to greater level of irritation rubbing in the seams of my boxers, etc, instead of being tucked away safely as usual. So maybe not all it’s cracked up to be a shower.
One of my wife’s favorite things is going down on me when I’m soft and feeling me get hard in her mouth.
Of course, one of her least favorite things is going down on me on a day that I’m struggling to respond for any reason and NOT feeling me get hard in her mouth. 
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I’ve always been more of a grower but I have noticed taking ED medicine daily has made me more of a shower. Kind of enjoy it a little.