WOW - thanks folks :) I didn't expect a response that fast. I just didn't know how far I could go to try and explain.
OK - now it's only been recently that I've realised, when I woke in the night, what was going on. My learned / taught experience was that if you woke in the night it's probably due to needing to pee - so I headed sleepily to the bathroom next door . OH and BTW we always slept in the raw :) So if I didn't get quickly to the bathroom I felt as if I was leaking and was somewhat embarrassed. I probably wasn't - now I suspect it was my 'juices' making their presence felt - we normally would have play and sex everynight [ always in bed though and alwats with the curtains closed - that generation thing again]
Now I'm waking very very definitely aroused - my nipples are normally rock hard and my vaginal area is definitely uncomfortable [ my labia are very definitely throbbing - I can feel it without touching them ] and I'm moist , very very moist and it's NOT wee.
As I say my body is telling me that it's neeeding some help - so I want to help it and masturbation is the only possible way. I never masturbated normally , felt it wasn't 'right' but I once did when we were away on holiday and I thought my husband was sleeping - we were up a mountain in Portugal and just lying there under the sun and I slipped my hand in my knickers and felt my Clit - was it big :D so I helped it along but I never actually got an orgasm - but I enjoyed the experience. Much later he told me he had watched me and enjoyed seeing me enjoy myself.
Orgasms came later only after about 20 years and oh my , I did enjoy letting go and allowing myself to flood the place once I reached that pitch that I was nearly screaming for him to enter me and he would continue to stroke and manipulate my clitoris unti I felt I was exploding and would be peeing everywhere. I could not get to that pitch unless he played with my clit - I didn't get the same with just penetration - I had to have my clit played with to reach what I presume was an orgasm , by heck it was really good though.
Last night I woke - pretty wet but not with very erect nipples - I decided to have a go again. Got my nipples hard and moved down to my clit . Now here we have a problem - I've had bad elbow injuries in the past and neither arm straightens fully and I'm FAT , very fat and my tummy gets in the way so positioning is not easy. I managed , on my back slightly angled to one side with the upper leg bent and angled outwards and I could reach my clitoris , so I started to rub it gently but it wasn't really responding :( My labia were enlarged but despite the stimulation weren't getting any bigger and it wasn't really getting any better. I can't reach into my vagina but believe me I was well lubricated . The night before I got much further along but didn't get to climax - nowhere near.
I was frustrated / annoyed with myself - I'm clearly needing some help .
I'm now thinking about my Rabbit - this one
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14099
OK I've watched the video about it - read the reviews etc but still wondering how it will be best for me to use it.
Do I switch it on before I place it in my vagina ? Do I use the ears first and then insert the shaft ? Should I just go for it and use both parts from the beginning.
Yes I know , I'm panicking about this , but I want to get rid of all this pent up frustration . I want to be alive again , my sexual bits are telling me that they are ready and need to work again.
I've only ever had the one partner - we were both virgins . We were married for 44 years. I can't see myself at 70 plus having another partner - but I want to experience sexual pleasure again .
Does any of this make sense to you ?
This has caused me quite a bit of possibly shame , discomfort and embarrassment having to admit I don't know what to do . I've not found any of this easy - it took a hell of a lot of courage to phone and talk to Laura yesterday and order up my little soon-to-be-my-best-friend. But I did it and that's the first stage over - now comes to time of putting it into practice - and I'm terrified that things will go wrong .
I'm sorry I've poured out everything like this - it's made a heck of a long epistle and you'll be bored reading it. Why have I done it - because you seem to be so open - knwo far more than me and I'm hoping you will be able to help me