Hi there, I had a question for all the experienced people in here. I have found myself to like smaller sex toys(dildos) between 1-5 inches in length as the bigger ones have never worked out for me/too intimidating. Do you think this is a good range to stay in for a virgin? Or should I train to use larger ones? Im sorry I know this sounds dumb but I just dont want to gain unrealistic expectations nor get used to sizes that arent aligned with real people.
My favorite brand for these sizes is competitor removed by mod. They also have a collection of uncircumcised dildos that I thought was cute,I havent tried those yet though.
Agree with @batjamboree it is personal preference, it is whatever feels good for you.
If you are looking for dildos that mirror penis sizes then there is the realistic range which will give you some idea of sizes, perhaps anything over 8 inches is the exception.
There’s nothing wrong with preferring smaller sizes. If larger sizes are uncomfortable, stick with what you enjoy. If you get to a time when you want a larger size, then give it a go but until then, enjoy whatever you like! The only reason I can think of that might mean that you want to train yourself to use larger dildos is if you meet someone who’s penis is on the larger side and you want to get used to something of their size. I’m not able to have penetrative sex or play with dildos at the moment but, when I was able to, I also preferred small sizes, anything over 6 was too long so I couldn’t use the full length. Hopefully I will get back to that point again sometime in the future though!
Just a quick reminder though - we’re not supposed to mention competitor companies so it’s probably better for you to take that part out. You can post a link to the company on the “Pander to me” thread though - this is a thread of suggested products that you’d like LH to stock. I’d be interested so if you’re happy to post it in there, that would be awesome!
I don’t have a vagina but I think there is nothing wrong with the sort of size you are using. Over time you may consider going a little larger but just enjoy the experience, the time will come when you have the real thing but there is no rush. Good luck
I remember one of my sexiest dildo shopping experiences ever: I bought the Lovehoney BASICS 6 inch dildo. For me, it wasn’t about bigger or smaller, just different than my husband. It was about having had another penis (or penis-shaped thing) inside me, and the fact that I was no longer “good” (I lost my viriginity to my future husband at 18).
It’s all personal preference, some like big ones and some like small ones … it’s honestly like Goldilocks, and when you find the one that fits just perfect then you have found your match.
My partners have been so so different, my first girlfriend was an absolute size queen and loved huge toys, the second and third enjoyed average sizes and used lube. My partner, we literally had sparks when we first got together and she loved my size, she’s had a range of small to painful and she said it’s actually the physical and emotional side of things which is what matters.
But long story short, no pun intintended! It really is personal preference. Nobody is physically going to match the absolute monster huge toys, as it’s just not physically possible. So expectations is average of around 5-6inches In length
We’re all wobbly in our own ways so would say if toys up to 5” is your joy size then keep to it as there’s no need to go bigger if you’ve not got a desire for it
some like them big, other like them small, and then there them who just enjoy the girthy!
There’s nothing wrong with having a preference and sticking to it.
Also nothing wrong with exploring bigger if you want.
As to fear about “unrealistic expectations” I would just say from what my wife says that - size notwithstanding - nothing compares to the real thing. We have dildos ranging from smaller than me (for pegging, mostly) to much longer and thicker than me. We’ve got vibrators and clit-suckers and toys that can get her off in a matter of minutes. But given the choice she’d rather have me and her fingers together than any extravagant combination of toys. Not to mention my tongue, but that’s a whole different category, I think…
And as it happens, her preferred dildo is the one that’s a pretty good facsimile of what I’ve got naturally.
I was a late comer to dildos and had already had a few years of experience prior to as I favored clot stimulation at that point. Try what feels good, every vagina is different!
