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Information / Tips:
Communication is vital, you need to discuss everything in detail beforehand and set boundaries prior to any play.
Respect the third, they aren’t a piece of meat! Be sure to ask their preferences as they too will have boundaries and likes/ dislikes.
Never rush anything, be sure to have plenty of time to enjoy the event.
Fantasy can be entirely different from reality. Prepare for feelings of jealousy and how to work through these in the moment. This is natural and not always needed, be sure to reassure one and other.
Discuss safe words and use them if needed.
Clubs are great places, ideal for exploring open fun but each club has different expectations in terms of clothing and such-like. Read up on the club first and be sure you are comfortable with the protocols. Websites such as Fab are also another viable option but can take a lot longer to navigate
Threesomes are something I have no experience with, so, I guess my first question is, if you’re part of a hetro couple and want to try the fantasy MFF, how do you go about finding that elusive Unicorn? Is it better to use a site like Fab even if you are just looking for a female or are you better off trying clubs or just meeting and hitting it off with someone at a regular bar? Or a friend, already within your friendship group? I think I would struggle if it was with someone I already knew, I’d worry it would wreck the friendship or possibly even the relationship. A stranger in a safe environment seems safer to me but… where?
Also, is it better to be spontaneous once you’re getting down to things or better to have a plan set out before? Presumsbly good to have rules before of who’s allowed to do what with whom but then when it comes to actal logistics, how do you know who goes where and when? Does it all flow smoothly or is the first threesome time a bit like the first time you have sex and don’t really know what you’re doing? How do you make sure someone doesn’t feel left out?
The absolute 100% most important thing about threesomes is make sure that you actually want a threesome. Do not just be pressured to do something like that in your relationship if you aren’t sure. And no always means no, if somebody takes issue with that then that’s such a red flag.
My marriage’s foundations are 3somes
Fwbs to start with when we first met ,being shared with my amazing husband and my other fwbs at the time built love trust over time , of all the fwbs hubby was the most connected guy of them all …and to this day 20yrs on we still have an open bedroom …but trust honesty communication and connection is the key
our experience with unicorns and stags, you are more likley to find them in people that you know but are not part of your close friends or realitives group, sports clubs fitness centres even other school parents ..
it only takes a moment to find out some stuff or mention the term swining in a lowkey hypotheical or casual discussion to see how their mind reacts …you’d be suprised who you know
I’m not entirely sure that I want to be in a threesome, but if I was ever going to receive anal sex from another man (which is definitely a fantasy of mine), I wouldn’t want to do it behind my wife’s back.
So hypothetically, my situation would be that I play with another guy and he fucks me, but my wife is just a bystander and gets to watch. Obviously she would have to be ok with this, and I have a feeling that if such a situation was to arise, she wouldn’t want to participate anyway.
I’ve never been fortunate enough to have a threesome but I’ve always wondered about the potential emotional baggage that comes with it, if that’s even a thing? There was a TV series I used to watch a couple years back called ‘Open House; the great Sex experiment’ in which couples would stay at a house and practice non monogamy. In almost every single episode someone would get upset after having a threesome.
I’ve always wondered if this was actually that common or just something greatly exaggerated in media like this
Yes, my sexual crazy ex wife and a lady I used to let use me, the lady had told me about many things she sexually desired Sony wife wanted to try and asked me ifnibknewbpf anyone.. I told her Tonya.. and she just shook her head yes like she was silly., lol
Tonya came pretty much right over to our house after I called her.,
My wife didn’t know how to start so Tonya got behind her sitting on the bed and started caressing and kissing her.. she got up and found out Tonya was naked she had lost her short.. Murphi (my wife) dropped down on her .,
Then told me she’s ready.. knowing what a voyeur she is I dropped between those legs and enjoyed four female hands and tongues the rest the night.,
Well anyways.. this would be a book if I continued.,
How about that.,
I will make this topic a Wiki, and I will edit this bit away once we’ve got it to a good place.
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Information / Tips:
Communication is vital, you need to discuss everything in detail beforehand and set boundaries prior to any play.
Respect the third, they aren’t a piece of meat! Be sure to ask their preferences as they too will have boundaries and likes/ dislikes.
Never rush anything, be sure to have plenty of time to enjoy the event.
Fantasy can be entirely different from reality. Prepare for feelings of jealousy and how to work through these in the moment. This is natural and not always needed, be sure to reassure one and other.
Discuss safe words and use them if needed.
Clubs are great places, ideal for exploring open fun but each club has different expectations in terms of clothing and such-like. Read up on the club first and be sure you are comfortable with the protocols. Websites such as Fab are also another viable option but can take a lot longer to navigate.
Some good advice already been given here.My first experience of a threesome was with a younger girl.It sort of just come into the conversation when we had a few drinks too many one evening.I like girls , my work colleague wasn’t in a relationship and I knew my BF would have no hesitation in accepting.
In fact when I asked him about it I could see the steam coming out of his ears.We agreed to go out for dinner before, to discuss boundaries, clothes and what we wanted.No touching was allowed on this first meeting.
Our subsequent meetings were amazing.As well as being very attractive, she was such a lovely girl, so eager to please .She stayed with us overnight on several occasions and we had a great time in the bedroom.Just love watching my OH with another girl.He loved watching us perform too.It really gave our sex life a kickstart.
Unfortunately she returned home to France, where I still get an occasional text from her.I managed to video a couple of these encounters, so still can chuckle and get horny over them.
Had a couple of other threesomes,which were enjoyable but not as passionate as the first.They were with people I didn’t really know that well.
So, all in all , if you really are sure you know what you’re going into ( both of you ) it can be a wonderful experience.I’m certainly up for another
My experiences of this have always been on hols as casual encounters… the third person automatically dissappears back into the imagination so not much chance of an emotional rebound. I suppose it’s what these days would be called “monogamish”.
