Reduced sex drive and vaginal dryness are symptoms of menopause, @The_Little_Ladybird has increased sex drive and a very wet vagina. This wouldn’t be menopause.
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I’m a little confused, I got the impression it was the boyfriend that was having problems coming in you @The_Little_Ladybird . The problem appears to be with him not you but by him not coming makes it a good long session for you. Could there be a worry he does not want to get you pregnant? Therefore in his mind he must not come in you?
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Hi @JoCat thanks gor pointint that out i only daid i think it was a goodvthing she was getting checked. However i have friends who get very wet snd some who are very dry
We ate all different at different at stages of our life plede do not take this as having a go i always belive better yo be ssfe than sorry hope your keeping well
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I’m not taking it as you having a go, I’m only confirming that you’ve suggested it could be menopause, but being turned on and extra juicy isn’t a symptom of menopause. @The_Little_Ladybird is going for a check up to make sure she’s in tip top condition but its not her that is experiencing any issues with sex.
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I think it would help if we all reread the thread to make sure everyone is clear on what we’ve been told as there is some confusion.
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Thanks all, we have had a lovely weekend together and have spoken about it
Im happy with our sex life but he really wants to be able to cum in me PIV. I understand this, the closeness, lovemaking rather than just sex.
I want to make it clear that he isn’t blaming me for this, its definitely a mixture of things going on and Im glad we can talk about it.
This isn’t something that he has experienced with other partners
I have realised that we struggle more when Im ovulating.
I want to do anything I can to make sure we both enjoy our intimate time together and we have discussed things he can do too
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Well that’s answered that question @The_Little_Ladybird . Is he able to cum via hand or mouth? Could it be that he is masterbating too much? Ask him to not masterbate for a short period of time to see if it make a difference. (It will be difficult as he will be thinking of you when alone) Sending big hugs to both of you. Its good you are both willing to chat about it.
Being too wet is a brilliant problem in many ways - that’s why you are a forum hero @The_Little_Ladybird! 
I’m pretty old now, and I guess we pretty much gave up on the porn star type sex quite a while ago (all the hectic thrusting)
Is he just getting too much ‘in his head’ about it maybe?
I can definitely get stuck in my head, - which means I miss the sensuality of the experience.
Most of our sex now involves us (in a very comfy position) looking each other in the eye, with my P in her V, not doing much movement, while she masturbates / plays around with toys or fingers. I’ll join in on that game too, and rub, stroke, fondle her or use a toy on her.
For me, I can last a long time like that while she las lots of orgasms - so the feeling of that is incredible and i get so turned on. Frankly, it’s a visual treat and often there will be kinky lingerie, which just adds to the buzz.
In that situation, I’m trying to work out how I can last longer, as it’s just so delicious (and we don’t get the chance to do it that often, so it’s a special treat)
You guys clearly know what you like and love, but maybe try a different angle - where you just try and get him as ‘sexed up’ as you can and flip the script - get him to try and avoid an orgasm.
Something different maybe,
Enjoy your adventures and hope you get a good result with medical appointments.
X
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When I met hubby it was like this - he could go at me for a bloody hour and I’d be a mess (in a good way!).
After a while he was more relaxed with me and then didn’t take as long and after a while - when we were not having sex every day, he got annoyed because he couldn’t last that long.
He lasts like 2 minutes now, unless he has has a go on one of his rubber fannys or bumholes that day. I don’t mind.
People change hun. Enjoy what you have now, it might be different, but not worse.
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Little update
He has managed to cum in me PIV a couple of times now. Im doing my pelvic floors and hes cut back on the wanking.
I think we are both getting more comfortably with eachother and taken the pressure off.
I love him being able to keep going until I’m done and (like last night) with a few seconds of hand action - he cums on me.
Thanks All
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Just to add my 2 cents… often found that there is a sweet spot for me cumming, especially in new relationships. I’d either cum fairly quick or if I got past that little window, not at all (as soon as I think I might not cum, I won’t)
Be pumping away for hours before finishing with hands.
And then the next time I’d be more aware that I didn’t finish last time I might not cum this time, making situation worse.
Can only suggest less porn and wanking, less judgement on whether male comes, finding the position that he finds it easiest to come in (woman on top for me), finishing in other ways until he gets comfortable with cumming with you. And also telling him it’s fine to come as fast as he wants, once he’s recovered (maybe using a cock ring) there’s still plenty of time for you to get where you need to!
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Another update 
I think we have cracked it. Like most things in a relationship “communication” was the key.
Ive been taking him saying “relax” or “stay still” and “stop moving” as a dom thing when Im getting really turned on. Turns out that when Im moving with him or pushing up to meet his thrusts (Ive never been a pillow princess) Im forcing the pace / encouraging him to go faster and so he does go harder and faster which is leaving him desensitised.
Because he knows I like hard and fast thats been where we normally end up.
Tonight I listened, after Id had my “hard and fast” and cum a few times, I lay back, relaxed which let him slow down and go at his pace. It was bloody wonderful, we came together.
Im so glad we had a good talk after and seem to be working it out. Now I just need to “lay back and enjoy” which is much more difficult than it sounds.
Thanks all for the advice
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I saw your first post and had a comment but then seen this one and decided to leave it alone. Glad you got it figured.
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It sounds to me like you and him are very very well suited, you are both communicating and seem to be both being very well satisfied, long may it continue. I did not understand the D and E post of your other post?.
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@steve19 @D_and_E is a forum member that i haven’t seen active for a while.
He a few of my posts last week
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Good work lovely, communication wins again.
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I know exactly what your saying @The_Little_Ladybird i find my current partner so attractive but I can last hours with her, for us it’s due to mixing things up, we have sex then slow it down and kiss for a bit or we’ll alternate between oral
And having sex, but I never feel like I want to cum, mainly because the sex is so good and I don’t want it to end
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