Coincidentally this morning’s BDSM dare card said “You will masturbate for your partner with your legs wide open.” so I knelt between her legs with me knees apart so that both our legs were wide open and we watched each other masturbate to orgasm.
Once for me. Lots for her.
Same - mature loving couple. We both want each other to have a good time and as our bodies age we adapt. I actually had a post in another forum as I need to “take things into my own hands” to finish - so curious what others do to “get there”. I love getting her to climax and that gets me going - but usually need to take care of my own business.
So I guess to the original question asked - I think you need to talk with your partner about what she will and won’t enjoy and its ok if “hey thanks but not again”. I know when I am helping her I am also helping myself as well - so maybe that can be your jumping off. Not sure if original question was for couple play or some alone time.