Hi,
I am a straight male and for years thought I was a bit weird as I enjoy anal penetration (I love the feeling and sensations but who on earth dreamt up the name Pegging?), but having read this thread feel soooo much happier knowing that I am not alone.
I just need to talk my wife into giving pegging a try
Mr Cheeky Monkey wrote:
but who on earth dreamt up the name Pegging?
Unlike most term this has a well documented origin - a poll conducted by Dan Savage. We were already quite into it at the time and were rather disappointed by the result - still that is democracy for you 
I have heard very often that Dan Savage instigated a poll to come up with the specific name. I do wonder however what the other potential names were and whether or not they would have stuck.Gyrator53 wrote:
Mr Cheeky Monkey wrote:
but who on earth dreamt up the name Pegging?
Unlike most term this has a well documented origin - a poll conducted by Dan Savage. We were already quite into it at the time and were rather disappointed by the result - still that is democracy for you
Pegging is an unusual name. I had no idea what it was, I knew the act but pegging just seemed a little cutesy much like "cottaging" sounds like a lovely Sunday day out đ
We have been experimenting with plugs, beads and dildos after the husband came out with wanting to be pegged. We are very open and honest with out wants and desires. To begin with it was me holding back. Now he has decided we should wait a little longer. He enjoys what we are doing so wants that bit extra time before moving forward.
lol Rosycheek I agree cottaging does drum up the very same image in my head đ And pegging, I think of lovely sunny days getting the washing on the line đ
Speaking of which I pegged oh the other night for the first time and I was surprisingly okay with it except I didn't get anything from it apart from a laugh. Oh wasn't too sure about it in the end either. Going to give it another go though. I just felt a bit numb and was going through the motions, it did nothing for me mentally or physically, is that normal? Oh said it was too deep at times but he didn't say this during, his eyes just rolled back in his head. Tried talking to him about it but I'm not getting much feedback. Feeling confused but he wants to do it again sometime. I don't know what to think đ
Lil_Red_Kinkyboots wrote:
I was surprisingly okay with it except I didn't get anything from it apart from a laugh.
We use a double-ended dildo (usually the Share XL) with a suitable harness and this works really well for my wife and me. Although such dildos are sold as 'strapless strapons' we have never found them to work well without a harness but with a good harness the saddle of the toy stimulates the clit and the the wearer's 'bulb' is good for g-spot stim (especially the Share XL with its well positioned ridge).
I must say that my wife not getting much out of pegging with a normal strapon put a significant brake on my enjoyment so maybe your OH sensed you didn't get much out of it - might explain his lack of feedback.
Gyrator53 wrote:
Lil_Red_Kinkyboots wrote:
I was surprisingly okay with it except I didn't get anything from it apart from a laugh.
We use a double-ended dildo (usually the Share XL) with a suitable harness and this works really well for my wife and me. Although such dildos are sold as 'strapless strapons' we have never found them to work well without a harness but with a good harness the saddle of the toy stimulates the clit and the the wearer's 'bulb' is good for g-spot stim (especially the Share XL with its well positioned ridge).
I must say that my wife not getting much out of pegging with a normal strapon put a significant brake on my enjoyment so maybe your OH sensed you didn't get much out of it - might explain his lack of feedback.
That's an interesting observation, certainly one to look at in deciding what to choose for her enjoyment too, thanks
Thanks so much Gyrator. I will look at your suggestion it's good to know that I'm not the only one that has experienced this. Had a chat with my oh tonight and he said he hated that I wasn't getting anything from it and it did put him off as it has to be enjoyable for us both. He just wants me to continue with toys at the moment and I'm happy with that.
We will take it from there but neither of us have ruled out trying again and I will be looking for something to satisfy us both like you suggested.
You've been a big help đ
Gyrator53 wrote:
Lil_Red_Kinkyboots wrote:
I was surprisingly okay with it except I didn't get anything from it apart from a laugh.
We use a double-ended dildo (usually the Share XL) with a suitable harness and this works really well for my wife and me. Although such dildos are sold as 'strapless strapons' we have never found them to work well without a harness but with a good harness the saddle of the toy stimulates the clit and the the wearer's 'bulb' is good for g-spot stim (especially the Share XL with its well positioned ridge).
I must say that my wife not getting much out of pegging with a normal strapon put a significant brake on my enjoyment so maybe your OH sensed you didn't get much out of it - might explain his lack of feedback.
Thanks for this info Gyrator53. My hubby mentioned pegging to me and I have to admit the thought of doing that to him doesn't turn me on, however a double-ended dildo with harness might be a better option so we can both enjoy it.
Lil_MissNaughty wrote:
Gyrator53 wrote:
Lil_Red_Kinkyboots wrote:
I was surprisingly okay with it except I didn't get anything from it apart from a laugh.
We use a double-ended dildo (usually the Share XL) with a suitable harness and this works really well for my wife and me. Although such dildos are sold as 'strapless strapons' we have never found them to work well without a harness but with a good harness the saddle of the toy stimulates the clit and the the wearer's 'bulb' is good for g-spot stim (especially the Share XL with its well positioned ridge).
