We’ve just got our relationship back on a more even keel after a very, very long drought.
We’ve discovered that I like anal (very much) and playing with toys.
it’s just that there’s this nagging unfulfilled part of me that wants to explore the other side of my sexuality before it gets to the point where its too late and I’m full of regrets.
we’ve been together a long time and met very young, and I’m kind of panicking that I’m going to be, let’s say, eating custard cream biscuits for the rest of my days, and not get the chance to fully sample the biscuit box.
I don’t know how to approach it, if it’s even something that could be on the cards.
Any thoughts or suggestions?
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You could always ask what there fantasy is.
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Consider whether or not your partner would be part of the experience. If so, you could watch some ffm porn (intentional order) and tell them you think its really sexy. Plant the seed but have the actual discussion outside of the bedroom.
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I think so. Its hard to tell at times.
But I think a part of me needs to feel I’ve not missed out on anything and I worry that I’ll always be thinking that if I don’t at least ask, try and have the opportunity to say no that’s not for me or whatever.
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I’ll never look at a biscuit box the same way again, especially a custard cream 
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I had to laugh at your post it wasn’t laughing at you, just loved the way you put it with the biscuits, loved the way you described it lol 
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Personally I love a custard cream but could be tempted by a particularly round pair of jammie dodgers 
If your relationship is only just back on track, i would be inclined to hold off on branching out to explore another partner, same or different sex.
It might be achievable down the track once things are solid
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Hi @SinfulBlanche
I think talking about sex can show a partner that you‘re interested in the health of your relationship in a wider sense, and are prepared to invest in it. For top tips on how to approach this, if you haven’t already looked at these, I really recommend Lovehoney‘s advice section, particularly this one: How to talk about your desires
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Oh my goodness! Defo chocolate fingers all the way especially when they’ve been in the fridge 
How about you?
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As with anything in life I would suggest head on is the best way to to tackle it
What about the pink wafers they have disappeared? I’m starting a topic on peoples fav biscuits give me a min lol
Oh I would be absolutely clear that it would be a casual thing rather than a relationship. I’m not intending to turn it into a poly relationship.
And of course I’d share what it was like, that would be part of the deal.
I just think for me it would help tick some of the boxes that aren’t currently getting ticked, so ultimately he would win by having (I hope) a truly fulfilled partner.
Have you thought about how you would feel if he says no to this, especially if he’s not going to be included in the act?
Is this a deal breaker for you?
Something to think about.
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Ooh a cheesy biscuit type person aye?
Last week I was craving digestives while dealing with a groggy cold lol
Omg!! The pink panther biscuits? I used to adore them as a kid and still do enjoy them occasionally 
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OK, you’ve sucked me into this one with this line:
I think breaking this into 2 parts:
Are those boxes ones that can only get ticked by someone of the same sex? Or is it something you’re partner isn’t doing for you?
There is a potential flip side to this, especially after a very long drought. It may have the adverse affect, and make him feel like he is unable to fulfill you himself. That could knock his confidence, and maybe add a whole new world of complications after the very very long drought.
I think what I’m saying is to take time to check in with yourself on that side, in terms of what it is you really want. The other suggestion would be careful how to put things to the other half, and that it is something you would like to experience so you can feel you’ve lived life fully.
I’d avoid suggesting he’d be a winner as you’d be coming home truly fulfilled, that might drop like a rich tea that’s been over dunked! 
It’s not a deal breaker, no. Id be sad but I guess I’d have to suck it up and deal with it.
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Appreciate the insight, thank you.
Mr isn’t into oral sadly, so I don’t get it at home. I do love a pair of boobies and the thought of also eating out a lady is something I really get turned on over.
So it’s just about getting some action that I don’t see, and experiencing something I think about a bit.
Obviously if it’s a no, I’ll have to accept that and move on. I just wondered how I’d even go about posing the question… 
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Ah gotcha.
Obv that second experience you need another fem for then.
Would there be any scenario you could integrate partner with that fantasy? Maybe a club or something? If he were to see how much you enjoyed oral, it may encourage him to give it a try.
Out of interest, is it all oral he has no interest in? Or just giving?
Maybe the starting point, as @Serpentwand mentioned, is around the oral, how much you miss it, and how those thoughts have then developed to wanting to experience eating puss yourself.
It might highlight how much of a thing it is for you in those terms, and maybe help you both explore what is putting him off around fulfilling those needs you have.
One last Q - if Mr was to have a change his mind and give you oral, would that have any impact on your desires with another F?
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