We’ve just got our relationship back on a more even keel after a very, very long drought.
We’ve discovered that I like anal (very much) and playing with toys.
it’s just that there’s this nagging unfulfilled part of me that wants to explore the other side of my sexuality before it gets to the point where its too late and I’m full of regrets.
we’ve been together a long time and met very young, and I’m kind of panicking that I’m going to be, let’s say, eating custard cream biscuits for the rest of my days, and not get the chance to fully sample the biscuit box.
I don’t know how to approach it, if it’s even something that could be on the cards.
Any thoughts or suggestions?
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You could always ask what there fantasy is.
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Consider whether or not your partner would be part of the experience. If so, you could watch some ffm porn (intentional order) and tell them you think its really sexy. Plant the seed but have the actual discussion outside of the bedroom.
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Hmm, if you’ve only just fixed your relationship and things are going well I wouldn’t want to risk wrecking everything. I assume your partner is also very pleased with your new found interests?
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I think so. Its hard to tell at times.
But I think a part of me needs to feel I’ve not missed out on anything and I worry that I’ll always be thinking that if I don’t at least ask, try and have the opportunity to say no that’s not for me or whatever.
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You could perhaps ask if he finds porn with two lesbians exciting and wonder what it feels like. 
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I’ll never look at a biscuit box the same way again, especially a custard cream 
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Do you prefer chocolate fingers or a party ring? 
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I had to laugh at your post it wasn’t laughing at you, just loved the way you put it with the biscuits, loved the way you described it lol 
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Personally I love a custard cream but could be tempted by a particularly round pair of jammie dodgers 
If your relationship is only just back on track, i would be inclined to hold off on branching out to explore another partner, same or different sex.
It might be achievable down the track once things are solid
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Hi @SinfulBlanche
I think talking about sex can show a partner that you‘re interested in the health of your relationship in a wider sense, and are prepared to invest in it. For top tips on how to approach this, if you haven’t already looked at these, I really recommend Lovehoney‘s advice section, particularly this one: How to talk about your desires
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Oh my goodness! Defo chocolate fingers all the way especially when they’ve been in the fridge 
How about you?
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I try to avoid biscuits nowadays but digestive with cheddar cheese on top would go down well at the moment. 
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As with anything in life I would suggest head on is the best way to to tackle it
What about the pink wafers they have disappeared? I’m starting a topic on peoples fav biscuits give me a min lol
To get back on topic, there would be a big difference between watching one’s partner get off with another woman or taking part in a threesome, and letting her have a girlfriend with no involvement oneself. I think I’d find the last rather frustrating and feel I was missing out, at the least I’d want to hear the details of what they’d been up to. 
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Oh I would be absolutely clear that it would be a casual thing rather than a relationship. I’m not intending to turn it into a poly relationship.
And of course I’d share what it was like, that would be part of the deal.
I just think for me it would help tick some of the boxes that aren’t currently getting ticked, so ultimately he would win by having (I hope) a truly fulfilled partner.
Have you thought about how you would feel if he says no to this, especially if he’s not going to be included in the act?
Is this a deal breaker for you?
Something to think about.
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Ooh a cheesy biscuit type person aye?
Last week I was craving digestives while dealing with a groggy cold lol