Hi All,
Please give advice?
I want to masturbate in front of the wife but don’t know how to approach the idea?
Or do I just start wanking when we go to bed together or maybe go to bed just before and then just start wanking before she comes in?
Nervous but scared of the reaction.
Theres several ways, when you are both in the mood you coukd start and play with yourself and ask your wife to do the same.
You could have a conversation before hand to explain what youd like to do.
Or like your said just start and play with yourself and see what happens next
Hey @Mr.Smith
Has your wife seen you masterbate before, like during sex? If so, how did she respond?
Are you comfortable sharing fantasies with each other?
If you want her to participate in this (encourage you, dirty talk, etc.) You might want to talk to her first so she can prepare and get into it.
Depends on your relationship i guess, and what her views on it are. If shes comfortable with you masturbating by yourself then I guess her ‘walking in’ on you isn’t a bad scenario.
Personally i’d go for a bit of playing with myself whilst playing with the OH so if you are in to giving Oral then maybe play with yourself at the same time, or use your penis to stroke her clit and masturbate yourself at the same time.
I agree with talking about it first, walking in on you masturbating may not be a welcomed surprise. Or maybe it will, I think we need more information. Do you have a good active sex life? Are you both kinky? Does she enjoy watching you?
Without more context I’d also suggest conversation first.
Had I have randomly tried this in front of one of my exes I’d have a had a reply that included a bunch of expletives, and an awkward conversation afterwards.
Hard to tell without more context.
As part of sex i would get my wife to the point where she orgasmed and then she would give me a hand job to finish me off. One day i said i would like to wank myself at that hand job point anf to give her a pearl necklace. She found me wanking in front of her sexy and post that point occassionally wants me to wank infromt of her whilst showering together and either giving her a pearl necklace to finish or a facial. So maybe introduce masturbation as part of the sex act as foreplay or to finish yourself off
A good thing to talk about if you are able to have a conversation about fantasies.
Could you start a conversation like that?
Let her know that you find the idea really sexy and that she really turns you on.
She might love it!
I like having a rub on my wife - she knows I worship her and find her so sexy - she thinks it’s pretty hot 
In our house, masturbation is seen as “me time”. If my wife walked in on my masturbating, a conversation would surely follow.
What are your hopes, what are you expecting from it?
It sounds like you have a fantasy lined up, but without being in on it, your wife is unlikely to be on the same page.
Either start masturbating as part of your regular sex life, or explicitly talk to her about what you’d like to achieve.
Doing it otherwise might be a crap shoot in terms of end results matching your hopes.
It depends on the dynamic on of your relationship and her attitude to sex. If she is quite reserved in the bedroom she may find it a bit taboo.
Maybe strike up the conversation in bed and ask if she masterbates sometimes when you are out of the house. You could then let the conversation flow from that point.
@Mr.Smith i ask does she have her own sex toys - if she does it should be more accessible to enjoy yourself while she plays
But as other say - just speak to her
Have you ever discussed masturbation?
We did and my husband offered to show me how he did it. That was hot.
It took me a while to show him how I do it but now it’s just part of our sex life. Occasionally we have PIV then finish off masturbating together.
Solo play isn’t a secret experience. We tell each other what we are going to do, then we disappear to the bedroom for him and the shower for me. I love my suction cup dildo and my vibrator. 
Try our approach it worked for us
We downloaded an app called Kindu, which sadly is not longer available, but there are similar apps which you can both sign up to that suggest such things and allows you both to confirm if you would be happy to try something in a safe discussion environment.
The first time my wife touched herself in front of me was because we were unable to have penetrative sex for a while as it was after the birth of our second child. We were fooling around, engaging in mutual masturbation and she just started touching herself, rather than us touching each other; it was the most exciting thing I had seen in ages!
Sometimes we engage in prolonged foreplay, without touching the genitals. I will touch, stroke and kiss her everywhere else. Eventually she gets so turned on that she can’t hold back anymore and starts touching herself.
Hope these suggestions helps, but communication is key, along with providing a safe environment where everyone feels comfortable. 
I would discuss it first, it would not be wise for her to stumble upon you masturbating and hoping that the response would be positive.
When you are next being intimate, bring it up in discuss of what you would like to do and gauge the reaction from there.
I suspect that she knows that you masturbate, I think that it would be somewhat naive for couples to think that their partners don’t at some point in their relationships. It is whether or not they wish to share that activity.
When the OH and myself feel horny but don’t want full sex, we will quite often masturbate together, the visual of her pleasuring herself tends to help me orgasm quicker.
Good luck.
Id start a conversation about self enjoyment.
If she doesnt indulge, encourage her to try .
Suggest mutual masterbation as an aspect of your sexual activity and that youd love to watch her pleasure her self.
Once its an open topic and normal to discuss, tell her youd love for her to watch you.
If she doesn’t have a vibrator, bloody well buy her one…she will love you for doing so.
Just whip it out and wank it lol 
Think maybe the easier way to get into it would be to do in bed together and go from there so it’s not so much of a sudden surprise with her walking in and seeing it
Definitely have a conversation first, what we think as a turn on might not be for someone who is not been considered. My wife and quite often mastuabate together, we just snuggle up and sometimes and arouse each other just by words. Robin
She asked me to do that a couple days after we were married! So I did. I’ve done it many times since. I really think it makes me cum better - more.
My wife was quite shy when we met but with lots of conversation and softly softly approach she is blossoming into a lot more adventerous and kinky person.One evening a while ago i entered the bedroom and looked at her and told her she looked very sexy in her new babydoll and i needed to have her.She replied in the morning as she was tired so i told her she looked so sexy and gorgeous there was no way i was going to be able to sleep and joked i would have to wank off before getting into bed.Somewhat intrigued and also well happy with my compliments she told me to carry on so i asked her to expose her breasts and proceeded to masturbate and spray her with come.She absolutely loved it and from then on it became part of our sex life.So much so she now enjoys watching not only me but also her friends Sissy husband masturbating when we have our weekly get togethers.
Ok, I’ll admit I masturbate, A LOT, always have. I’m surprised to find my wife has only ‘caught’ me twice (I asked) - once before we were married and just living together and once more recently in the shower.
About a year or so ago I also developed a desire for my wife to watch me masturbate. I think you just have to be creative and a bit opportunistic. For example, after a session of sex and dildos my wife will sometimes masturbate in bed next to my after I’ve finished. There have been times when I’ve been able to get a second wind a join her.
Also, when performing cunnilingus reach down and start stroking your own cock. Or during PIV, pull out and manually finish on her. This has opened the door for us and now if I’m feeling randy in the morning I’ll start masturbating in bed next to her and she’ll rub my leg and stomach while I do. I get a thrill out of her watching me stroke my junk and bring myself to climax and I’m glad that my wife doesn’t judge and is willing to participate.