Basically in a female led relationship you get to make all the decisions.
You control how, and how often he can have an orgasm. You can tease him and edge him mercilessly but not allow him to come until you allow it.
You can order him to pleasure you any time and in any way you want.
You can make him watch (tied up/blindfolded if you wish) while you pleasure yourself or you can simply send him away while you pleasure yourself.
In our relationship i was kept locked in a chastity cage and was denied an orgasm for up to 6 weeks while she had at least one orgasm every day.
Have a look here. It’s a long topic but it should answer most of your questions.