Hi all, I’m new to this forum, I have never done anything like this before. Since I started a new relationship nearly 3 years ago with the first person I had sex with has brought out a side of me I’ve not seen since I was with him in 1995. Apart from him I’ve only slept with 2 other man my ex of 21 years and a regular hook up. When I lost my virginity it wasn’t romantic it was exciting as we went for a walk on the beach and it just happened, sex with him was good. We parted ways and I worked in a pub and had a regular hook up then my ex. Sex with them I found very boring. It was always about them. Then I stopped having sex with my ex that was our marriage for the last 10 year. Back in 2021 my partner got in touch we meet up and the first day we had sex
my god I realised I had been missing out, that was the first time I’d come and had an orgasam, let’s just say sex with my first love has had many firsts for me. I am so comfortable with him, there one problem I am always horny and I want to be able to masterbate in front of him but I don’t know how to initiate it. Any advice would be great
Just have an honest conversation say what youd like to try.
Or how about wearing some aexy lingerie and pull.him.upstairs to the bed and let.him watch you touch yourself. Dont let him touch you and if he says anything tell.him he.can only.play with himself while.he watches you
@bill.rebecca23 this is something I do to frustrate my husband- do it … he will love it
Be naughty it’s good
Did you just start doing it one day xx
If i were him i would love it if you just said something like "Would you like to watch this?"and just started.
Well, I just grab my Womanizer and start, but I can never masturbate when he’s around because even when he says he’s tired, he ends up on top of me anyway because he can’t resist 
You might ask him if he is interested in mutual masturbation. Mutual masturbation can be beneficial if there is consent and agreement between the partners, and it will help you to learn more about what arouses him. In mutual masturbation, both partners are in the same room when it occurs. The partners may participate in each other’s masturbation, or each partner may just face each other and masturbate separately. In the participation scenario, the partners will be lying on the bed side by side. The man would turn his head towards the woman and lick and/or suck her nipple. He could massage her breasts and kiss her and touch her sensitive zones. The woman could reach over to the man’s penis and stroke it tenderly. She could also use a bullet vibrator to stimulate her clitoris. The man could also aid in the orgasm by tracing a bullet vibrator in a circle around her clitoris, either with the clitoral hood in place or with the clitoral hood pulled back. For the orgasm climax, the woman could use clitoral stimulation to orgasm. The man could use penis stroking to climax and ejaculate. Therapists recommend mutual masturbation to build intimacy in the couple, and it also allows the couple to learn the best arousal methods for both partners. Sex therapist Helena Nista created the YouTube video, “What Is Mutual Masturbation & How To Do It”, that provides more information on this.
That sounds very hot 
@bill.rebecca23 - I like to dominate in the bedroom with lots of spanking and pegging that I do to my husband and in the past I tied him to the bed - and laid on his chest with my get around his head - then I used toys to set myself off so he could see everything just inches away from his face
We have been playing like this for about 7 years now - originally our sex life was boring but we spoke one day and he wanted to do some things and I was honest - and now we do it all — nothing is off the table - he loves to be dominated and wear lingerie - I love to oblige
My husband.loves me.masterbating
in front.of him. and seeing me r
Ubbing my clit
Everyone is different - but if my wife came up and started doing that I would get so turned on. The big thing is have the conversation with him. I know I just started getting us toys and I was apprehensive but she was open to it so you never know. Also maybe ask him to just start masterbating in front of you. You can’t just keep doing the same thing over and over - change things up.
I think a great suggestion would be mutual masterbation. Try suggesting it to him and see how he reacts
“JUST SIT” and I’m sure that would be enough!
Aw true first love 
@bill.rebecca23 … it’s awesome that you’ve (re)discovered the wonder of good sex. Proof again that it’s never too late.
Your man will love anything you want to do (for the most part). Just talk to him. If he’s as generous and attentive as you say he is during intimacy/sex, he’ll most likely be over the moon to hear what you want to get up to with him.
I LOVE being there when my wife has an orgasm, whether I’m responsible or not. As others have said, mutual masturbation is awesome. Sometimes I masturbate for my wife cos she might be low on energy but still a bit horny … she loves watching.
Definitely just start masturbating and say “watch this”. “I’ve wanted to show you what I do”.
You can also invite him to join you in masturbation as I’m sure he will be so turned on watching what you are doing that he will soon get to it himself.
Go for it girl. Enjoy!!
According to another thread you appear to have no issues sending videos of you masterbating, so what’s the issue moving to the real thing?
Be honest, you could when he falls in a light sleep start by masturbating and giving a nudge saying hey I’m doing something I want you to watch! Ps he will find this quite hot!
Some things need no words…
Get on top of him and get up close to his face and start going to town. He will love it - if not have a conversation everyone needs something different and talking makes a huge difference. I like this because of A, I don’t like that because of B. While you are doing your things - tell him what you want him to do. Tell him why - I love seeing you do X it gets me sooo … . .