So my husband has had admitted that he has a hotwife/ threesome fantasy and would like to explore this with me. We have talked about it and at first I was a bit shocked. However, after talking about it and roleplaying with toys for MMF threesome etc and showing me porn videos he likes demonstrating Hotwife/ threesome scenarios I am a bit intrigued I must say.
My only objections would be I would want any family/ friends finding out and would therefore require to meet men out of our home town for hotel meets.
I was wondering if anyone could recommend any dating apps/ sites where we would potentially look to find men who would be interested.
I’m not sure what country you’re in. Adult friend finder has a lot of people on there but you have to be very selective on that site and Wade through the many people who will want to join you to find someone decent, in my opinion. You also have to pay to get the features you’d need to be able to do that. You could try just a normal dating app I’d say lots of guys would be up for it.
Fabswingers for sure - though be careful (as with everywhere) of potential fakes.
Would be really interested in how things go/went if you are comfortable in updating as and when you feel like it.
I have done this in the past - just fantastic as long as you stay in control and avoid too much drink as being sober (or sober ish) allows you to remember more
Get to know the other man and have strict rules in place … otherwise enjoy
I would suggest going to a swingers club and being in the environment to see how it feels without the pressure to do anything.
Also, fabswingers is a great place to chat to some people, there are club reviews available on the site. Finding a male 3rd seems to be fairly difficult as lots of people have been let down, which is why I think a club is ideal, as they’ve already made that first step. But chatting in the comfort of your home behind a screen does definitely have an appeal.
Be mindful of your placement of MMF vs MFM, and explicitly tell people what it is that you’re looking for and how you see it playing out.
That really surprises me that it would be difficult to find a solo male to join a couple.
I can see (and agree to) to the difficulty of finding a solo woman, but the other way around I would have thought would be super easy!
@Gareth Many men say they’re up for it and then they scare themselves. I would look for someone well verified by people who are also well verified themselves to put a little more faith in them actually turning up. But thats still not a guarantee.
It helps to make friends on the site that you can get real life recommendations from. If I was looking for a 3rd, although there aren’t any clubs in NI, there are parties and I have a few people that I know I could trust to ask them for an introduction. Who you know, can really go a long way in making it a good experience.
Agree with this.
Crucial thing is to understand each others boundaries and make sure you’re comfortable with it throughout.
Actually doing it vs role play/talking about it is so different. So be comfortable that things might change and remove any pressure.
I totally agree with @taskmaster. Sometimes it’s great in fantasy but in real life it’s different. Communication is a must, talk everything through. Set boundaries and don’t stray from them
I couldn’t help but be intrigued by the topic of hotwives and the fantasies they entail. It’s refreshing to see that my husband is not alone in having such desires.
We’ve come to appreciate the importance of open and honest communication. It’s through these conversations that we’ve discovered shared fantasies and the potential for new experiences.
Considering the idea of exploring the hotwife dynamic has piqued our curiosity. We believe that exploring our desires within the boundaries of trust and respect can lead to a deeper connection and a more fulfilling relationship.
We understand that this path may not be for everyone, and that’s perfectly okay. Each relationship is unique, and it’s essential to find what works best for us individually.
We would greatly appreciate any insights, advice, or personal experiences that you may be willing to share. It’s always valuable to learn from others who have embarked on similar journeys.
