Is pegging safe?

Hi, my GF recently pegged me again after many years of nothing. It was amazing, we did it with her taking me from behind with a LH curved dildo pointing down. To hit p spot. She got faster and harder as it went on, it could feel a slightly uncomfortable feeling but in the heat of the moment I couldn’t tell her to stop, I was not in pain. I came big time, it was unbelievable. Afterwords she admitted that she came as well. :flushed: my question to you all is, is this safe?
Would there be any chance of piercing my rectum wall? I looked at anatomy online images and the rectum seems to curve the other way. Dildo should be facing up when taking it from behind. We did it the other way as it’s what I’ve read on here.
Your advice would be much appreciated.

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I don’t think anyone can give you an absolute guarantee that you won’t damage yourself and if you google it, google will tell you your toes will fall off or something ridiculous.

The main thing to ask yourself is are you in any pain? You weren’t at the time but has that changed?

Dildos are not usually rigid, there will be some give in them and they’re normally not massively curved either. It may have been uncomfortable if your partner went too hard too soon for you.

My guess is that you’ll be grand but if you’re more comfortable with the dildo curved up then do that.

Hopefully someone who receives will be able to reassure you better.

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You wil find a lot of pegging recievers on this forum, many of whom regularly take very big dildos. Providing you are properly prepared with plenty of lubrication there should be no problem. If you intend to take a dildo which is larger than life size it might be a good idea to pre-stretch with a butt plug for a while before the actual pegging.

Soreness after a long session is not unusual as the rectum is not self-lubricating and most lubricants dry out after a while. If you start to feel sore stop and add some more lubricant then go again.

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For me, if there was no blood involved during or after and you both enjoyed …

Of course if things get too violent down there then damage can/will occur but perhaps just have a safe word?

@rockstar , the bottom does self-lubricated to an extent (Goblet cell - Wikipedia), I didn’t know what the cells doing the production were called but anyone who has done a long anal session will have seen the mucus on the inserted object when it comes out.

Of course lube at the start is critical to avoid pain and damage, with repeated application but after a while the body starts generating its own lubricant.

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Hi
This is what we used.

Don’t think we’ll go for anything bigger as I’m not sure I would receive more pleasure?

Think I’ll stick to the non realistic types as this is our preferred look.

Not sure to go curved or straight type in the future?

I’ll see what happens next time with dildo pointing up when taking it from behind.

Hope it’s soon.

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just remember she has no sensory feedback,
it’s just a piece of silicone.
and the only way she can know what’s going on is to communicate before, during, and after.
besides that, it sounds like you both enjoy it,
so go at your own pace,
lube,
communication,
and have fun.

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If you take all the safety precautions and use plenty of lube it certainly would lower chances of any damage occurring but there is always gonna be some risk.

Defo make sure to only use toys what are meant for pegging and in the proper way as advised on instructions :nerd_face:

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That’s not something that I’ve ever experienced and I’ve had some long pegging sessions.

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You can use a syringe to insert lube to help, him lying on his back missionary style (at the correct height, tie his legs back?) can help in terms of watching his face for feedback?

I went to the Ruby Ryder webinar and it was really good at explaining things like that, part of it is to do with the different levels of sensitivity of the prostate. Depending on the level you may feel more positions or approaches more intensely. I had a similar experience with a metal toy, like you say, it wasn’t pain but the intensity bordered on scary. That was with “head on” direct stimulation.

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Well it does, I guess you just aren’t stimulating your Goblets enough :slight_smile:
Certainly happens with me.

Communication, communication, COMMUNICATION! Stop if you are in pain, stop if you feel unsure and be sure to use lots of lube.

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Love rubys podcast so informative

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Tried solo yesterday with the same toy. I stuck it to column of sink in bathroom. I backed on to it with curve pointing down. Used plenty of lube. Got going and same feeling started to occur after a minute or so. It’s a strange feeling, very intense. Not pain but you have to go on. Can’t explain it. I started to drip. I stopped and swapped curve around so now pointing up.
Totally different feeling. No way near as intense but easier to take. With it this way I could go on longer. As I got deeper and faster I could feel the same feeling building again but not so intense.
I came but was different.

Maybe we could use this dildo below and have it pointing down as it is not as long.

I’m not sure if I could handle the first one pointing down again with GF pounding me. I neary passed out.

It might be too long and as we’re quite new to it would not want do any damage or am I being too concerned?

This was my first dildo.
I still use it and enjoy it. Mostly use it for warming up to a bigger girth dildo.
Its not a race to see how big you can get in. But the enjoyment you get from what you do have in at the time

The car analogy really helped me understand the different ways of stimulating the prostate and why a slight change in angle or approach can have such a dramatic effect. Highly recommended, all very discreet, and responsive to questions. I feel a lot more clued up and when one day we do get the chance to try again it will be better for the both of us!

Had you tried anal before trying with your partner? Any plugs or fingers? The uncomfortable feeling that you’re getting could just be because its new to you and you just don’t know how to describe it or label it. Or it might not be that at all.

Your partner may have gotten a bit carried away with the pounding and using the small dildo will help with that but you need to tell her when you need her to stop, slow down, give you shallow strokes etc as she doesn’t know how it feels for you. Your gf could be going off of porn or what you do with her.

Look up Cosmic Broccoli on PH - hope you can work that out :wink::corn:
They are very sensual and it might be good for you and your partner to watch a different style of pegging and maybe get some tips on how to move. I studied all their videos before trying it myself.

I have received anal from her over the last 2 years with toys and fingers. Both are really nice and I’m able to cum after about 10 minutes of hard thrusting. We tend to use LH glass toys as they are ace for anal with some lube. Never really gone to a large diameter as that doesn’t really appeal to me to be over stretched.

I think it’s the curve which is hitting my p spot this time as all the other toys are straight and the natural alignment for a straight toy misses the p spot.

When taking a curved toy from behind, with the curve down, I don’t think it is in a natural alignment and it is something new to me.

The sensation is very strange a hard to describe but amazing as well.

Am just unsure if this is what it should feel like as this feeling is new to me?

Bear in mind she has used a few toys on me recently.

Me and mrs bobs have been pegging for a few years and most of the time its a massive turn on and pure pleasure. There have been a few times its been uncomfortable if not painful.

Not enough lube - if the dildo dries out the friction can hurt

Going too big too soon. Thats me thinking i can take 7" the first time we tried.

Excuse the crudeness but if you dont douche before and youre alread full in there… its gonna be paunful.

These were all part of learning to have a great time for both of us.

Hope that helps

Thanks, do you used curved of straight dildos?