Reading something the other evening and it got me thinking, how does everyone initiate sex at different times.
IE: when one or the other comes in from work, who makes the move when you both get into bed, watching porn ( who starts getting frisky first) etc etc.
Is it always the guy, is it always the woman, do you take it in turns, do you pull a piece of paper from a ‘honeypot’ and just go with what it says.
Be good if you put ages (or approx ages) too, just to see if it is massively different between young and old dependant on embaressment, skill, knowledge etc. This just for fun folks.
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I initiate a lot. I just need it too much to avoid being forward about it. Sometimes I’m as open about just walking up to a partner, dropping my shorts and guiding their hand to the wet spot. In bed, I’ll often squirm up next to or on top of a partner and start kissing.
There’s also obvious, routine times. With my husband, it happens nearly every day in the garage when he gets home from work. Extremely regular, and I’m always in the same position bent over the hood of the same car. We even stopped cleaning up my fluids off the floor, and I just straddle an absorbent mat and empty myself onto it. 
Usually biting the same shop rag to muffle my sounds while I get bred hard.
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Okay, my husband and I are 36 and 34 respectively. I am such a horny woman and the poor man is hunted every day from morning to night whenever I see him. He can rarely initiate but he tries.
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I normally just flash him my tits or say ‘I’m horny’ that tends to work.
Men aren’t that difficult lol a direct approach is always best
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Love it! Works on me too
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I just grab him and say fancy a blowjob.
I’m constantly horny, so it’s mainly me me who initiates it 
on the odd occasion he does beat me to it
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It’s usually me. Unfortunately we are in the middle of a threesome that nobody wants ( menopause) we we have started a bit of a thing called, lets fuck Friday. It generally starts with a few drinks after work and while she showers I’ll put some blankets on the lounge light a few candles grab our toys and load up some good quality porn. The wife is very greatfull that I initiate this as se loves it. It just makes it feel very one sided, but I know it’s the menopause not her
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Oh god, we both initiate but it depends what and how. Sometimes I’ll (35) just initiate with kissing that leads to a blowjob that leads to sex, and other times I’ll be winding him (37) up and he’ll give me that million-Scoville smirk, place his hand around my throat and ask me “what do you want?”. “You” is always the answer to that question.
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" fancy a shag" it either a yes or no . To old to be tip toeing around the subject
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We have been married 37 years, and I don’t think my wife has ever initiated sex. There have been times when it was sort of a given that we were going to have sex, but otherwise she sees it as entirely my job, as much as mowing the lawn or DIY.
It’s a shame. Otherwise, we are very happy and have had some fantastic sex over the years, and still do, but I would so much like her to lead for once, and take the role reversal to extremes.
But it’s fair to assume it ain’t going to happen.
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It’s about 50 50 these days. Used to be more me, but these days, we just grab each other and take what we want. Really works well for us, and I’m always horny because the more sex I have, the more I want.
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As a man, that’s my experience too 
All it takes is wife getting her tits out, or if I am really, really not feeling it some slutty underwear.
I think I’d have to be clinically dead for that to fail.
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Wife flashing her tits does it for me.When we are out at the pub sometimes she will whisper in my ear that she needs a cock inside her and start to lower her top exposing her boobs which always makes my pint disappear super fast.My wife gets horny if i take one of her realistic dildoes and start to suck it.I’m in my 60’s,she’s in 40’s.
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I sense for many younger couples or a few it’s basically like a flip of the coin in who gets there first on initiating it, but it also vastly depends on dynamics as well 
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I’ll add that I’ve noticed body heat and proximity do a lot. Can sense it even in the dark, even half-awake 
Being visibly “ready” also helps. Even though I’m AFAB, I’ve got two solid inches when I’m turned on, and that’s pretty tough to ignore even through thin shorts.
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Kind of similar for me. OH is experiencing menopause and while she still seems to enjoy the sex and is happy, the act of her initiating it is far and few between. I don’t mind most of the time but sometimes it would be nice for it to be a surprise for me.
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Those were the days, unfortunately I have to work a bit harder for it now
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Like cutting the lawn, empty the bins and do the pot washing then maybe get a reward after 
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Yeah, a bit of tidy this, tidy that, put this away, put that away and then I still have to wait weeks. Have to look after myself most of the time
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