@Knight1119 thank you! Anytime any of you need help, advice or just a virtual hug i am more than willing to step up! 
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Cheers Bill, very kind 
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@Knight1119 iām old, i know things! 
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Hi @zombifiedguy 
Iām sorry to hear youāre feeling rubbish. The world is a scary and unpredictable place at the moment and I totally understand what you mean when you say you donāt think you can cope.
Firstly, youāve done great in expressing how you feel and venting to us. Youāve got a fantastic support network here so if in doubt, pop a message on here and one of us will be here to reply. Youāve always got somebody. If you need to vent more, do it.
When Iām feeling low and anxious and have days where I canāt even enter a shop because my negative thoughts are ruling everything, I have a couple of things I can fall back on that make me feel better:
-I make achievable to-do lists just for that day, with things as small and as simple as ātake bin out,ā ātext landlord backā or āmake shopping list.ā The more things I tick off, and the more things I achieve, the more accomplished I feel.
-I also clean, starting with my bedroom and where I spend most of my time. A tidy home really does equal a tidy mind for me. Itās me regaining a bit of control back.
In regards to medicationā¦ if your current medication isnāt doing enough for you, get back to your GP. Your mental health is important and, from experience, medication does help. It can be a bit of trial and error but you will get there. Stress just how much your emotions are impacting you and your GP will speed things up.
I hope your days become brighter soon x
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I understand what you mean. I wouldnt say im that bad. I know what i have and i know the good points but i need more good in my life, experiences mostly
Most wont talk to me unless they want something from me
I do my best to help others. My friend lost her mum last year and i spent alot of time talking to her, distracting her and helping her. She is one of the few i call a friend
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I did this the other day and got lots of things done including cleaning my room etc but it doesnt feel like im getting anything from it
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@zombifiedguy then theyāre not real friends. Is there anything we can help you with? Have you tried playing the games on here with us? They pass the time and some of the answers can be very funny, we have fun and itās a distraction from the daily grind. Participate in some of the music, tv, movie topics etc as we get to know you, you get to know us and yet again it can be humorous and fun. As @For_Your_Eyes_Only_x said little goals per day add up to a sense of achievement.
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It may be best to now find that comfort in her? Itās wonderful that you did that and Iām sure it made her feel plenty better. Reach out to her and start that conversation. If sheās local, take your dog for a walk together, or play games together, and chat as openly as you can. Communication is so important.
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@zombifiedguy as @For_Your_Eyes_Only_x said, contact that friend, hopefully sheāll reciprocate the care you gave her. Have you told your other friends how you feel? If they donāt know, they canāt help. I have good friends iāve known for 50 odd years, we donāt see each other often due to living all over the UK and world, but we know that we can message each other for support if we have a problem or just to catch up. Reach out to them.
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And @zombifiedguy as @WillC says join in on the games hereā¦we have a giggle with some of the games a bit risque too sometimesā¦
Iāve been in tears sometimes playing themā¦middle of the night sometimesā¦with my own situationā¦with no-one to talk toā¦last Christmas was hardā¦and this lockdown has been hardā¦
But everyone here on the forum has been greatā¦and a few of them who know who they are have kept my spirits up.
Give it a tryā¦
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@CurvyJilly i donāt know your situation, i just know you are often sad, but you know i will always have time for you day or night. I often go off to work with a smile on my face after playing games with you in the early hours! Yes, we get risque, but we have a laugh. You are a valued friend to me. This Christmas i will be here if you need me, as will many other members. You are a witty, intelligent sexy lady, you take care my friend. 
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@CurvyJilly I donāt know your situation but enjoy playing games with you at any time of the day or night 
you seem awesome and make me smile
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So sorry to hear youāre tearful and feeling down @CurvyJilly, Iām not very good at offering advice, but happy to offer comfort, sending you some hugs 
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Iāve been dealing with a mix of anxiety, stress, depression for a while now.
For years I thought I was invincible. People who had mental health issues seemed completely alien to me. Then out of nowhere I was crippled in my bed. Felt like someone was sitting on me. I spent the best part of a week in bed and couldnāt move. I couldnāt explain to anyone as I thought they would think I was insane and fabricating it all. The idea of speaking to folk about it was stressful. How could I articulate something I didnāt understand myself? It was easier in my head not to say anything and suffer.
What youāre doing even by reaching out here is a very positive step. Donāt underestimate the power of talking whether it be online, face to face, phone - it all helps.
Please remember you wonāt feel this way forever. It will pass. Thatās not to say it wonāt come back again but it will always go away again too. Youāll figure out how to manage it.
There are great sources of support and information available to you as others have mentioned. Start with your GP.
thecalmzone.net - aimed specifically at men
There is no one fits all solution to managing how you feel. Everyone is different on how they get back on track but the one starting point is talking. Youāre not alone out there. There is support.
Keep at it my man. 
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Yeah, i was the same and after 2 bereavements in succession it hit me out of nowhere. I could always feel it coming, it was like when a storm is approaching, i could feel the pressure change in the back of my head, yet i couldnāt stop it.
Iāve gotten better at recognising the signs when my mental health is deteriorating. Iāve also spoken to a handful of people close to me at work and outside and asked them to tell me if they pick up on anything so I can try and nip it in the bud before it gets as bad as it has been before because I never want to go back there.
Iām pretty open about my mental health in general and at work. I do find it helps, people are surprised when they realise I have depression because I come across as bouncy and positive and cheerful and it does generate conversations which help others understand which to me, can only be a good thing and works towards reducing the stigma around it.
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@MsSubExperimenter isnāt the bouncy upbeat persona often a cover for the dark storm though? Look at Robin Williams. I know i have been guilty of this in the past. I am still a bit of a comedian and recently got an award at work for my passion and dry sense of humour, but touchwood i have been ok for years.
If ever you need help or support, donāt hesitate to to ask my friend!
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Thank you @WillC and it is indeed! Iām actually the lead in my area for celebrating recognition and getting people to be positive towards one another which I find mildly ironic!
One of my lowest ever points was sitting at Euston Station trying to slit my wrist with a key because it was the sharpest thing I hadā¦ I still have the small scar and itās a constant reminder I never ever want to go back there!
Touch wood Iām much better than I used to be. My meds werenāt working anymore so I upped them (Doctor approved), still werenāt working so he switched me to something else which are working.
Admittedly I did get my dose increased after 2 bereavements in less than 3 weeks late last year and havenāt gone back down, but Iām stable and with the world as crazy as it is I donāt think reducing them is a good move at the moment!
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