Hi guys 
so I am struggling with understanding my body and hoping someone else experienced this and can give some advice! I seem to only have a sex drive when I’m drinking alcohol. When sober, I just don’t ever have the urge and when I agree to it with my partner, its really only because I feel guilty for not wanting it! However, I become a sex driven maniac when I drink and its always so good, I wish somehow I could feel that way when sober! Im not sure what to do because I really would like to make my partner happy and I would love to enjoy it !
1 Like
Hello welcome to the forums 
Not sure why you would feel this way, have you considered talking with your GP about the issue? There maybe some underlying issues on your mind that are the cause, alcohol loosens inhibitions and represses things that may be on your mind.
Just a thought.
Well I went through a little bit of depression a while back, but that has passed. It was ppd so we treated it and things have been better. I just feel like I have issues wanting it and feel like sometimes it doesn’t feel like anything really like when you go to the ob 
I guess I just feel like there’s something wrong with me!!!
Hi @Melissa.lynn12 , are you on any meds at the moment? Lots of meds can effect you libido adversely.
I mean I’ve recently been prescribed adderal but this has been an on going issue for a few years now so I dont think the two are related
That sounds really difficult. My meds have messed with my libido for a very long time so i know how much it sucks. low libido often comes up on the forums, so your not alone. Many people go through this for all sorts of reasons. Theres alot of info on here if you use the search bar, but I’m sure other people will jump on and comment too, everyone is very helpful here.
A lot of things can effect libido, including stress, your mood, your health and lots of other phycological stuff. Like they say, the brain is the biggest erogenous zone.
Yes well hey thanks for your time. I visited this site for the first time and ordered a few things that will hopefully help me because I probably drink once in a blue moon. I feel my confidence has been getting a little better lately and thats definetly helping with being able to feel sexy again. Fingers crossed my new toys bring back what I once had 
Hello and welcome @Melissa.lynn12 
Have you tried reading erotica, or something like that to amp up the mood first? The alcohol may be a shortcut, and you need an extra bit of mental stimulation to get to the same place without it.
I actually was really into this book series that had ALOT of detailed sex scenes and that is actually what inspired me to try and bring this back. Idk if you like that kind of thing, the first book in the series is called lawless and its very cheap on Amazon theres like 9 books and the storyline is very good so please check it out bc it is…nice hahah ive honestly tried watching pork and looking at pictures and thinking of certain beautiful humans but thats really not my thing!
And I really hope you know I mean porn because that would just be wierd… gimme the bacon
1 Like
Getting your confidence back can only be a good thing.
Sorry im not a massive help.
What i will say though, is you dont have to feel horny to have and enjoy sex. What i usually do is decide to have sex and then use lots of warm up and foreplay to get turned on.
Sounds back to front i know, but it works a treat.
If you havent tried them, maybe consider getting some jiggle balls (the tracey cox set are excellent). They are a brilliant warm up to wear before hand and wearing them regularly realy gives my libido a. Kick into grear when i have a rough patch.
Ps. Books sound good, whose the author? Love a good read
I think we have the most basic boring routine bc I guess I am kinda nervous I guess would be the word…to be myself. Maybe that is why alcohol helps bc I just give no effs at that point t
Also I have never heard of jiggle balls?
Book is called lawless: steel demons mc book by crystal ash!
1 Like
Sounds good 
i will have to look it up. Always happy to swap book recommendations
I have probably read 30 books since the start of summer! Please let’s do this!
@Melissa.lynn12 firstly welcome and hi , the second drive issue as previous Pple have stated maybe the urge to loosen your inhibitions could be the reason but seek professional help and seek advise talk to your partner if you haven’t done that already maybe try da date night for yourselves and either out of the home maybe a hotel meal and see if that helps try it no drink see if the same urges are there ? Hope you sort it out good luck 
Here are some good ones ive recommended before. Lots to keep you buisy. I have been churning through books since the first lockdown. Went from e book sceptic to having a big library now (thibk there are 300 read books in there now 
)
There is a Guide to kegel exercisers on the sight. Basically jiggle balls are kegel weights with a free moving ball inside them, so they shake when you move around when you have them inserted.
Ooo yes. Thank you!!! Please read a court of thrones and roses series too…not too much erotica but the latest book out contains the most. But you of course have to read the entire series bc its so good. Lol And ok im going to order me some of those! Tha ks so much girly!!
1 Like
Thats funny you should say that we actually did this Monday night and of course were kod free so we wanted to drink but this is one of the things that inspired this because we had such a good time that night I want it to be loke that more often
1 Like