A walk will help- fresh air does wonders. I hope you feel a little lighter now
I know you are crying out for help @zombifiedguy The world we are living in is certainly strange and no-one knows when it will get back to ānormalā and restrictions are slowly being re-introduced around the country.
Already having to deal with problems and feeling alone before all this happened was bad enoughā¦add this in and itās a massive amount of emotional pressure to be underā¦
You are not alone in thisā¦thousands of others are facing similar difficultiesā¦although that doesnāt help the situationā¦you know others are struggling too.
Keep talking and checking in on hereā¦the folks on the forum add a little light and help to each others dayā¦and together we can ALL get through this.
Virtual hugs
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A trouble shared is a trouble halved, and there are many of us here to help.
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@zombifiedguy what @Serpentwand @MsSubExperimenter and @CurvyJilly says is all good, we know you are asking for help so please let us, you can tell us anything we are non-judgemental and willing to help. No problem is unsurmountable.
As has previously been said, take your dog out in the sunshine and see the world through their eyes. I think i may have said this before, but set yourself little treats to look forward to each day, wether it be a bar of chocolate, a favourite album, a favourite tv show or film. Itās the little pleasures that count in this world and current situation.
Above all look after and value yourself, you are special and desrve happiness.
We are willing to help ANYONE on this forum, so this applies to everyone. Take care my friend.
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I do appreciate all the advice and kind words, i just feel so trapped. I do try to do things etc, had a whole to-do list the other day etc. So few things seem to make me feel better.
Im just so tired of things, putting effort in and getting nowhere, like im trapped in quick sand
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Hang on in there @zombifiedguy keep venting on here. I know we are only here virtually but we ARE here for you.
Virtual hugsā¦
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Stay strong and think positive thoughts 
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We all feel like that from time to time, it will pass trust me. We are here for you.
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Hats off to you too for putting your thoughts into words and postingā¦just talking and interacting with others will help youā¦
Hopefully others will too @zombifiedguy
Keep busy
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I appreciate all the kind words.
I am trying, honestly but, and i know this is silly, i need to know what will make me happy.
No one thing will sort all my issues and my brain feels so screwed sometimes that im not sure any solution will work.
I understand when people say others in lockdown etc are going through the same thing but ive been struggling since before the lockdown and it might sound selfish but i want to fix myself before i concern myself with the rest of the world.
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@zombifiedguy not selfish to feel the need to focus on yourself at all. When others are saying that they (lots of people) are struggling too in this strange new reality it is to reassure you that you arenāt alone.
It would also suggest speaking to your doctor, hormone levels as well as all manner of medical stuff can change rapidly and could be adding to your symptoms.
My mental health is generally very good but does alter due to hormone levels. On down, anxious or paranoid days I try to find a positive. My family are well. I have a comfortable home etc.
Please be kind to yourself.
If a friend was feeling the way you do what would you recommend?
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If it was my friend id listen to them, try to talk about it or meet up with them and take them for a wander or food and chat.
Problem is the friends that i have arent me and dont do the same thing.
Im glad you have someone. Ive been looking for more friends but not easy
If your close friends are no help, you could try by focusing on the good points in your life instead of the negtive. I know you may say itās easier said than done, but give it a try. I donāt know much about you, but i know you have a family dog, who will give you unconditional love, focus on the dog and do things together, walk play, cuddle.
I know far too many people who focus on the percieved bad in their lives rather than the good things.
I have known one such person for many, many years, sheās never happy with her life. If anyone has something new, she HAS to have the same, wether it be an object, a hairstyle a pet etc, jumping right in without a thought. Someone she knew had a hot tub, and she wanted one and was looking at getting an inflateable one. When i pointed out that theyād had their bath removed and a shower put in, because they had trouble getting in and out of a bath, and that an inflateable hot tub would be worse, she said i was a negative person! Also, she wonāt go on spa days with family because she wonāt be seen in public in a bathing costume!
Then she buys designer handbags and shoes that she never goes anywhere to use, at least 50+ handbags at last count! When i suggested that instead of buying handbags, she use the cost of a bag for a weekend away to make some memories, she gave me a look that could kill!
She has driven her friends away because she is always moaning about her husband, despite him being golden. Her friends have all lost their husbands, so to hear her whining about hers must be awful.
We have tried to change her negative attitude to life, but every solution we come up with is met with an excuse, as if the only way she can be happy is to be unhappy.
My point is, sometimes we need to try and ignore the negative in our lives, and focus on the good, no matter how few they seem.
I recently posted some of the crap in my life here for the first time, as it occured to me that people may be thinking āHereās Bill sitting in his ivory tower spouting positivity and dishing out advice, WTF does he knowā?
I hope this helps, and i realise itās not easy, trust me i have been through similar stuff, thatās why i, and many other members want to help, you are not alone.
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Bill
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Thank you Jilly! 
Hear hear @WillC
Life can be shit, it can be cruel and a struggle, I know that from experience too, but even small things like trying to make someone else smile helps make your day better.
Itās cliche but positivity does breed positivity - try and think of something nice or do or say something nice to someone, it does work.
Iām glad youāre talking to us, keep talking, weāll listen and help as much as we can x
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Ring one of your friends @zombifiedguy and tell them how you are feelingā¦chatā¦laughā¦ ask if you can meet up even if just for an hour for a face to face chat as you are so down.
Iām sure if not straight away they will make time to check on you?
Keep positiveā¦I know how hard that is sometimesā¦I really do.
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I agree @MsSubExperimenter the first step is to want and accept help. Positivity breeds positivity.
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Bill, youāre advice Is most welcome anytime mate 
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