We’ve always felt that human sexuality and sexual practices is a fascinating subject and have been reading about many aspects.
This post is designed to try and kick off a discussion as we find everyone’s views so interesting!
It’s a broad topic but some of the other topics we’ve been browsing through show some fascinating insights and connections.
For example, many have commented that Noise of neighbours having sex: turn-on or creep-out? hearing others having sex is a turn on. There are also plenty of topics around watching porn, which suggest that humans like seeing others having sex and in turn, that arouses them to want to do the same. We recently took a kink ‘test’ and voyeur and exhibitionist came out strongly.
Society puts certain boundaries in place, some perhaps good, some not so good! So our question, if there really is one, is around how you see your ‘place’ in the great swathe of human sexual activity. Are you liberated in your own mind? Do you like/dislike some of societies attitudes toward sex and sexuality? Do you feel comfortable with it all, wish it was different etc?
Very interesting post and for me the short answer would be just do you and not give a damn about what the others think as it’s your life and you only get to live it once so it’s not worth wasting time trying to conform to others ideals of how people should be or act… as long as you get joy and satisfaction from whatever you do then it’s the main thing that matters
I feel that while taboos and social norms often exist for good reasons (eg. necrophilia, paedophilia) , not all taboos are justified and/ or can be anachronistic (eg. promiscuity is viewed different in an era of improved sexual health, family planning options, and somewhat improved female agency and advocacy)
Sexual fetishes are often an expression of desires that have nothing to do with a person’s everyday lived experience. They can be acted on as a fantasy role-play activity with reference to pastiche, irony or otherwise just plain silly fun.
I don’t judge people for their fetishes or kinks. It’s not always relevant to who you are.
Just please don’t lecture me on morality based on my sexual preferences, while indulging your own equally wild sexual kinks!
While I’m not judgemental about people being into particular lifestyles, I do feel there have to be boundaries. How we show up in everyday relationships, how we are around other non-involved & non-consenting people (eg. children), and how we negotiate sexual relationship boundaries are all important considerations.
With freedom there is also responsibility.
Basically, I feel my ‘place’ is to be responsible for myself and my relationships with others (principally my wife), to advocate for my boundaries, and for my pleasures, and to respect other people’s boundaries, feelings, and pleasures. Societal norms and boundaries are just another macro-scale layer of this.
Between consenting adults, anything goes…or does it?
Every individual has limits and boundaries, these should be followed by others in any form of sexual relationship. Otherwise, it’s abuse.
I’d like there to be more acceptance of others ‘kinks’, but then would that then not be a 'kink’
I think sexual experiences lead into different things you’re curious about, my sexual preferences have changed greatly over the years, I also tend to analyse porn, I try and think where the fetish stems from no matter how strange they are
I also really enjoy watching a couple having hot sex it’s just as much s turn on as actual being that other partner…I truely feel of you enjoy sex it’s all good
@Strnlce ive mentioned in another thread that having someone watch us online is something we’ve talked about recently and will be something we do in the near future when we find the right site etc, we did it years ago and mrstoysrus really loved it when people asked us to do things they wanted to see, the only thing we’d have to be careful about these days is showing our face because we are in different jobs now, which things like that would be career suicide if someone saw
Not sure about the broad spectrum of humanity. Too big. But in my family and relationships, I have a purpose - I’m a warm companion to help them relax, and a nice place to leave excess fluids.
Our sex life is an adventure in which we both are exploring and making decisions on how we take on new experiences. From the beginning of our journey we have taken many different
directions some have enhanced our relationship and some we have not liked but in experiencing them we have understood what we enjoy and that communication has strengthened our relationship. This is what human sexuality means to us, an adventure of discovery and practice in perfecting your skills.
Human sexuality is a most interesting and yet complicated area of life.
Too much too little, this interest and that interest can often be a huge turn on and yet offend so many.
What goes through our minds when thinking about sex, what gets us going, what fantasies we have are most often shared by many others, the only thing getting in the was are the boundaries we put in place o stop us moving forward.
Would you walk up to a total stranger and tell them in a conversation or not.
Groups of men and women look round and scan their environment and will pick out people of interest and talk between themselves about what they like about them, what they would fantasise about with them, without even approaching them to have the conversation in person.
Might get slapped daft, arrested or even lucky.
Ok… long post but I don’t see a specific question. I live rural so goose season sounds like WW2 rather than having a head board banging against my bedroom wall. Kinks are fun to explore but just that… to explore. Porn is fake as crap and part of the reason I got out of the adult entertainment industry years ago. Voyeur and exhibitionist very fun. I don’t make any excuses for my sexuallity or interests. I am just who I am and my wife accepts that as is.
Reading through this discussion again because there is something about it that peaks my interest. RODGER_THE_DODGER reply I think was great and very thoughtful and certainly on the right track but I also think there is more to it.
