What is perfect sex? How do you make sex the best it can possibly be?
When someone reads this, what do you recommend is the most important components that would help people achieve their best sex life?
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If someone had asked me 10, 20, 30, 40, or 45 years ago i would have said that our sex was perfect then, but its so much better now.
The difference?
In the last 5 years weâve started talking to each other openly about what we really want and need from each other.
Donât leave it as long as we did to communicate openly and honestly.
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Yes I agree with @rockstar you got to talk about it to have the best possible sex you can ever have with each other.
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What do you talk about? Positions? Toys? foreplay?
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Yes @Natalie talk about your desires, what you would like to be done to you and what you would like to do. But also donât forget to talk about the things that turn you off and definitely no go situations.
Basically getting talking about everything, you donât have to talk about it all in one go, gradually talk about things, try to think of things you or your partner might like, dressing up/role play/scent play etcâŚ
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Definitely talking about what you want and donât be afraid to experiment I wish we had been more adventurous 20 years ago as our sex
Life is a million times more exciting now and we feel more sexually connected now than ever we were back then .
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Being comfortable with yourselves is definitely key
Iâve so much more confidence in my own body and know my emotions so much better in the last 5 years or so
Itâs a contentious topic I know but I think my confidence has been helped by the cam fun I have with other guys
Iâm not afraid to enjoy sex anymore and express myself as I get excited and show my wife how much she turns me on and what I enjoy
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this is OH. We tell each other what feels good and what doesnât. We take our time - thereâs no rush to orgasm. Afterwards we cuddle - except after anal - then thereâs some cliean up first.
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Perfect sex can look like many different things to many different people, at the end of the day I think itâs important to have honest and open communication with your partner! Personally, I feel that for me for sex to be perfect it needs to involve deep intimacy. I want to feel safe both emotionally and physically and I want to be loved. For sex to be absolutely perfect for me I think I need aftercare
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I donât think there is a one set guide to having perfect sex as sex with a partner is more of a unique journey into the exploration of what both enjoys and vibes fromâŚ
but maybe the base lines would be good floor play to warm up, oral, intercourse and then tenderness affection after with some pillow talk?!
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Perfect sex for us was the simultaneous orgasm we experienced on our honeymoon.
It has only occurred a few times since but to us as it was the first time it happened, it was such Perfect Sex that we couldnât believe it.
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I donât think there is such a thing as perfect sex. There is perfect sex for that moment, but what is perfect now may not be perfect later. Such is desire and horniness.
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What makes sex perfect then? 
I donât think itâs so much having the âperfect sexâ so much as having a partner thatâs perfect for you, and you for them, and this goes beyond mere physicality to embrace communication, desire, trust and intimacy of course. Although I still idly wonder what other people would be like in the sack, I firmly believe I have found my last, perfect sexual partner in Sexterminatrix. Sure, at our age some positions are harder or even out of the question, but we love and cherish every minute we spend together, in and out of the bedroom. That, to me, is perfect sex.
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Perfect sex for us is not only about Cumming but about have a good time together and exploring every part of one another. Its important to enjoy each otherâs body 
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Perfect sex - our love making sessions have changed greatly in the 15yrs iâve been with Mr Wetla.
When we first met it was very vanilla - piv in missionary position and him giving me oral. We were both satisfied and happy. We dabbled in doggy sometimes!!
Kids came along and our love making varied - long spells without, turning to self pleasure but always communicating. i spent most of my 30âs pregnant!!
Then i hit 40 and become more in tune with my sexual needs, desires. 42 i began to squirt, started giving Me Wetla blow jobs, we dabbled in bdsm, anal play and add to our toy collection regularly.
The key for us is communication - what we want, what we like what we donât like and when to stop.
I take each love making session on it own merits - i donât compare each session to it previous. Sometime the perfect session for me is gushing, sometimes itâs climaxing from piv, other times itâs watching hubby climaxing from self pleasure, from the blow job im giving him.
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It changes based on mood. Sometimes you want it super soft and gentle and tender, other times you just need to dominate her, and spit on her when youâre fucking her face.
There is no constant âperfect sexâ. Only what what perfect at the time.
The only real constant for me is that sex will always be improved by having my balls licked and ass eaten.
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I think it is different for every couple. For us its about pleasuring each other. Hubby said he feels he is a selfless lover as he is only interested in giving me pleasure but does also enjoys the pleasure i give him. Most of our lovemaking is like this but sometimes we like some spanking, restraints and flogging but nothing degrading as that is not our thing.
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Perfect sex, hmmmm. 
I think this is a question that can be answered. However, what is âperfectâ for me and my partner may be totally different than what you and yours enjoy.
As I read all the responses, there are many great points, but the one constant Iâm seeing and agree with is ensuring you have open honest and specific communication with each other. As many have said expressing your needs, wants and desires to each other is key. Lesson learned for me, as you gain experience let down your guard and just share what youâre into with each other I wish I had been more open with that in the past 20 years with my wife. Just now starting to do that more and itâs been amazingly erotic and much more sensual sex.
Iâm pasting a quote below from @WaveyAlien, because she really makes a point that I feel many of us can relate to, feeling safe emotionally and physically I feel will lead to more open communications. Otherwise, do what you like and have good safe fun! Sex is one of the most amazing things that we as humans experience
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Perfect sex in my mind, is when sach of you is making as much effort as possible to satisfy the other.
If you have already identified each others likes, dislikes , kinks, then focus on these with selfless regard.
If you are both intent on this, it will go along way to achieving perfect sex .
Care and effort has to be a two way street, even if that means indulging in aspects that may not be your favourite.
You do it because you want to fulfil them sexually and emotionally.
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