Help needed for one-off meeting

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Hi all
I’ve just joined today specifically to plead with you all for tons of help.
I,ll try to condense a very long story.

I’m in my early 60s, told I’m attractive and Look young, but I have zero confidence. I’ve been single for over 10 years.
I recently met someone, but there are a few hurdles…he’s only 45, and is home abroad now until end of October, when he will be coming to UK for 2 nights only but I will see him one of the nights as the other night he will be 200 miles away.

He is then moving to Austrailia and we won’t meet again.

We had one night before he went home, and he made it all about me…he was amazing, selfless and I felt worshipped for those few hours.

I want to do the same for him but I’m shy, inexperienced, clumsy, body conscious and scared I,ll make a total idiot of myself and he won’t enjoy it.
Seriously , I’ve only ever had sex in a missionary position, I’ve given oral sex a few times but not sure how to do it well, I’ve tried straddling a man once but I couldn’t seem to do it right.

I have ONE night with this gorgeous man and somehow, some way, I want to TRY to blow his mind… I want it to be all about him. I don’t even really want him to touch me at all, I want to take charge of everything.

I know it’s hard to explain but can you all give me some pointers, how to give good oral, how to take charge, without dying of embarrassment. I will dress in something sexy and stockings, likely with nothing else on but a coat to meet him, and we will likely have to be in a car :frowning: unless my family go out.

Is this a tall order? Will it be ok? Will I be able to carry this off like I’m some kind of actress ( although I’m sure I,ll be turned on too) but I really need advice. Not only on confidence levels for me but on technique, things men like etc etc.

Am I asking too much? Thanks for all your advice if you can help.xx

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It may seem very simple but you can save a lot of time and guesswork by simply asking him. Tell him exactly what you want do, how you want the night to be all about him and ask him what he would love you to do. That we you can go into the night forewarned and prepared. This will definitely help with your confidence issues.

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It sounds like you are a super lady already and very sexy with what you want to wear/not to wear. I’m not sure about him not touching you, I would think him touching you is half the excitement. I’m sure other will have far better advice than I could give so watch this space and good luck. @OneChance

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Like others have said, ask him what he likes and go from there. Try & relax about meeting him else you’ll be all of a flutter when you do finally meet him. Just enjoy your evening together. As for oral, I’m sure the men can answer all there is to know about giving oral & what they like, but I learnt from a lovely gay couple, and by communicating with hubby. Apparently, make sure there is plenty of saliva so keep it wet. Hubby loves oral. I must admit, I do get carried away recently, before it was a bit of an effort, but now, I love it. Licking up & down, licking around the tip and he absolutely loves deep throat. But I guess any tongue action is a great feeling. Hope you both have a fab evening together.

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don’t over think it - let him make it all about you again if that’s what works - that will blow his mind

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Thanks all of you for the advice I appreciate it.

Yes I get what you’re saying about him not touching me, I never really thought about it like that.
I’ve been shopping on here and bought lube ( I never knew it could be used for blow jobs…duh…) and I know he likes his nipples being stimulated so I’ve bought some minty nipple gel. I’ve also bought a body stocking, but I’m not sure if I,ll wear that or a basque and stockings yet.

I hope some of the men can give me a few tips on what they think constitutes a good blow job, and what it’s like to have a woman straddle them, does it hurt/get boring if the rhythm isn’t right? I’m sorry to sound dumb but I’d quite like to master it and that particular position seems awkward to do?

What a great place this is! I’ve never been very good or very interested in sex to be honest, probably because of a sexual trauma in my teens, but this guy has awakened something in me, and the one night I’m going to have with him is important to me.

Thanks all xx

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Basque and stockings for me everytime, if you are comfortable wearing them. @OneChance

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I think being comfortable with whatever position you choose can make all the difference, and comfort can depend on a few physical limitations (like flexibility, size difference, general stamina, etc). There are quite a few examples in the Positions of the Week topic to have a browse of for some inspiration, and they tell you a bit about what each is good for, as well as including a few tips to tweak them better to your preferences. :+1:

And there’s the :peach: :eggplant: Oral Sex Superbowl for a few extra oral tips. :slightly_smiling_face: People like different things, so it’s hard to give a definitive ‘best blow job’ breakdown, but there are plenty of topics discussing it if you have a Search.

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One of the greatest confidence building techniques I was given in therapy is to imagine a person you see as confident, sexy and all the things your aiming to achieve, then for that night step into that persons skin and embrace them as yourself :slightly_smiling_face:

Alternatively on the flip side this guy obviously likes you for you so why not go with it and be yourself. Enjoy the time with him and go with the flow

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+1, every time. Never gets dull!

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The post here worked for me Sexual Goals - #63 by PKH

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There are some awesome threads on here about giving and getting good oral.

Personally, I like to watch. Instead of hiding the whole process, let him see what you are doing. Look into his eyes and and smile. I do like the balls to tip long lick while you look into the eyes, sometimes the hands free job is nice but using hands while blowing is also awesome. Don’t focus too much on the tip as it gets overwhelming. Using a medium grip on his shaft while not sliding over the head of his dick builds pressure pretty quick. Then every once in awhile put him back in your mouth while jerking him. If he’s like most men, it is not going to take long on his first round…
If he is into anal rimming, using a finger or a tongue (if you are into that) makes a very different sensation. However you plan to do it, the finish is pretty important.

Whether he blows on you, in you, in your mouth, or in a tissue will make this mostly memorable. Letting him go in your mouth and then showing it to him and swallowing it will likely make him wanna go again! I think that asking if he wants to go again is important… my OH feels that once I have cum once I am done. I would love to do 2 or 3 shots in an episode but that never happens.

If you take him right to the edge and then switch it up do have him focus on you will make the final load massive and memorable. Like everyone has said, have fun, don’t try too hard and make sure you love doing what you are planning.

Best of luck!

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Sounds to me as if you putting yourself way down . Maybe you’re too good for someone who has such difficult ‘terms’.

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Some great advise in the comments already :ok_hand:

This man sounds like a very lucky man! Also don’t put yourself down or think negatives.
I do understand that overcoming body consious and confidence is easier said than done (my O/H was exactly the same) be confident and make the most of your time.

Communication is key…and as above, just be straight with him. Tell him what you want to do, he will guide you.
When you do get into a new position, don’t worry about anything…just relax and enjoy it.
I say this as my partner still gets anxious trying new position and her worry ruins her experience.

For the Blowjob: What works for me (might not work for others) is when she maintains a nice pace with her mouth, she uses her hands too in rythem with her mouth…which is good.
For me though, the best feeling of all is when I’m cummin in my missus mouth and she keeps gently sucking until I go soft :heart_eyes:

Anyway, I hope you have an amazing time and best of luck :ok_hand:

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Thank you everyone for all your help and suggestions.

I’ve been reading the forum extensively and have found a few interesting tips.

You’ve all given me a lot of help and I’ve just bought a red basque from here to wear, I just need to buy stockings now.

I’m still reading, lol, so will get more tips I’m sure.

I never knew forums like this existed, I thought it was all either porn or hook up forums, but this is informative and honest and I’m sure I’ll have more questions.

Xx

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The red basque sounds great @OneChance combine with some black stockings and some heals. You will be ready for a very good night. The guy is very lucky.