I must say that my wife not getting much out of pegging with a normal strapon put a significant brake on my enjoyment so maybe your OH sensed you didn't get much out of it - might explain his lack of feedback.
Thanks for this info Gyrator53. My hubby mentioned pegging to me and I have to admit the thought of doing that to him doesn't turn me on, however a double-ended dildo with harness might be a better option so we can both enjoy it.
I'd love to know if any women do use these and does it have that effect? Any observations/recommendations welcome in regards this.
Yes - Ruby writes very persuasively doesn't she.
It's a pity the toy manufacturers have not taken more notice of what she has to say about the need for a harness with doubles as the 'strapless' sales-pitch stops them designing and manufacturing harnesses specifically for this type of toy.
All a double needs is support - there is no need for a ring as per a conventional dildo and in the end we have taken to making our own harnesses that simply have a strong waist-band that won't pull down over the hips and three straps from that supporting a small gusset making the whole thing like a low-cut thong but, thanks to the full waist band, able to pull up very firmly on the saddle of the toy to keep it in good contact with the wearer while allowing most of the trusting forces to be carried back to the bulb inside the wearer (with all the attendant good things they provide!).
There are commercial harnesses that do the job but the ring just makes getting the toy in and harness on more trouble than it need be.
Hi
I was encouraged to have a look at this.
Firstly - I hate the term pegging!! But I love the act. We don't do it that often and haven't done it as part of a love making session rather just when we are having a dirty session!!!
I am new to the forum and I wrote the other day about cumming through a prostate orgasm (again sounds so unsexy!) - it was my first time actually ejaculating that way but holy fÂŁ&k!!! It was amazing and I moaned and groaned like an animal!
It is the ultimate form of trust for a couple to engage in having sex with a strap on. It has so many connotations about whether it is "gay" for a man to be penetrated by a woman - I find there nothing more sexy than my partner dressed up in beautiful fetish gear with a brightly coloured rubber cock. And as for her to penetrate me????? And me be so submissive without actually being her slave!!!
It is a tough conversation to bring this up. Some people don't like the anal play - so I am thankful that my wife is so open sexually to all my like peccadilloes and I to hers.
So really just introducing myself to this part of the forum.. maybe to answer sone questions as part of my experiences or share what has gone down - excuse the pun.
Glad you enjoy wee bear, and welcome!
Also, I've just learnt a new word - peccadillo! Love it haha
Has anyone any experience of the Sharon Sloan dildo pants?
I love latex but haven't really done it.
OMG the feeling of toys especially large ones is amazing I have taken THE GREAT AMERICAN CHALLENGE! It's amazing but to be pegged would be my Ultimate đ¤đđFreakyDigital wrote:
Pegging is super hot to me. I've used extremely large dildo's on my ass a few times and I absolutely love the feeling of being penetrated, even despite being straight. A girl fucking me with a strap-on is taking it to a next level which combines several of my biggest fetishes, I really want a girl to peg me.
My Favourite on lovehoney
I think this is a great thread, I have just started to explore using plenty of lube and fingers. I am straight and really enjoy the sensation. My late OH wasn't keen so we never tried anal. So solo it is. Not sure what the best anal toy is for beginners to use solo...there are several on Lovehoney but which to choose? Any thoughts.?
And yes one of my fantasies is to be dominated and pegged as so many have eluded to on this thread....I wish!!
Richie1 wrote:
I think this is a great thread, I have just started to explore using plenty of lube and fingers. I am straight and really enjoy the sensation. My late OH wasn't keen so we never tried anal. So solo it is. Not sure what the best anal toy is for beginners to use solo...there are several on Lovehoney but which to choose? Any thoughts.?
And yes one of my fantasies is to be dominated and pegged as so many have eluded to on this thread....I wish!!
I'm glad to hear that you're enjoying the wonders of anal play Richie, lots of straight guys are into it - myself included!
I'd definitely recommend getting a suction dildo such as http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=34201. This shouldn't be too much of a stretch if you can get three fingers in right now. If not then go for something a little smaller. When you finally get one to your preferred size then stick it to a door, shower wall, or (my personal favourite) a mirror on the floor and ride to your heart's content!
ScottishSweethearts wrote:
Richie1 wrote:
I think this is a great thread, I have just started to explore using plenty of lube and fingers. I am straight and really enjoy the sensation. My late OH wasn't keen so we never tried anal. So solo it is. Not sure what the best anal toy is for beginners to use solo...there are several on Lovehoney but which to choose? Any thoughts.?
And yes one of my fantasies is to be dominated and pegged as so many have eluded to on this thread....I wish!!
I'm glad to hear that you're enjoying the wonders of anal play Richie, lots of straight guys are into it - myself included!
I'd definitely recommend getting a suction dildo such as http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=34201. This shouldn't be too much of a stretch if you can get three fingers in right now. If not then go for something a little smaller. When you finally get one to your preferred size then stick it to a door, shower wall, or (my personal favourite) a mirror on the floor and ride to your heart's content!
Thank you ScottishSweethearts. This looks good, can't wait to get my hands on it. Like the idea of a mirror, must try that.