OK people , ponder this . My wife had suggested I get a fuck buddy , but she does not want to know about it . I have not . I am not sexting with anyone , but find it an interesting possibility . I have been a flirt forever and she is aware of it and has no problem with it . I have read through many replies that say it is cheating if spouse does not know about it . So in my case since my wife suggested I get a fuck buddy and does not want to know about it , would sexting be any different ?
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It wouldn’t be cheating. I disagree that a partner has to know for it not to be cheating. As long as it is within the boundaries of the relationship, then it shouldn’t be classed as cheating. For some people, that boundary will be knowing about what is going on, whereas others are happy not to know the specifics.
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@Oldman , I agree completely with @Calie . Within the context of your relationship, no, that is not cheating because your wife gave you permission/told you to do it. I would place sexting within your agreed boundaries. I think the difficulty becomes that (from other posts you’ve written and I may be well off so please correct me if I’m wrong) your wife wants you to find someone with whom you are sexually satisfied but probably doesn’t want you forming a strong emotional relationship with that person. Lines in that situation blur a bit, if you can keep the sexting purely sexual and the same with any further physical contact, great. If you risk growing stronger feelings towards your potential sexting/fuck buddy it gets risky.
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I say definitely. If my partner were to start sexting another woman, it would immediately make me feel like im not good enough which means hes gotta look for pleasure elsewhere. I would never even consider doing this in a relationship.
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It’s already agreed by your OH, you have carte blanche.
No knowledge here implies that you’re doing something your partner wouldn’t approve of.
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100% yes
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I’d deffo say yours is an ‘ok’ version of sexting based on the fact you’ve got the go ahead for an extra partner.
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One podcast called it “Micro-cheating”…
However, if you can’t give your phone to your SO without getting a stomach ache wondering what they will find, you’re cheating…
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