So, my partner and I have been experimenting with anal for...oooh about a year now, and for the last 6 months (Playing a few times a week) we seem to have found his prostate, learned the kind of stimulation he likes and been tirelessly doing those things over and over and he constantly reports getting to a point where he feels like he is 'On the edge' He feels tingling all around his groin and down his penis and says it feels like he is about to cum. (Let me just add, this is all without any stimulation to his penis, just prostate.)
The 'problem' is that although he has been at this point many times over the months, he has yet to experience the prostate orgasm and we are unsure why, considering he is right there, ready to go over but...nothing. I am starting to have doubts that I will never be able to make him orgasm this way, that maybe my technique is wrong, or we are missing something that we should be doing at that moment.
What tends to happen is he builds up, says he is really close, says it feels amazing and just stays at that point more or less, dropping back a little then getting there again and then eventually, as time goes on, he says it just starts to feel too weird/intense and he has to stop. I asked him if it feels intense good or intense bad and he says he doesnt know, that it is kind of both, and that he really needs to pee or feels a weird feeling travelling through his body that kind of freaks him out a little. From what I have read, all of this sounds like he is close to a prostate orgasm, but as it gets so intense, he is stopping it because he cannot stand the sensation at that point.
We have ltried about 20 different toys and narrowed down to the ones he likes best, and I have tried different stimulation from slow and gentle in and out to fast jiggling (That one works best but by the time he reports getting close, my arm is literally....fucked! lol)
Mehhhh! I so want to give him this pleasure (I am not forcing it on him btw, he is always just as keen) for the most part, I will happily be down there for hours doing what feels good and it is getting a little....frustrating? I guess, for both of us, that I seem to have him there so often but either he is not letting himself go or I am not moving right at that moment, I dunno.
Anyway, guys who have experience with prostate orgasms, can you advise me? What does it feel like when you are close? What should he do when he is close? Relaxing? tensing? Pushing or flexing his PC muscles? Anything?
Just to let you know, he has no problem having dual orgasms, where I play with his prostate and his penis together and says they feel intense. We are just specifically seeing if we can give him a prostate orgasm without any penis stimulation (I appreciate it isn't easy and if he didn't report that he was so close to one, I would have probably let the idea of trying this slide, but it seems....possible for him....well.....it seems close anyway.
Literally any advice or tips or information would be helpful, even if you just tell me what it feels like, so he can read this and be reassured about these intense feelings that weird him out, Anything? Help! lol