Ladies I would love to get your feedback and honest opinion on you receiving oral sex. How many women here love receiving oral and how many do not like having a man go down on them??? The reason I am asking you is , my wife says its nasty and immoral and forbids me to ever try such with her.Love to hear your honest opinions !
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There is nothing better than a man giving oral sex - itās just earth shattering (as long as he knows what he is doing)
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Definitely NOTā¦she said that was totally out of the question and does not see that as sex.
Nope, itās the only partnered way I orgasm. I love it, but I love it even more when he does it because HE wants to 
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@southernstar how long have you been together? Nobody is obligated to do anything ā¦ but, for me, thatās a worrying response/attitude.
I feel thereās a deeper reason for your question.
If done right oral sex can be mind blowing and i can have the most amazing orgasm but for me i have to be in the notion for oral sex if my OH hasnt shaved and has a bit of stubble i cant stand him going down on me as i just find it irritating
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Well she is thinking like this maybe because she never had a goog orgasm from it. It is absolutely normal. Buy wine, make her a bit drunk and horny and then show her how nice it is 
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If her objection is on the grounds of morality then itās irrelevant whether other women like it or not.
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The morality issue seems a little strange, but if she isnāt into it then that stance needs to be respected.
The OH loves it, but not all the time, she needs to be in the mood for oral sex, which sometimes equates to after she has had a shower or bath. Whereas I feel that her natural taste and smell is part of the attraction and turn on.
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I absolutely adore it and I can become quite eager, especially with my current partner. Even the first touch of his mouth/tongue in that region sends me a little wild. Iām definitely a fan of oral sex.
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Nearly 12 yearsā¦the deeper reason for me is that I love pleasuring a woman and especially Oralā¦When I was in college a met a girl/woman and we hit it off and dated for nearly 3 yrs before moving onā¦I knew about oral but certainly not much about the female anatomy (especially the clitoris and how actually touch or lick it) ā¦she taught me all about her vagina and where things were and how to make love to itā¦so, from there I thought all women liked for a man to perform oral on them til I was blindsided by my current partner/wifeā¦I was totally dumbfounded when she has a hissy fit when I tried to go down on her ā¦this was when I was informed she neither wanted such and said it was not sex and was nasty and immoral.
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So youāve gone 12 years just accepting thatās her point of view ā¦ and I guess now youāre thinking thereās hope that sheāll come around to it?
ā¦ well, good on you for choosing love over sexual activities. But I feel for you too. My wife (together 20 years) has avoided receiving oral sex due to a pretty major body insecurity that she only admitted to me a few months ago.
I wonder if your wife has been doing the same? Calling it gross etc means perhaps she doesnāt have to face/talk about the real reasons/s sheās avoided it all this time.
Iām the same ā¦ I had a girlfriend in my early 20ās who was very open sexually, and she loved my love for going down. I find giving a woman pleasure like that quite intoxicating. My OH isnāt quite there yet, but weāre talking about it ā¦
Interested to hear how your journey with this continues, and I wish you luck with it 
Well Lucas I have actually given up on the idea that she will come aroundā¦she let me know years ago that there would be NO more discussion about oral sexā¦discussion over and she absolutely would never change her mind on that !! That has actually put a damper on me wanting to make love to herā¦its always like something is missing and I feel my arousal dropping off and like I am just going thru the motions of having sex with herā¦I absolutely will not cheat on her but I will have to say it has crossed my mind a few timesā¦I am sure there is no body insecurity with herā¦she is 5ā7 and around 140 lbs and very nicely shapedā¦I have also gotten to the point of where I watch porn (she does not know that I watch porn) and masturbate a lot to satisfy my sexual drive !! Thanks for your observation and comments.
I hear you. I really do.
Donāt give up hope. People make all sorts of decisions and ultimatums for all sorts of reasons.
My OH is gorgeous ā¦ always has been. Adorable face, amazing body - she really is a beautiful woman - yet sheās still incredibly insecure. She struggles to be naked with me if thereās even low-level lighting, and hates the idea of me seeing between her legs. Itās possible your wife suffers from insecurity, body shame, or something else thatās made her super-resistant to certain things.
