well just as the title says ... i have been curious about her pegging me but when i brought it up she seems really offended and angry with it any advice you can give me?
lol typical woman
just talk it through with her i mean sex isnt just about her, if you want pleasuring a certain way then she should be happy to try it at least once.
and most strap ons have cliteral stimulation anyway, if she still says no buy a vibrator or dildo lol
good luck
let me know how you get on
Well, I can't speak from personal experience as my wife was amazingly understanding about it. I think you need to talk it through calmly - the usual objections are a) it means your gay or b) its dirty both of which can be dispelled fairly easily. I reckon you need to arm yourself with the arguments against both these points before you tackle the matter again.
As for the gay thing (a common silly comment made on forums when pegging is brought up) I point out that linking types of sexual stimulation to sexual orientation leads to so pretty silly suggestions - for example if a girl likes receiving oral then she is a closet lesbian or if a man likes doing his girl doggy style then he is really attracted to dogs and sheep :-)
The 'it's dirty' thing is something she may need to read about on the web. Some people are convinced that you will end up covered in s#!t but, with only modest care this is completely untrue. If it help I should say that my wife is a doctor and would not indulge in anything that was a problem from this point of view and I have a routine that ensures I'm really clean and ready to go in about 10 minutes.
If she is worried that she will get nothing out of it then you should look at dildos like the feeldoe as this certainly can provide enough stimulation for the wearer to orgasm.
ok thanks guys for your help i mean i have read about Pegging and from what it seems it sounds like it will be enjoyable and well she has fingered my ass before and that feels good but i got her calmed down finaly and i think im going to wait a little bit before i bring up pegging me agian.
the comment of her fingering your ass has confused me, i mean shes kind of condradicting herself.
she wont peg you with a strap on but will with a finger i mean come on a finger is more "dirty" than pegging
i have to agree with gyrator 53 if the argument of "gay" comes up you can say its the same when i finger you - you must be lesbian
if you pleasure her in ways that you might not particularly find comfortable but you do it any way then i think it only fair for her to do the same for you, she might enjoy it
Yes, as Lolly6 says its a bit confusing that she should have such a strong reaction to pegging when fingering is OK. It's important to keep in mind that we are all pre-programmed to like sex or the human race would have died out. We should not be embarrassed by our urges and fantasies and in a good relationship we should be able to discuss them openly with our partners. Its really important to make sure you keep cool when you broach the subject next and just try to probe gently for her objections. Let her do most of the talking - the old interrogation by silence trick :-)
i really wont to peg my partner but he is unsure he lets me put my fingers in but i put a condom over them and lube them up well ive managed for so i dont think it will be to long till i get my way he was un sure about one finger so practise makes perfect
lol i like the philosophy of sex being pr programmed gyrator lol its so true
Just ask until you get your way.... a little alcoholic influence couldn't hurt either. ;)
I have to agree with everything said to Mathrics3000 except for the argument that "if the argument of "gay" comes up you can say its the same when i finger you - you must be lesbian" that is only becuase if a discusion about sex becomes in any way heating *in the wrong way* then the discusion should stop!
I think you should approach the subject carefully, just tell her its not a gay fantasy because you want her to peg you not some hairy bloke from number 12, also I dont quite understand why she will finger you but not use a strap on with you, there are lots of sites with advice about how to have clean safe anal for both men and woman, I am asuming because she fingers you she is not completely closed to the idea, it may just take her some time to get used to the thought of being the one giving not recieving!
Yes, I would agree that a careful approach is the important thing. If it becomes the subject of a row between you it will probably not come out in your favour and will almost certainly make it more difficult to return to the topic later.
It could be a good opportunity to make your feelings towards her very clear - that not only are you not interested in sex with a man, you are not interested in sex with any other woman either. I guess I had so little difficulty getting my wife to try pegging because we both know it's a 'till death us do part' match and I really didn't have to give any assurances.
As Laynie said there are lots of sites to become more informed on this subject including this one !!. My first ever posting on OA "Still unsure" was on much the same subject with doubts and fears....within a few weeks I laughed at my previous thoughts. Talk things through and without pressure try to get her to understand that Guys do have G spots and a lot love this type of sex and that it is no more gay than Rugby League !!
Talking of websites and this topic I was very amused to see that just about the most frequently viewed thread (now over 10,000 views) on the womens-health.com forum is on the topic of pegging despite the few postings that the thread had. Needless to say I felt honour bound to help it along by posting my positive view on the subject and I'm glad that it would seem a lucky gent in New York is going to get his wish as a consequence - isn't the internet wonderful :-)
I'm glad to see that there are a few places where a positive view of pegging as part of a gentle loving relationship are being promoted - there is, for example, a tribe on tribe.net called "Pegging is for Everyone" intended for people with this view. It's not that there is anything wrong with BDSM but the pornographers always seem to include pegging as part of this scene with some weedy little guy strapped to a table squeaking his protests past a ball-gag as something the size of the Hindenburg is pushed into him.
So I think the web could be useful for educating a partner about pegging but perhaps some care is needed in selecting the sites or you could be in for way more than you bargained for :-)
a fascinating discussion. I am in a similar situation and would love for my wife to indulge in this with me. She is really not keen although has been willing to insert a finger or two on occasion. She also has no issue with anal with her as a receiver, I find it confusing and have tried to allay her fears but to no avail.
It might be worth exploring some 'stepping stones' towards pegging that move things on from the fingering that she is already reasonably OK with. We have used butt plugs during conventional sex (which is quite pleasurable!) and maybe she would be happy to try that. Also she might be OK to insert a vibrator or dildo manually into you. Discussing these options might help you explore the nature of her fears
Good luck!
I find it more understandable taht she isnt keen on giving u anal if she isnt keen herself.. I dont know ehy just makes more sence to me... but maybe if you get her slowley used to anal on her she will come round to anal for you....swings and roundabout is what I mean I guess...
She needs to veiw it in a very possitive way, maybe a very slim none scarey anal probe or small bum beads, hopefully if she gets to like it then she will be happier to give it to you when she sees how nice it can be and by the way she needs to be totally relaxed to the idea too other wise she will tense up and will prolly end up sore!
Hope this helps :)
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I've never really understood why some girls are so against it. When my partner asked me I was more than happy to do it for him, then again I'm quiet open minded and enjoy being the dominant one.
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Does anyone know if these used to be some kind of war posters or
something? http://www.liangdianup.com/subpages/lighters_c.htm
Were these sayings on these lighters actually used in war times?
Hi jsienl, wow there's a poser worthy of the sage Bath Bi Guy, and no mistake. If you live in London you might want to try the Imperial War Museum, First World War section should be just the ticket- millions got shafted every which way 1914-1918.
Good luck.
Tallboy....still off up north soon.