Haven't got a problem with my husband wanking but if he was turning down sex with me to do it then I'd be concerned.
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wildflower wrote:
Haven't got a problem with my husband wanking but if he was turning down sex with me to do it then I'd be concerned.
I agree, for me its a poor substitute. You can't replicate the delicate and skilled touch of a woman giving a had job.
Ink and Kink wrote:
I was exactly the same!! But now it really doesn't faze me as long as I'm allowed to fap and it doesn't get in the way of our actual sex life. Just need someone to have sex with now..Littlestars wrote:
In my younger years I found it hard to accept. I mean why would a guy wank when he had access to sex on tap. I would feel offended by it.
Yeah I must admit when I was younger and in my first sexual relationship I didn't understand masturbation, and thought it meant I wasn't good enough in the bedroom. Looking back, oh how silly that was!
If anything I probably encourage my OH to masturbate, as often I'm too unwell for sex or we don't get enough time alone together. Even bought him a couple of toys :)
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mysteron wrote:
wildflower wrote:
Haven't got a problem with my husband wanking but if he was turning down sex with me to do it then I'd be concerned.
I agree, for me its a poor substitute. You can't replicate the delicate and skilled touch of a woman giving a had job.
Your're right there and I love doing it too !
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wildflower wrote:
mysteron wrote:
wildflower wrote:
Haven't got a problem with my husband wanking but if he was turning down sex with me to do it then I'd be concerned.
I agree, for me its a poor substitute. You can't replicate the delicate and skilled touch of a woman giving a had job.
Your're right there and I love doing it too !
2nd these comments.
Boogaloo wrote:
Yeah I must admit when I was younger and in my first sexual relationship I didn't understand masturbation, and thought it meant I wasn't good enough in the bedroom. Looking back, oh how silly that was!
Exactly, it feels like an attack at your self esteem, aren't I good enough?!
me and my ex were practically closet strokers, never admitted or talked about it but knew it happened.
Spending time in singledom has lead me to experimenting more, buying my first toys, discovering a lot about myself inc a bit of porn too, I'm a lot more accepting of solo exploration and satisfaction now and I'm a lot more adventurous as a result of that, I'm not ashamed of who I am or what I feel anymore.
accepting this for me was a very liberating feeling I won't ever be ashamed of it again.
As for guys needing to masturbate I recongnise the need to as natural and as a result I've become quiet a writer of erotica in my text chats with a guy I have a date lined up with. It's mutually satisfying , and actually knowing that I am stimulating him and bringing him to climax from the imagery I generate is actually a huge boost to my confidence.
Good on you Littlestars with the erotic writing. That is a big turn on for the majority of chaps. Having a lady chat/write erotically to them.
SK1966 wrote:
Good on you Littlestars with the erotic writing. That is a big turn on for the majority of chaps. Having a lady chat/write erotically to them.
+1 I think lady writers are much better at doing erotica writing. They tend to discribe the scene better and with more detail without using crude or offensive metaphors .
My guilty secret is that I take a sneeky peek at my wifes books.
I don't mind if my OH has a wank it's what guys do,
Nothing rong with some alone time, I like to play with myself so don't see why he can't have alone time
My OH tends to do it either when I'm at work so has to relive himself some how or before he has a nap so he can fall asleep quicker.
Also he has a few toys for himself for when it's rong time of the month it's a natural thing and it never interfears or takes away from our time together.
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SK1966 wrote:
Good on you Littlestars with the erotic writing. That is a big turn on for the majority of chaps. Having a lady chat/write erotically to them.
I never realised this until I was chatting and told not to stop as they were really enjoying it. It has progressed to an almost daily indulgence with they guy I'm starting to date.
We meet on Friday for the first time and I will expect sexual energies to run very high. I describe the scenarios of our first meeting, different fantasies that we want to indulge in too like my desire to peg, he was unsure initially but placed into a erotic chat it becomes more natural. He actually tried to get turned off when I get to the pegging chat but it still aroused him massively.
Littlestars wrote:
SK1966 wrote:
Good on you Littlestars with the erotic writing. That is a big turn on for the majority of chaps. Having a lady chat/write erotically to them.
I never realised this until I was chatting and told not to stop as they were really enjoying it. It has progressed to an almost daily indulgence with they guy I'm starting to date.
We meet on Friday for the first time and I will expect sexual energies to run very high. I describe the scenarios of our first meeting, different fantasies that we want to indulge in too like my desire to peg, he was unsure initially but placed into a erotic chat it becomes more natural. He actually tried to get turned off when I get to the pegging chat but it still aroused him massively.
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I dont mind at all if oh wants to wank - I masturbate so no difference really . . .
I do have a very high sex drive so he dosent wank very often as he says he can barely keep up with me !! I encourage him to wank sometimes . . . . .over me ;) !
It doesn't bother me either, I also masturbate a lot so it doesn't bother my partner.
The only time it would bother me is as an other poster stated that if my partner turned down sex and continued masturbating more.
My OH has a lower sex drive than me, and only occasionally wanks, but I don't mind at all.
at least if he is wanking he is being faithful.
As long as I get to watch ;-)
Seriously, no I don't mind at all. I know he wanks, men do. Women do. Everyone does it. I positively encourage him! Together time is nice but when you both work different shifts, getting a night together can be quite a challenge. X
i dont mind at all,as we have great sex anyway,and i do like to watch him wank,more so when he cums all over me.
It would bother me because I have a higher sex drive then my fiancƩ so when he's horny I like him to focus that to having sex with me instead, and on the days I'm not in the mood and he is or vide Versa then we just wait till we both are and often that makes the next time we do have sex more pleasurable
I enjoy a wank as much as any other guy, but being wanked off by my wife is so much better.
I love the satisfied expression on her face , when i shoot my load.
Your friend masturbating but having a problem with their partner doing so seems very hypocritical. Do they not have a right to self pleasure? Is there pleasure to be dependent strictly on the other person? Yes I agree it can be a problem if they only want to masturbate and not have sex, however sometimes we all need the time to be alone and enjoy our own pleasure without having to worry about pleasing another person. I think thereās some insecurity and straight up selfishness there that should be addressed. Just my opinion. It just frustrates me when I read that one partner enjoys masturbation but it upset when the other does the same or has a problem of their partner using toys while they have a drawer full of dildos.
Hopefully I donāt come as confrontational as thatās not my intent. I just donāt understand this type of mindset in a relationship. Iād be curious to know how your friendās partner feels about it.
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My wife doesnāt mind as long as shes happy too