My sex life with my new boyfriend is like nothing ive ever experienced before, he makes me cum over and over and squirt (never had that happen before him).
Its intense and hes said that its the best sex of his life
But he is often unable to cum in me and lasts ages. He said this isn’t normal for him and he isn’t getting a huge amount out of it (in terms of making him orgasm).
I get really wet and I wonder if its partly that. But he also mentioned that it feels like porn sex, so wondering if we need to focus more on foreplay for him and “love making”.
I love him and want him fulfilled, any advice welcome
On the one hand, yes, if he’s feeling that your sex is too porn-like then that sounds to me like a disconnect on the intimacy front. However, my husband had this same grudge (I was kinky when he met me, so low and slow kinda bored me) and now he’s the one that doesn’t seem to know what “gentle” means. Slow down with him and be more gentle with him, but don’t be at all surprised if he prefers to pick up the tempo anyway
When I start taking longer than usual to cum (or can’t seem to cum at all) it’s often because I’m either 1) watching too much porn, or 2) masturbating too much.
Can’t speak on behalf of all men, but that’s my experience. I doubt it’s because of any of the reasons you’ve suggested.
Again, just talking on my experiences.
Tell him to slow down. Tell him straight “if you want to go slow, go slow”. I have two Dominants myself, sometimes they appreciate the straight talk. Good luck
I overlooked this detail but yes, if he’s watching too much porn that will definitely cause issues and alter his perceptions of what sex is/should be. It may be a good idea to talk about reducing his porn intake a little bit so he can focus on having real sex.
When I first met my now new partner we was having sex virtually every hour of the day i must add her he is a lot older than me and he was concerned he would not be able to satisfy me as time went on
He would go for ages making me orgasam for ages and his always felt he could not cum I think in your case as mine its a new relationship and your still in those early days of exploring each other.
You both seem tovery happy with each other so i would not be putting to much pressure on each other just do what you enjoy
If he is making you that wet, how about condoms for him, sounds strange, but worked for me in the past.
I also ask for cowgirl, and that always delivers very fast results.
When it becomes a mind block thing, I always mix things up and try different locations so you don’t get in a rut. Maybe a car journey somewhere.
For you both, temption and teasing will get you both worked up.
Your new found relationship and sex life has been fantastic to read, now you are in the finessing stage to ensure that you both feel fulfilled from your sex lives.
@The_Little_Ladybird Don’t put it all on your self. Unfortunately I struggle with it as well … STRESS, SOME TIMES I THINK TO MUCH AND CANT RELAX. Could be alot of factors. I can about guarantee it’s not you. For me the intimacy and the feeling of being loved and foreplay does alot. You know not faking it. You all will figure it out. Take your time and communication is the key I believe, communication. You got it
I would agree with you, that you need to take control. If he’s dictating the pace and being the dominant one he may have a disconnect because he’s making sure you’re satisfied.
Porn star sex definitely sounds like jumping off wardrobe kind of sex, and is amazing but its less intimate and sensual. Have the sex that is the two of you wrapped around each other, looking in each others eyes and kissing. Thats the love connection and is what allows for the jumping off the wardrobe kind of sex.
I think less porn, more foreplay for him and lovemaking? would go down very well. Is he thinking he has to be a porn star every time? I am sure you can both work it out. Sending you both a big hug. @The_Little_Ladybird
