How to bring up I want to try pegging to my girlfriend

I have recently found out I want to try being pegged by my girlfriend. It’s not something we have ever been close to doing before so would be brand new to the both of us.

Although she is usually the dominant type.

How could I bring this up to her, or mention it? I don’t want it to come across the wrong way.

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Start by asking her how she’d feel about prostate stimulation and anal play on you. She might be more open to that initially than jumping straight to pegging, which can feel like a much bigger role-reversal.

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I hadn’t even thought about that, maybe look at toys on here together for that sort of thing?

I always recommend browsing LH together for toys! My wife and I have found some of our favorites that way. Leaving aside the toys themselves, it can be a really good way to start the conversation about trying something new!

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Thank you for your input, will definitely give this a go!

Have a read of The Lovehoney Forum’s Guide to Pegging! (Wiki). It answers the basic questions… though could probably be added to if any pegging afficionados are about.

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We bought a butt plug and OH enjoyed it so I’m wondering if this is something I need to ask him if it’s something he wants to try :thinking:

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Same here I don’t know how to bring it up, she have said that anything goes up there is wrong :man_shrugging:

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Guess the best way is to just tell her maybe after having had sex.

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Maybe you could try masturbating with a dildo or something first, and tell her how much you enjoy it and then bring it up that way that you’d be interested in trying pegging with her.

I always think this conversation would be easier if you have performed anal sex on your OH or just some sort of anal play as you then have a starting point for the conversation wondering what it would be like if she did that to you - after all, the principles are the same - lube required, taking your time, lube, going slow, lube! And then mention the whole world of prostate simulation and see where it goes - it seems to help if you can explain the benefits to the male!! We’ve touched on the anal play thing and my OH does understand why a male would enjoy it and did but me some beads but we’ve yet to take it further together to see what it is like - not sure if it will ever end up as pegging but from little butt plugs and beads do bigger dildos grow - or something like that!!! :smiling_face_with_horns:

My hubby said he wanted to try butt plugs on both of us. However he backed out and said that he had changed his mind and didnt want to as he didnt think it was right to be putting things up there. Still thinking i might try a butt plug to get that full feeling during piv but wont be going as far as anal.

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I think it is a bit of a shame that people don’t feel comfortable or feel it’s right about putting things up their bum - it is a personal choice and it’s not without it’s risks obviously but you just feel sometimes that people are missing out on something they might like if they tried it but it is great that you had the conversation and I hope you do get to try it out for yourself! :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

When i wanted to try it i made hints like oh im gonna look at some toys for us to try ect. Then i brough up about strap ons and how they are more common than you would think. When then started talking about it and I slid in would u ever want to try that our of curiosity. Shes said yes then i said i would try and the rest is history.