Hi all... when I suggest to my wife that I was going out together a love honey order for our weekend away she was really up for it and excited ,but told me not to bother getting any lingerie because she'd look fat in it and wouldn't look sexy! I think she would look amazing and would love to see her in it!
Is there any items or styles you could suggest me to get so she feels as amazing as I know she'll look or do you think it's best to not get any in case she feels uncomfortable? Thanks
Hard to answer without knowing more about your wife. Some people respond well to a little push from their partner, others don't. Depend what catagory she normally falls in. But if she does genuinely believe she will look fat, that is likely to be what she will see if she tries something on (even if that really isn't the case).
Honestly, I wouldn't risk it but maybe sit with her and have a look at the site together. Point out the things you'd love to see her in (and tell her why) and see how she feels. Lingerie is a big catagory of products, with everything from teeny tiny bra and g-string sets to bodystockings that cover the majority of the body so talking through what she feels are her problem areas and what bits she likes might give her a little more confidence going forward.
However, if you are truly desperate to buy her something, what about a robe? LH have quite a few styles at the moment and she can wear it with nothing underneath or something she already owns, be it lingerie, a bra set or even a nightie or cami set.
I'd echo what kelly_michelle says.
Put a few things in your basket that you'd truly love to see her in and show her.
I felt like your wife as I'd come from a marriage where no matter if I was fatter or thinner I was never right for him. My partner now loves me as I am but I still took some convincing.
Seeing lingerie on the models might help her find her confidence which, if it's anything like us, can only mean lots of great times in the bedroom!
Good luck.
I would suggest either putting items in your basket or sitting down together and looking at the lingerie, bodies and basques on this site, seeing how great they look on the plus size models and telling her which ones you`d love to see her in would hopefully inspire confidence in her. My OH is curvy and as with most women lacks body confidence. I have bought a fair amount of stuff from here often as a surprise and she has always looked amazing in whatever i buy. I know this is down to personal preference, but looking at a product modelled by a standard sized model and a plus sized model side by side, i always think the plus size looks hotter, maybe tell her the same thing? I wish you both luck and enjoy your weekend! Another thing that may boost her body confidence, is telling her that you can`t fake an erection, so her body IS sexy!
WillC wrote:
I would suggest either putting items in your basket or sitting down together and looking at the lingerie, bodies and basques on this site, seeing how great they look on the plus size models and telling her which ones you`d love to see her in would hopefully inspire confidence in her. My OH is curvy and as with most women lacks body confidence. I have bought a fair amount of stuff from here often as a surprise and she has always looked amazing in whatever i buy. I know this is down to personal preference, but looking at a product modelled by a standard sized model and a plus sized model side by side, i always think the plus size looks hotter, maybe tell her the same thing? I wish you both luck and enjoy your weekend! Another thing that may boost her body confidence, is telling her that you can`t fake an erection, so her body IS sexy!
I would tend to agree, choosing items together adds to the excitement, then your OH can try them on in private and you will get the grand reveal on your time away. Alot is about reassurance and not getting caught up in stereotypes. Never underestimate the power of silk and lace....
Funbigguy hi,
So speaking from a similar situation I found myself in last year, now my OH is not in any way fat, she has curves and boy they are in all the right places, she however did struggle with lingerie.
I had purchased a few items that got worn once but never again, so I stopped looking at what I liked and decided to take a more softer approach, we had a Halloween break planned so I spend some hours looking on LH and I tried to take all her points in to consideration and I came out with this
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30693
So got away in the car got to the hotel and up in the room wife went for a shower so I placed the lingerie on her pillow and waited for her to get back, I made it very clear that it was absolutely her decision to wear it or not.
After opening and looking at it she decided to put it on, ohh the bedroom on one side was wall to ceiling mirrored, she stood there transfixed at just how amazing she looked in this stocking and boy she did look AMAZING and I think for the first time since having the kids it actually got through to her and she knew it more to the point.
So the entire time we were there it was on her body, her confidence just grew and grew, she hardly took her eyes away from the mirror as we played I think the simpler the better was the way to go, to give her the best view of just how Hot she is.
Now ? Well my last order contains 4 sets of sexy lingerie and she absolutely loves me to select them for her, I still select the item I think she will like and so far it's been a game changer for us both.
I agree with the previous comments.
Imo it would be best if both of you had a look at the lingerie, or if she did it on her own. More info about your wife, her dress size and her ''problem areas'' (as she perceives them) would help us give you more suggestions.
Here are some ideas:
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=36229 fits great, also available in red https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=37235
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=37753 another beautiful basque
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=40922 bra set with wide thong
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=38860 this or any other robe can make her feel more safe, comfortable and less exposed.
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=37010 thong with adjustable waist, also available in white https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=35835
Thanks for everyone's responses! A robe is a great idea! Also would be quite good fun going through the LH lingerie section together!
Have fun!
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30692
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=41160
they have all these in sizes from 8 to plus size. Good luck x
I find this really sad ,that some women have body image issues . No woman should have body issues . I love women , I love their bodies . I love my wife's body . No one has a "perfect" body ( whatver that is ) . We've all got lumps , bumps and bulges . They increase as we get older . . My greaest sexual experiences have been , not with women who are "perfect " , but "normal" women who are confident . Fair play to lovehoney for using some larger models to advertise their products . Tell your wife to look at herself in the morror , and love herself ,like you clearly do !
Weeradge, i totally agree! I think the likes of Love Island contestants promote an unrealistic and quite frankly ludicrous idea of how a woman should look. Give me natural curves and personality any day. As you say, nobody is perfect. We need to accept what life/genetics has given us, and accept that our OH's love us as we are and vice versa.
You have got some really good advice so far. I would add that as a starter piece you might want to consider the bodysuits as I find that due to the fact they still cover up a lot of your skin you feel psychologically less exposed. They are also great at sliming and minimising any percieved trouble areas.
I feel for your wife. I'm a large girl (UK 26/28) and have low body confidence.
I ordered a body stocking in clearance to give it a go and see how it looked and how I feel in it. Although it's fishnet and pretty much sheer white, I don't feel uncomfortable or awkward. It feels sexy and a little bit naughty.
I think the advice you've been given is perfect, body stockings and a robe might be a good place to start.
Good luck and have fun! x
Well I ordered my wife a robe as a surprise to see what she thought and hopefully give her a bit of confidence and try other items. When the delivery came I showed her and her response was “that’ll go nicely over the top of the surprise I got for you?” She went and ordered herself a black baby doll, she said she listened to what I said about how good she’d look on it and decided as I’m the only one who would see her in it then why not!
Pleased with how that played out! Thanks everyone!
So glad it worked out for you both! Hopefully her confidence will grow and grow! 
Aww that’s lovely . You can’t go far wrong with a robe or a babydoll.
On a related note…my OH ordered a kind of shorts/dungarees one piece for the summer online. It was obviously designed for someone flat chested, as her boobs were barely contained by the bib/top bit! (Even with a bra on!) She was about to send it back, but i said it would be fine in the house/garden with just the two of us! She looks soooo hot in it!
That’s awesome! I can’t wait to see my wife in hers, then sitting down and adding loads of other stuff to out LH basket!
That’s great news. I hope you have a good time 