Hello and welcome @IcyT 
I agree with @Calie. If she’s unsure and reluctant pushing her on the issue may put her off completely. The advice about lube and extras is great. 
Another useful tip is to read the forums together. I often read snippets out to Mrs Chimp, and we have a chat about what other people are getting up to (though we don’t always indulge in it ourselves ). And even though we love sex toys we’re still pretty vanilla, so don’t think you automatically sign up for a dungeon just by browsing the sex toy section.
Here’s our Collection if you fancy a browse.