I answered “other”, the reason being I’d go one step further (which may surprise a couple of people) and say I couldn’t enjoy any kind of massage by a third party as any touching like that would be too intimate for me.
My o/h booked a professional massage for me on my birthday last year as a surprise treat, while we were staying at a luxury hotel & spa. Obviously completely above board it goes without saying, but I ducked out a the last moment and she took my place to avoid wasting the considerable fee.
She absolutely loved it (she’s had quite a few before) and thought I was being ridiculous.
Depends on what rules form a part of the relationship. If there’s not pre discussed plans that something like that is ok then definitely I would call it cheating.
I tried a few workers many years ago. to be honest I struggle to get it up as I feel so disconnected. Same with massages, as much as I think they are great I would struggle to get hard.
Quite honestly I really wouldn’t want one myself and it would feel like cheating on my wife to get a happy finish from a lady. That said, if my wife was receiving a massage from a lady and felt like she needed to finish then I wouldn’t mind this as a one off and it would be a turn-on for me.
Happy ending or not I am completely weirded out by having a massage by a complete stranger , to me a massage is intimate moment between us as a couple and I’m not a fan of strangers touching me for any reason as much as I love the idea of having a professional one it’s a def no I couldn’t deal .
I guess in your question it comes down to your relationship if both parties agree and it’s discussed first then ok if not it’s def cheating .
I think the basic rule of thumb it’s that if you’re unsure and it gives you pause to ask followup questions, then it’s cheating. The only true caveat might be if it was a planned couples’ massage and the possibility of a happy ending was discussed beforehand.
Would you have a clothed massage from a professional? If you love the idea, it could be a way to receive massage/touch professionally (non-sexually) and get the benefits without it becoming too intimate.
For me, bodywork is so essential. When I am stressed or fatigued, it’s my first go-to. But I understand it’s not the same for everyone, my partner generally only gets massage if we’re at a spa together or similar.
I just have no interest in experiencing a massage (not sure what the term ‘blockers’ means) and wouldn’t like to try it.
I will try to compose a better reply and link you to it, in fact I might actually create a new topic for discussion and go into more detail. @JustSomeFun
That’s exactly how I found out about the Ego Massage place that I mentioned earlier in the thread. Wife went for a spa day (high end normal Spa in central London, not a “specialist” place) whilst pregnant and the Eastern European lady gave her a special “mum to be massage” that extended to involve a breast massage. I’m not sure of the exact circumstances of how that came about or if anything more happened but clearly my wife accepted the situation and found it quite a turn on having harboured a bit of a desire to try with another lady that she had never acted on. That lead to a conversation about trying a couples massage and I researched the options, one of which was Ego Massage and my suggestion of going as a couple got reduced to me going alone to see what it was like. I always thought it would be something that would come back to bite me on the arse - despite my wife already having had her bit of fun.
I am married and have zero interest in being involved emotionally with any other woman.
Physically yes, but emotionally no.
As the HL partner it did make me think that one day when we are older and if she has lost interest in all sexual activities, that she might jusy give me permission to find it elsewhere via a worker. Who knows
My sisters husband went elsewhere. He was abusive ( hit her) but also into kinky things like pee play, anal on her which she hated but he forced her. Anyway he went with prostitutes to get more of what he wanted and ended up dying from sepsis as they got him into drugs and he had used a non-sterile needle. By this time she had divorced him and he died alone, he was considerably older than her but was in his early sixties when he died.
She only ever gets a massage when we go to the spa together and have a couples treatment. Otherwise, that question would most definitely be more prominent
Yes she is. She was his second marriage and it turned out he beat his first wife as well although my sister only that found out after her first beating. He to!d her that he wished she was like me, i would have killed him if it was me. He got what he deserved.
I suppose it depends how you find the elsewhere person. He obviously was not picky.
