To women who have them: Where did you find them???
To men who are them: where are you hiding?
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We are out there, plenty on here it seems
Chloe here : men who are open to using sex toys are hard to find sometimes and if in a relationship harder to introduce. as a woman i dont speak for all but i have been using toys since i was a teen and its always been fun but for men i think its very hard for them to have any without being stigmatized for doing so. Like its dirty or not appealing but i do think thats the industry thats to blame there becuase our toys can yes be vulgar and yet others can be simple and discrete. I found that a gentle intro slow and steady worked the best with my partner and now we have no shame or worry that one of us may go out one day and bring something back to use in the bedroom!
James here: i think many men find it hard to find something discreet but now its changing and its becoming more and more acceptable to own and use them. I was a big believer in what they can use i can use too. without shame or worry. Many men may own toys but never admit it to anyone due to the social aspect of owning one and how it think its still frowned upon for most. I personally have found the joy in using them. its great and only ends in amazing pleasure or a funny story to tell at a later date. I find no shame in my toy disasters or pleasures from it and it all comes from not giving a....... about what others may think as long as your safe and enjoying it!
I was the one who introduced wifey to toys etc :P now we. Have quite the collection.
I was about 45 when an ex introduced me to her collection .. didn’t phase me at all an Di grew used to using them very quickly.
when that ended I introduced my next partner to my first toy and for a while we both shopped online in here and enjoyed immensely.I don’t se there’s any stigma in it once you get older ...
I am in my middle fifty’s and only just started my collection. I am at the training stage and just getting to know what I like and don’t like.
I wish that I had purchased something years ago, but to be honest never gave it a thought until recently. I do feel that there is still a stigma to owning sex toys, however I feel that there is a lot of people that have them and more importantly enjoy using them.
I like to use toys on her and have for some time but recentky decided to branch out and find toys to be used on me. Anything that enhances sensations interests me. Just got us a rabbit cock ring and looking forward to seeing what it’ll add.
I’ve been into toys in the bedroom for years both me and the ex have had loads over the years. Would not be phased by any partner who has toys and am up to try anything.
None of my previous partners were really into using toys but my current partner never had an issue with it and to be honest he is probably more into that me and is terrible for encouraging me lol. Most of the toys we own are due to his encouragment.
He likes to get involved too, helping me use the toys as well as watching. His favourite is a realistic silicone dildo we own, he likes to watch me use it and then have me make him give it a "blowjob" afterwards, he says the fact it is silicone menas it doesn't feel or taste plasticy at all so he can enjoy it.
I've always enjoyed my OH using toys. I love just watching her with them.
Honestly, I love to use toys both on her, myself and between us.
I understand that a lot of guys won't want to discuss it in an open forum, with friends or with their OH but i feel that they are missing out on so much!!!
I find watchibg my OH use toys on herself extremely sexual and she enjoys it too.
GUYS - There are probably a lot of you out there who want to/are interested in using toys but don't want to approach the subject, and if you are, then maybe look at bringing it out in conversation, personally I handed her the laptop with LH open for our regular 'essential' products and said at that point for her to have a look around on it and add in as many things as she likes to the basket for me to then go through them and buy the things I also enjoyed!
I introduced a couple of partners to sex toys and the like. An ex said he had no interest in it without me but I think I’ve planted the seed and he will go on to enjoy toy sex.
I don’t find people who already like or own them (not a conscious thing haha), I introduce them. For me it isn’t major if my partner isn’t in to toys so long as they don’t mind that I am; people generally know that I am kinky quite early on anyway.
My partner (male) was the one who induced me to toys. He will literally give anything a go 🤗
I was the one who introduced Mrs Onlyones to the idea of trying some toys,that was probably about
30 or so years ago.Our collection has grown quite considerably since then.
I'm just sort of here, lounging about, wondering where anyone is, let alone somebody who uses toys.
I found mine at work although we're not together now lol. I've not thought about dating again yet but hadn't occurred to me someone might be put off by my sizable collection of toys 🤔
My partner introduced me to toys. At the tender age when I was 51🙂
I think it’s in us all just need to unlock it she brought the worst out in me then I found her shyness disappear
Both my wife and me had used sex toys before we met. We bought a lot more and the collection just merged. :) We don't use sex toys in every or even most sessions, just when the mood or a specific activity takes us.
My husband introduced me to sex toys, he bought our first 5 years in and still does all the buying.