Haha a girl a few nights ago told me I was being noisy, but I don't think I was - perhaps just in comparison?
I am quite vocal though, mostly with oral, then sex, and sometimes if the masturbation is really good. With masturbation I'm generally only noisy as I get close to, and then come. With sex it's pretty much the whole way through, as with oral - but obviously increasing with intensity.
I make far more noise than O/H - i can only assume I have a stronger climax. He kind of grunts. Most men i think are the same, i dont recall previous boyfriends making much noise. Im sure they are enjoying it though!
My OH doesn't make much noise. I'd like it if he didthough, so I'd know he was loving it, but I wouldn't want him to fake it... I on the other hand make far too much noise most of the time haha
I, too, am generally quiet when I masturbate. I think it's a habit borne of necessity from my younger days when I was living at my parents' house or in university rooms with notoriously thin walls.
Sex is different. At minimum, I'll grunt and groan as the feeling takes me. If my wife and I have the house to ourselves then I'll be more vocal. I, too, cringe at the thought of making "porn film noises", but I try to lower my inhibitions and let out words and noises that I might otherwise hold back.
I've been encouraging my wife as well to release sounds that she might otherwise try to hold in. I'll put on loud music to give us both licence to go for it in the knowledge that nobody else will hear. My wife understands that "going for it" doesn't mean "faking it" -- it's just a case of going with what's there.
We can now start a chain reaction. If my wife starts to moan, then I get more turned on and I start to groan; my sounds then spur on my wife who moans more and harder, and so on. In this case, it's important to put on the loud music before starting, so we can just go freely with the flow and see where it takes us.
I've also noticed that my wife gets turned on by her own sounds when she's masturbating. Until recently, her orgasms would be almost silent, with her mouth wide open but no sounds emerging. I've been encouraging her to vocalise at this point, and the deep cries that my wife has been releasing seem to trigger further orgasms. I think it's partly her realisation that she's sounding hot and sexy as well as feeling hot and sexy, which boosts her confidence and lowers her inhibitions further.