Depends on what rules form a part of the relationship. If there’s not pre discussed plans that something like that is ok then definitely I would call it cheating.
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I tried a few workers many years ago. to be honest I struggle to get it up as I feel so disconnected. Same with massages, as much as I think they are great I would struggle to get hard.
There’s no discount here, you’d have to pay for it 
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Quite honestly I really wouldn’t want one myself and it would feel like cheating on my wife to get a happy finish from a lady. That said, if my wife was receiving a massage from a lady and felt like she needed to finish then I wouldn’t mind this as a one off and it would be a turn-on for me.
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Happy ending or not I am completely weirded out by having a massage by a complete stranger , to me a massage is intimate moment between us as a couple and I’m not a fan of strangers touching me for any reason as much as I love the idea of having a professional one it’s a def no I couldn’t deal .
I guess in your question it comes down to your relationship if both parties agree and it’s discussed first then ok if not it’s def cheating .
I think the basic rule of thumb it’s that if you’re unsure and it gives you pause to ask followup questions, then it’s cheating. The only true caveat might be if it was a planned couples’ massage and the possibility of a happy ending was discussed beforehand.
Oh wow, that is interesting @Simon_101!
I can understand why it would feel intimate, especially if it’s something you have not had before, or if it feels uncomfortable.
Curious, is it something that you would like to try, but you have blockers, or no interest?
Would you have a clothed massage from a professional? If you love the idea, it could be a way to receive massage/touch professionally (non-sexually) and get the benefits without it becoming too intimate.
For me, bodywork is so essential. When I am stressed or fatigued, it’s my first go-to. But I understand it’s not the same for everyone, my partner generally only gets massage if we’re at a spa together or similar.
I just have no interest in experiencing a massage (not sure what the term ‘blockers’ means) and wouldn’t like to try it.
I will try to compose a better reply and link you to it, in fact I might actually create a new topic for discussion and go into more detail. @JustSomeFun
That’s exactly how I found out about the Ego Massage place that I mentioned earlier in the thread. Wife went for a spa day (high end normal Spa in central London, not a “specialist” place) whilst pregnant and the Eastern European lady gave her a special “mum to be massage” that extended to involve a breast massage. I’m not sure of the exact circumstances of how that came about or if anything more happened but clearly my wife accepted the situation and found it quite a turn on having harboured a bit of a desire to try with another lady that she had never acted on. That lead to a conversation about trying a couples massage and I researched the options, one of which was Ego Massage and my suggestion of going as a couple got reduced to me going alone to see what it was like. I always thought it would be something that would come back to bite me on the arse - despite my wife already having had her bit of fun.
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A blocker would be a thought, or belief, that woulds top you from moving forward with something, such as a massage.
If you simply have no interest, then there is no blocker. It’s more if you would like to, but feel you can’t because of {reason}.
Thank you @JustSomeFun great explanation.
Pretty much where I am now.
My sisters husband went elsewhere. He was abusive ( hit her) but also into kinky things like pee play, anal on her which she hated but he forced her. Anyway he went with prostitutes to get more of what he wanted and ended up dying from sepsis as they got him into drugs and he had used a non-sterile needle. By this time she had divorced him and he died alone, he was considerably older than her but was in his early sixties when he died.
ummmmm…how often is SHE getting a message? I think you are missing her message to you.
She only ever gets a massage when we go to the spa together and have a couples treatment. Otherwise, that question would most definitely be more prominent 
Not a nice character and I bet she is happy to be rid of him.
But I think this is an extreme example of finding it elsewhere.
Yes she is. She was his second marriage and it turned out he beat his first wife as well although my sister only that found out after her first beating. He to!d her that he wished she was like me, i would have killed him if it was me. He got what he deserved.
I suppose it depends how you find the elsewhere person. He obviously was not picky.
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Both sexy messaging and a happy ending massage (without prior discussion and consent), I would consider cheating in a relationship. However, I get where your partner is coming from. I have always said cheating is a hard line and if a boyfrirnd ever cheated on me then the relationship is over but… though I’d be pissed, I think I could forgive the happy ending in a massage palour, I wouldn’t forgive an emotional relationship with someone else. With a discussion before hand, I probably would say yes to the massage happy ending. It would be doing it without my knowledge that would be the problem.
Strangely, this did very nearly happen with us. In a previous profession, a job came in to the company my OH worked for requesting they send a number of male surveillance operatives into a massage parlour to get audio and video recordings of what happened. It was very strictly licensed for legit, non sexual massage but reports had been recieved of “Happy Endings” being offered. We discussed it, I was okay with it as part of the job but he didnt volunteer himself for it. Three of his colleagues went in, two were offered and accepted the happy endings, one wasn’t offered. I don’t know what he did wrong .
Would be a no for us. For anyone who discusses and agrees it with their partner, that’s absolutely fair and you do you. For us, even if we did choose to discuss it then the answer would still be that we aren’t comfortable with the other getting this.
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