I’ve just tagged you in a post that I wrote last year about my experience of going through the menopause.
Basically it robbed me of ‘me’ for years before I realised what was happening to me. Unexplained horrific anxiety, zero confidence, no sex drive, rage from nowhere, insomnia and more. In hindsight I think I should have been on HRT years ago, but didn’t know. Now I am and this includes testosterone which was the missing piece of the jigsaw for me personally.
I feel more like ‘me’ than I have for years, life is so much better. Been with my OH for 38 years and we are now making up for lost time.
I would suggest both you AND your wife research the menopause together, the impact it has on literally every aspect of her life / body / brain and if HRT is an option for her. Good luck