Normality these days is most women own a sex toy but I hardly hear of straight men especially in relationships owning a flashlight. Women I’m just curious to know about your thoughts if you knew a guy you know or your partner had one
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Seeing as the forum rules state these and all the topics are open to everyone to respond to and not just one section of the forum population I will put my 2p into to start the conversation.
Couples play where you both play or having your wife watch you while you play is hot.
Playing knowing your OH has brought it for you to masturbate with is hot
There are many topics talking about preferences and how to use them here.
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I personally wouldn’t have a problem. I rather like the noise they make. The transparent ones are especially great for obvious reasons 
(I’ve previously bought 5 fleshlights) - If I’m allowed lots of toys, then why can’t a partner. It works both ways 
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We don’t see them as my toy or his .we call them ours as we both get pleasure from using them together or on our own .he likes it when I tell him about when I have played with a toy solo and vice versa but mainly use them together .toys only become a problem in the relationship if one person hides them from the other .totally understand if one person in the relationship isn’t into them as some people just don’t feel they need them or maybe feel that they aren’t enough for the one using them and may feel threatened by them, they probably are not the best match together sexualy, but that is a topic I’m sure for another thread I think.getting back to my answer him having one isn’t a problem at all and love to use it on him as well as knowing he uses it on his own.thats what they are for anyway
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I played with a stroker with my husband earlier. Why am I going to be jealous? I have toys too. It only becomes a problem if they prefer the toy to me, or if they insinuate it to try and make me jealous.
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A fleshlight, to me, is the nearest equivalent of a dildo.
And I really don’t appreciate hypocrisy.
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Yes I own a clear one.
My partner has vibes and we combine using them on both ourselves and swap toys over and use them on each other.
We also enjoy watching each other use them.
Really don’t see any issues or differences, other than the obvious anatomy differences involved.
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No, it wouldn’t bother me a partner using one. I would be slightly jealous of the vag toy that it vibrates and mine doesn’t 
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Well, I guess I’d ask her when she needed me available to put it to work!
Although we do have a Fleshlight dildo in the closet waiting to be tested and reviewed (heck of a month we’ve had) so I guess we’re getting to the point we gotta specify what kind of Fleshlight we’re looking at!
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Silverfoxdad - I’m sorry but this one has me doing the whole rotflmao and I don’t normally cuss. I was given a flashlight decades ago. So I could see outside in the dark. And why in the world would a straight man NOT have a flashlight? For that matter why wouldn’t everyone? A crooked man will. Darn thieves. Probably have better flashlights.
Okay for the thread topic and not the post - still laughing, oh my gosh.
How would you feel if your partner asked if she could buy you one? Yeah, that’s my wife. And no I am being very serious about this. Still laughing at the OP though. Flashlight - oh my… I digress once again - ugh I can’t stop.
My wife wants to buy a fleshlight or something along those lines for our Anniversary??? Yeah, I am thinking what you’re thinking. What in the world? I love my wife. I love our sex. I love her sexual mind but a fleshlight, really? Good thing I read everyone else’s posts, especially the wives point of view. Make a lot more sense now. ty all
My wife loves me when I use mine, so if she wants to get me another one she can 
I guess it’s just depending on how both of you interact.
She particularly loves to watch me use it while she’s using her vibes, so go for it, why wouldn’t you?
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My wife actually bought me my first one, during her pregnancy, as she knew she would be feeling “big” and maybe not as sexy as usual. Of course, I reassured her, she got it anyways and enjoyed seeing me using it many times since
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@Hannahnim It may not vibrate but i bet it does other things that a Fleshlight is unable to do and therefore is far better.
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I wanted to buy hubby a fleshlight to try and help with his ed, but he said no he did not want one. I have asked several times just in case he had changed his mind but still no. I did buy him a male stroker which I sometimes use on him and it works well to get him hard. He does not use anything though without me being there. He is partial to a mains wand though.
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The OH knows that I have a few and she will use one on me from time to time.
Her favorite is a transparent one so she can see the reaction of my cock within it and the inevitable cum spurt at the end, vindication that she’d done a good job.
The inclusion of a sex toy is great as long as it is not used at the exclusion of your partner. The toy is just a variation of masturbating, which I think is healthy as long as you are there for each other when you both want intimacy. I would always prefer to be with my wife as opposed to self care, and she knows that.
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My wife finds it extremely hot. The Ice Lady is see through so you can… see through to what’s going on inside 
The other one was a cheap one from an online retailer that we’ve named Biryani due to the colour. It’s like having a threesome without another person
I’d assume it was my birthday or Christmas present .. or maybe she’d taken clit enlargement a little too far..
but making the question more pertinent . . if my partner had a vibrator or dildo .. well she’s got quite a few and it turns me on. Not many things sexier than a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to tell you, show you or do it herself.
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My wife has no issue with me having and using my fleshlights, in fact she finds it a turn on watching me pleasure myself with it
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