Choosing the toy is half the fun - you should sit down together at your computer with a bottle of wine and surf for toys! Most stores out there have a best selling category and highest rated reviews to point you in the right direction. By shopping together you will ensure that the toys will suit you both - and also you'll be sure this is something you both enjoy and he won't feel threatend by your new toy! If you're getting a Rabbit for you, I would recommend that you also buy a cock ring for him!