We love a dirty one! When I first met him, our default was sensual unless we planned what we wanted to do but our sex has always been incredible, no matter what it was. Now, dirty is our default as we’ve become a lot more adventurous and filthy so we have to plan for sensual. Sensual can still be dirty, just in a different way.
Give him some head swimmingly sensual sex and I’m hoping that he gets as much from it as you 
We are both the same to be honest it’s all about breaking those boundaries and understanding how each other like it I get drained of the oh completely and if I’m done and she’s not then we make sure she is with toys and other things are you the same ? X
We’re not done until we’re both done, both big fans of toys and of each other.
Interesting one to help you unravel and solve. You talk about going for ages before he comes with you having orgasms first, you also talk about watching lots of porn and wanking. Are you leaving enough time between the porn/ wanking and your PIV sessions for him to recover sufficiently to get fully aroused?
Also you talk about possibly more foreplay for him, is there much foreplay for you or do you mainly to to PIV action almost straight away. While he may be erect that doesnt mean he is fully aroused.
Do you ever have a passionate quickie, you know where you start with a simply kiss that then becomes a very passionate snogg, then your need to get naked and have your hands all over each other and cant wait to bang it out.
Everyones love making can go through cycles where you get into routines and sometimes firget the passion. Hard to always find the balance as lifes other needs take over.
Try something different and then talk to him about it to see if you both got something out of it.
Keep us updated, as I know you will.
Yeah you both have to be fully satisfied to the maximum I can cum two three times and morse so she x
Update
We made love last night, he did come once we switched to anal
I was fine with that, hes still concerned that he can’t finish in my pussy
I know there are probably lots of factors at play but doing my part, ive started doing my pelvic floor exercises again
I know everyone is “wetter the better” but i know lack of friction is part of this… he gives me orgasms as he is long so hitting my cervix
Trying to find natural ways to dry a vag seems impossible
Something seems a little off here, if you don’t mind me saying.
He managed to cum when having anal sex with you, but not vaginal. Now this is the bit where I have slight concern, I assume that when you have anal sex you use a lot of lubrication, therefore what is the difference between that lubrication and your natural lubrication, i.e. the wetness of your pussy?
My first question if it is not too personal, do you use condoms for both activities, as you appear that it is a friction issue.
The next suggestion would be either more foreplay for him before he enters you vaginally, or you try a different position, which increases the amount of friction on the head of penis.
Your natural lubrication is there for a reason.
Just a thought, but wouldn’t want you to think it is an issue that only you have to deal with, which feels like the tone of your comments.
No lube needed for anal… im.a pro 
However he isn’t actually a fan of anal
No condoms used and he has made it clear its an US problem Im just trying to do my part x
Fantastic, I sure that you will both work it out.
All the best.
Pelvic floor exercises will help, but I think orgasms help too bc thats your body naturally squeezing. You could use your fingers or some toys and edge yourself while he’s inside you, that will give him some more friction. If that works, get yourself some jiggle balls, they feel really nice too, like an internal massage as they move with your body.
Its lovely to read that you’re obviously communicating and working together in this 
Just wondering if he has a tight grip and requires lots of friction to finish when he masturbates? Lubrication is kinda there to protect your sensitive parts from friction, so I can see how it could potentially be unfair to expect you to be giving him a similarly iron grip, and more friction during sex!
Sometimes a tight grip might be a habit guys develop, or is maybe a result of low sensitivity, as a congenital characteristic, or following trauma, circumcision, etc.
It may be if he requires extra friction, he may benefit from learning to get off with arousal from other sensations and/or mental stimulation, eg, blindfolded and teased, more play with his balls, prostate play, etc.
One thing that’s virtually guaranteed to finish me off is gentle teasing of the back of my balls. If my wife tries to get me off with a hand-job, I can’t hold off for very long if she licks me there 
Similarly, a forefinger hooked round the back of the scrotum during a blowie is super hot.
A cock & ball sling or some form of deep cock ring may also help if he’s too big to be able to fully penetrate you without hitting your cervix. I find shallow penetration less satisfying at times.
Of course we’re all different. So I hope you find what works for your guy. Glad you’ve found someone who satisfies your needs & I hope you both can solve this
Foreplay is key. Work him up until he wants you. Kissing, tongue and moaning will finish him! Hearing the other person moan is the best and a huge turn on.
@The_Little_Ladybird hi sorry things still seem to going as you would like.
I am a bit confused are you saying your to wet and therefore there is no friction or are you to dry?
If its the latter have you tried using a Vibrator or a wand to start getting ypu wet. I some time use my lovehoney wand to getmy jucies flowing only a suggestion.
It’s great you’re working it out together as a couple and talking together. So from my point of view that’s the biggest hurdle and the rest can be continued exploring of each other.
My husband actually prefers the sensation of hands / BJ / Touch etc which is down to the fact he can just lay back and relax so gets stronger orgasms from foreplay rather then intercourse.
He still loves penetration but prefers climax from above.
This in the main is because he likes to also please so is focused on performance, wanting to pleasure / make me orgasm during sex etc so then ends with weaker orgasm.
As lots have mentioned above it’s very much in the mind , connection , being relaxed as guys focus on performance , porn inspired action etc.
Foreplay they can sit back and relax 
@Daisy1982 honestly I dont mind him finishing manually after Im done, but it is really good feeling him cum inside me too
Ive booked a check up and bloody tests at the doctors (my thyroid test is over due) incase there is anything off with my levels. I seem to be wet / turned on almost all the time recently
Its good to get a check up and make sure that you’re healthy but I don’t think theres anything wrong with being turned on all the time. Not unless it get in the way of work and affecting your relationship with your bf and your family and friends. Do you feel like its a problem?
@The_Little_Ladybird i think your doing the right thing going for a check up.
Do you think it could be an age related the menopausa for example. i know some friends of mine want sex all tbe time whilst other have no interest or very little I hope you have an understanding GP good luck
