A little while ago put of stress and frustration I vented on here how me and my husband are desperately trying to get him citizenship and the right to work.
Today we were notified we were denied. Thousands of dollars put into and 3 years of trying and we've been denied.
And now our worse fear, the thing that terrifies me more than anything else is now more possible than ever. I may loose my husband to deportation. He may be sent back to a place where he spent only the first few months of his life, where he doesn't even know the language and has no place to stay safe.
I can not breath. I'm stuck at work trying to hold myself together but my lungs feel like they are on fire.
This is so sad to read. Don't you have an option to appeal the decision.
We are scrambling right now to try and come up with some way to make this right. We were notified that we will recieve a letter in the mail that will explain every reason why we're were denied. If my tax return isn't signed by the government for marrying him then I will of course use all of it to hire a lawyer.
I'm hoping no actions are taken against us for the time being. I'm hoping they allow him to stay. We are trying so hard to do everything we can.
Gosh, that is so unbelievable! In a country where loads of illegal immigrants get away with "citizenship marriages" for as "little" as 10k USDs not even living under the same roof, a true marriage gets denied?!?!?! Wow, that is so twisted! Sorry! I do hope you can fight this!
So sorry to hear you're having such a horrible time of it. Really hope you can appeal and get things sorted.
Im really sorry things are going so badly. I hope you can get things sorted.
Oh I really hope something works and you manage to stay together Xx
Huge huge hugs Xx
This is so sad to read.. let us know what happens. Thoughts are with you both during this time. This must be absolutley terrifying :( x
Oh this is terrible news! I'm real sorry things haven't turned out for the best for all concerned. Hugs being sent x
Oh no I hope you can appeal this decision or sort something out! Not a fair outcome at all. Sending support and hugs x
Thank you everyone, I can't tell how much your encouragement and kind words mean to us. We are hoping that there is still a way to appeal this and that hopefully this will not end in deportation. But we just can't help but worry right now. I'm praying that we will at least have the holidays to spend together as a family and tag if he does get deported he finds shelter. I'm so terrified. I'll be so lost without him and I can not even stomach the thought of how traumatic this may be to our daughter. I feel so lost right now in what to do.
Fight as hard as you can, get as many people and charities to help you as you can and try your best to not worry too much (almost impossoble I know).
Its an awful thing they are putting you through but I think its safe to say everyone here is behind you.
So sorry to hear this, I really hope that you can find a way to work this out and stay together. Sending lots of hugs and positive thoughts xx
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Thank you everyone, I can't tell how much your encouragement and kind words mean to us. We are hoping that there is still a way to appeal this and that hopefully this will not end in deportation. But we just can't help but worry right now. I'm praying that we will at least have the holidays to spend together as a family and tag if he does get deported he finds shelter. I'm so terrified. I'll be so lost without him and I can not even stomach the thought of how traumatic this may be to our daughter. I feel so lost right now in what to do.
WTF? Excuse the language. You have a child together and they still don't believe it is a REAL marriage? It is just shocking! Fight it with all you've got. It's so unfair!
I'm so sorry to hear this, it breaks my heart to think of a family being broken up like that and I can't even begin to imagine how you must feel, I really hope something works out and you can all stay together. *hugs* xx
Oh gosh this is so horrible to read and unbelievable in this day and age! I hope that you find out why it was denied and fight and win against this corrupt system. I'm so sorry to hear this and my thoughts are with you both and your daughter *hugs and good wishes sent your way*
Was going to put something along similar lines as era. I mean it's awful anyway, but the fact you have a child together is even worse. How can they justify splitting up a family?! I feel for you, huge hugs xx
Can't you contact your local mp, papers, petition on social media? Get your story out there and rally some extra support.
I am so so sorry to hear that, I really do wish you all the best and I hope everything does work out xxx
Thank you everyone. We know of just one charity near us and we have been trying to get a consultation with them. It's just really hard finding the time to fit within their schedule when I'm the only transport we have and I'm always either at my full time or part time trying to keep us a float. I will be calling them once again once we know for sure why we were denied. I do not understand why we have to wait for the letter to come in the mail. The only information they would give us is that we are denied. I feel that we may be stuck for a while though. We recently have been struggling more than usual to get by. There is a new form I can petition since we are married but I don't have the money to pay for the outrageous fees that come with it. To think even after him having done all his school here (he was brought over as an infant), us being in a relationship for 5 years and having a 2 year old daughter whilst submitting all evidence we had was not enough. Going through this has just made me feel so terrible. I can't even imagine how many other families have had to go through this. I'm feeling better having to get to talk about it and cry it out. Now I'm just anxious to see where this puts us.