Morning all I’m really keen to try pegging with my GF. She isn’t interested 
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Give it time. Lots of posts here on this subject. I am taking my OH on a journey to pegging. She knows I want to try and we have got to quasi pegging - using dildo on me, but without the harness, cock massaging at same time. I really like it, feels great. So I am hoping we will graduate to full on pegging now she knows it does not hurt me and I like it.
A case of one small step after another.
She wont regret it if you do it right the first time, i absolutely love it.
If you’ve told her it’s something you’d like to do and she has said no then that’s the end of the conversation. Maybe she will think on it now she knows, maybe she won’t. Ball is in her court and there is nothing more you can do.
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Wise words @Calie
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Respectfully I’m not sure what you’re looking for here. Is there a question?
Suction dildo in the shower ?
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Let her choose the harness or pants and then the toy - she may prefer a dildo that does not look like a penis
It depends whether she’s not interested, or whether she is unsure about trying it?
If the idea doesn’t do anything for her you can’t make her interested, or ask her to do something she doesn’t want to. Please don’t take it for granted that because people in the forum say ‘she will enjoy it,’ she actually will. Different people have different preferences and different turn ons.
If she’s unsure about the practicalities etc there is a lot of advice across the forum you could share with her. Have a no pressure chat.
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What I found with my new partner was she showed signs of being adventurous in some department but only because she was unsure in others. How ever one night when drunk I shared with her my fantasy and the look on her face. I instantly thought oh no what have I done shedding think I’m weird and dump me. How wrong can I be. She went out bought strap on and got me toys
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Well that sucks. Other than chatting to her about it, I can’t think of anything else to advise… sometimes in relationships you have to just compromise.
Maybe if is was discussed in a different way in the future there may be more success. Sometimes when things are left on the backburner and revisited occasionally then it’s not as daunting as the first time.
My partner has often come round to an idea, sometimes a long time after I first hinted that we could try it.
If you’ve spoken to her about it and she isn’t interested or said no, why this thread?
Not sure what anyone else thinks, but I would be pretty angry if my OH made a post like this, after we spoke and I told him I didn’t want to try something.
Time to respect her decision.
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It does seem people look for a way to manipulate their partner around to their way of thinking.
My H likes watersports. I’ve tried it a few times and it doesn’t do anything but bore me. 
So, we don’t do it. I would have no respect for him if he tried to pressure me into doing it. I couldn’t care less how much other people enjoy it, or how ‘lucky’ those people must be to have a partner who enjoys it.
We are very open about our desires. We swing, we have to be, but our golden rule is ‘unless we both want it, it doesn’t happen.’ And we have a lot of fun.
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It’s all about taking small steps, especially if she’s not up to the idea. Some women can be scared away by the idea of pegging as they may not find it an attractive way to have sex, unless they’ve previously experienced it. Sometimes it could be fear of the poonami appearing, or maybe the thought of you not really being attracted to woman in a sexual way. Or maybe she just doesn’t fancy the idea. Someone mentioned on this forum about a free app which you can both install and it asks questions about kinks what you’d both like to do or not do to each other, it’s called “spicer”. You both link each other to the app so you can see each others answers, it’s a great way to see what you’d both like to do to each other.
Or you can Start by asking her to finger your arse whilst she’s giving you oral or why you’re penetrating her. If this works it’s step one complete, then buy a couple of small dildos and introduce these into your play time. Use them on her mainly, at first then whilst she’s fingering your arse hole and your using a dildo on her, ask her to use another one on you. If this works that’s step two complete. After a while of toying like this just explain that you’d love her to wear it as a strap on as you want to feel closer to her as she fucks you. Before you know it she’ll be dominating you.
I’ve been married nearly 11 years and together for nearly 17years, it took us years to finally get into pegging as I didn’t want her thinking I wasn’t really into her sexually. We started this way, and then I bought her a strap on and asked her to wear it during play instead. Now she pegs me once per week, including fisting me, which she swore she’d never do until I bought a fisting toy, which she just ended chucking on the floor and used her own fist instead. We’re very open now, and we are totally filthy under the covers, but you know what? It’s made us such a strong couple and probably saved our relationship too, as we don’t need to look elsewhere for our kink fix.
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Seriously, what’s an OH?!
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We are not married or engaged. Technically boyfriend but we’ve got a child, own a house together and been together over 12 years. Where we live, other half is a popular term, some people might say partner. Personal preference I guess. And I don’t want to get married (he’s fine with that). Also boyfriend doesn’t sound great after so long together. Sorry for story
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I would question whether a relationship is strong if you’re prepared to “look elsewhere.” I’m inferring from your comment: cheating on your partner to get your “kink fix.”
For my H his desire for watersports fun is far less than his desire to be faithful to me, which surely is how it should be?
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Maybe you might meet a swinging coup!e where the female might be willing to indulge in your hubby’s kink.
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I haven’t seen anyone practicing watersports in clubs. But a private meet, you never know.
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