ā¦ this morning my OH and I made love, which included about 10-15 mins of me going down on her (and she told me felt really good afterwards). She isnāt quite ready to let her mind go and allow me to make her orgasm like that yet ā¦ but she said sheād like to work on it.
I thought for years that itād never happen, and went through a period where I was watching porn, masturbating a lot and even had a few thoughts about seeking āfunā elsewhere. After many honest conversations - without blame attached - now I barely masturbate, donāt watch porn, and am seeing my wife open up to me more.
Youāre allowed to feel pain from it. Thatās totally ok. I imagine you feel rejected, and the lack of trust/openness can really hit your confidence. There is a way through it. #brohugs
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Well Lucas I do feel rejectedā¦I donāt feel complete when we have sex and to some extent I find excuses to not initiate sex with the OHā¦Oral sex is who I am and what I truly enjoy performing on a woman. all be it not on the OH because she detests the idea of me doing that to herā¦in the beginning I tried talking to her about me going down on her and it soon became apparent it was a useless discussionā¦She seems satisfied with our sex life where as I feel unsatisfied, unappreciative and unfulfilledā¦I am very sure if she ever caught me masturbating there would be untold consequences and much berating ā¦I hear other men talking about going down on their wives/girlfriends and it makes me feel so angry that I cannot perform something that I really enjoy doing with my own wifeā¦well anyhow, I guess back to watching porn and masturbating to get sexual satisfaction !!Hereās hoping your wife warms up to the idea of letting you go down on here as much as you desireā¦
@southernstar outside of not being able to perform oral sex on your OH, is she receptive to other sexual activities? Anal, mutual masturbation, any toys, or is your sex life pretty vanilla? What really turns her on or what turns you both on that you can focus on so sex is fulfilling?
NO J, she is not receptive to other things such as anal or toys and certainly not mutual masturbationā¦Yes, sex life is very vanilaā¦ I rarely see her totally necked and when I do she quickly covers upā¦I have discussed sex toys with her and she says NO way, not interestedā¦when I try to discuss sex with her she usually changes the subject or says not interested in discussing suchā¦In my relationships before her, oral sex was a huge part of it and not bragging, but I was very good at pleasuring my partner orally and several had commended me on getting them off and paying so much attention to their needs.
We love oral.
69 is our favourite position.
My man really knows how to lick my bean and I love sucking him dry.
Whatās not to like about sucking each others genitals??
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Thank you GoGirl for sympathisizing with meā¦Its well appreciatedā¦You know I have often wondered why when you are single , out dating different women you always find women who have the same sex drive as you and the same sexual interests as you, but when you end up finding that āRight Partnerā or so you think, their sexual desires and drive are completely 180 degrees different than yoursā¦absolutely NO compatability what so ever and one or both end up never being sexually satisfied and always frustrated with the other partnerā¦ Is it that rare that couples find themselves liking the same sexual desires and kinks or is that all an illusion??? I simply loves going down on a womanā¦I love looking at her vagina and telling her how beautiful it is and how good it tastesā¦it is such a turn on for me that I can actually cum just lying there between her legs playing with her beautiful anatomyā¦I am so frustrated and disappointed in my sexual life at the present that I have considered seeking an affair but have not acted on itā¦Watching porn and masturbating has its benefits but not the same pleasure as coupled sex. Thanks for your response to my delimiaā¦
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@southernstar theres support here when you need it.
Can I just say - one of the biggest things that helped in my relationship was when I finally stopped thinking about how hurt I was, dropped the anger and blame, and showed my wife more warmth and compassion.
You will never convince a woman to do anything by talking about it over and over, reminding her about how sheās not good enough. Your comments are raw and honest, but also come with a tinge of resentment. But this is the woman you love ā¦ so love her.
She covers herself up, hates talking about sex ā¦ I suspect she gets angry at you because itās the only way she knows how to protect herself from feeling like a failure. She needs to hear you tell her itās ok to feel the way she does ā¦
ā¦ itās the first step to get her feeling like maybe - just maybe - she might be able to change.
And she can change dude. She can.
We all can.
Nothing is set in stone.
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