First of all, hi, sorry for neglecting you lot somewhat but, this year thus far has been testing to say the least however, we are getting through things, working it all out and talking, like adults about any issues etc.
So, around a year ago I made the suggestion of swinging due in part to a lop sided sex life, inshort I wasn't getting much attention in the sack it would mainly be my wife being restrained, me oing down on her, teasing her and using toys on her while I got "my bit" towards the end.
A trip round the internet bought up a forum on another site where a guy was having similar issues, it was about 10-12 pages long and 3 or 4 years old, I read the lot and, on about page 7 or 8 swinging was suggested because, in the words of the poster as far as I remeber, it gives both parties the chance to get what they want.
I though about this and suggsted it, got a (playful) slap and the idea shot down. I had expected that but, at least I had asked. Fast forward a few months and a few bi curiosities crept in and, we did dip our toes (and only our toes) into the world of swinging and swapping, an eye opening experience but, we sensebly stopped before we did too much damage.
A rocky Xmas / New Year and we seem to be geting things sorted but, Mrs LUC - due in part i feel for falling for a work collegue she confided in whilst we were having problems bought up the possibilities of a polyonomus (sp) relationship.
I'll be honest. I'm not over impressed - she knows but, at the same time I don't know too much about it, she says she wants the possibility to see another chap for social dates, no overnights, sexual encounters but, my question is why? She's unsure. Now, she goes out with her friends, cinema, wild girls party weekends, spas and the like. I have no problem with that. I wouldnt have an isue with her going to say the cinema with a male friend of ours if thy both wanted to see a film I didn't or, as has happened on occations going for a quick meal / drink if our kids are atthe same event and coming home before going back to collect them is a waste of time as you'd be turning straight around again.
Sorry if this is a bit of a ramble, as you may tell I'm a bit confused, I've got a link to a site to give mesomething to read up on but at the mo its all just words on a page and nothing's going in if that makes sense.
Now, I know I instigated swinging, I expect someone will mention this but, it was a joint desicision for us to go in the end. The main reason we stopped was her quote "I don't want to share you with anyone else". I mentioned this to her, she has said *if* this goes ahead she would consider me visiting clubs on my own if I wished to get anything else citing she'd be more comfortable not seeing me doing anything to other people.
Again I'm confused. Wondered if anyone could give any advice on this but, in the meantime, I have a lot of reading to do...