So.. I've just discovered what it is and thinking of treating the fella so to speak. But, websites make it sound a bit easy. Just How easy is it?? Am I going to be there until next Tuesday finding the gland... I know all men are different but they say it's approximately 2 inches inside - are my fingers going to reach it realistically? Will he react when I find it in the same way women react to their G-Spot?
Never had it done so i personally can not speak but from videos i have seen yes your fingers will reach im guessing Mistress D will give you alot more info about this if she sees the post as for others i dunno never heard them talk about it.
I have had it done,only with a prostate massage toy though.I have used both the Aneros MGX and also the Bad Boy.I will say that the MGX is a far superior piece of equipment.If you try it with a finger,just go careful as too much pressure on your other halfs prostate could hurt.I would suggest that you start of by purchasing a prostate toy and practice with that first. If you do, you will probably notice a lot of precum leaking from his penis,this is normal.Once you and he get the hang of it,he may (if he is lucky like me) experience some wonderful sensations and ultimately earth shattering orgasms.Go for it girl you and he will not regret it
It's not as hard as you might think :-)
His prostate will be about 2-3 inches inside, towards his stomach and the main things to remember are to take it slow and to use plenty of lube. In my opinion, you have the best idea using your fingers. Toys are ok, but you'll have a lot more feel if you don't use them.
Once he's relaxed & comfortable, you should be able to slip 1 or 2 fingers inside him with ease. Then, the most effective way I've found, is to slide your fingers all the way inside then make a 'come here' motion to place pressure on his prostate. Then, whilst your fingers are still curved, pull back a couple of inches. If you repeat this over and over, he'll probably feel like he needs to urinate, but this is completely normal.
After a while, he'll begin to ejaculate very slowly. He can help this along by flexing his PC muscle or you can make an 'O' with your thumb and forefinger around the base of his penis and squeeze,whilst pulling down to the head. His ejaculation will be slow as it won't be the result of an orgasm, but it can feel wonderful. he also doesn't need to be erect for this, at all. In fact, it's much more common to stay flaccid (unless you're also stimulating his penis).
The only other advice I'd give it to communicate with each other. Find out what he enjoys and doesn't. Some guys enjoy prostate milking when it's combined with other play. Others like just to concentrate on it and nothing else.
Best of luck! I know you'll both have a fantastic time :-)
I have done it, its pretty simple really.
You need lube and both of you relax. His prostate is located about 2-3 inches up at the front. I find that it seems to get much much warmer and contract as the OH is getting closer which indicates where it is. Simply stroke this gently and start a rhytm, try not to stroke the penis as this will encourage him to cum. The OH cant feel that he is getting closer but as I said, it gets warmer and contracts. If I do this long enough the OH will have a 'dry' orgasm, he will orgasm without cumming. The most I have done in a row is 2 as the OH says its so sensitive.
Implimenting this technique allows men to have multiple orgasms the same as women. There are toys that will help find this spot: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/male-sex-toys/prostate-massagers/
A brilliant website or blogspot is: http://ladylubyanka.wordpress.com/ There are loads and loads all about prostate milking. Take a look.
ruffledsheets wrote:
It's not as hard as you might think :-)
His prostate will be about 2-3 inches inside, towards his stomach and the main things to remember are to take it slow and to use plenty of lube. In my opinion, you have the best idea using your fingers. Toys are ok, but you'll have a lot more feel if you don't use them.
Once he's relaxed & comfortable, you should be able to slip 1 or 2 fingers inside him with ease. Then, the most effective way I've found, is to slide your fingers all the way inside then make a 'come here' motion to place pressure on his prostate. Then, whilst your fingers are still curved, pull back a couple of inches. If you repeat this over and over, he'll probably feel like he needs to urinate, but this is completely normal.
After a while, he'll begin to ejaculate very slowly. He can help this along by flexing his PC muscle or you can make an 'O' with your thumb and forefinger around the base of his penis and squeeze,whilst pulling down to the head. His ejaculation will be slow as it won't be the result of an orgasm, but it can feel wonderful. he also doesn't need to be erect for this, at all. In fact, it's much more common to stay flaccid (unless you're also stimulating his penis).
The only other advice I'd give it to communicate with each other. Find out what he enjoys and doesn't. Some guys enjoy prostate milking when it's combined with other play. Others like just to concentrate on it and nothing else.
Best of luck! I know you'll both have a fantastic time :-)
I was thinking on how best to describe this yesterday, but this is perfect. X
Thank you Ruffledsheets and MasqueradeMinx..
Ruffledsheets - I've decided against the use of a toy for now, he's open to experiment but I don't want to push him too far. And if you say fingers will be easier - then coming from a males view, I'll go with that. I'm glad you mentioned the erection - I did a bit of youporn searching and did notice the men were flaccid but in the world of porn you never know what's a true depiction. I have another question - (open to males and females), which do you think will be a good position to try this in? Naturally I will introduce my fingers to him as a progression from oral sex so he will be on his back most likely. Should I get him to move?
MasqueradeMinx - thank you for this link - I have myself some bedtime reading!
Ms M wrote:
Thank you Ruffledsheets and MasqueradeMinx..
Ruffledsheets - I've decided against the use of a toy for now, he's open to experiment but I don't want to push him too far. And if you say fingers will be easier - then coming from a males view, I'll go with that. I'm glad you mentioned the erection - I did a bit of youporn searching and did notice the men were flaccid but in the world of porn you never know what's a true depiction. I have another question - (open to males and females), which do you think will be a good position to try this in? Naturally I will introduce my fingers to him as a progression from oral sex so he will be on his back most likely. Should I get him to move?
MasqueradeMinx - thank you for this link - I have myself some bedtime reading!
You are welcome, hope this helps.
For us, the most comfortable is for me to be inbetween his legs and he has a cushion under his lower back/bum. That way I can get a better angle, give him oral easily and he said he loves that he can see me so easily.
I agree, sex toys may come in later, though they aren't necessary. You don't want to scare him off.
Use some good anal lube, both of you relax and communicate loads. Above all, enjoy!
MM xx
MasqueradeMinx wrote:
Ms M wrote:
Thank you Ruffledsheets and MasqueradeMinx..
Ruffledsheets - I've decided against the use of a toy for now, he's open to experiment but I don't want to push him too far. And if you say fingers will be easier - then coming from a males view, I'll go with that. I'm glad you mentioned the erection - I did a bit of youporn searching and did notice the men were flaccid but in the world of porn you never know what's a true depiction. I have another question - (open to males and females), which do you think will be a good position to try this in? Naturally I will introduce my fingers to him as a progression from oral sex so he will be on his back most likely. Should I get him to move?
MasqueradeMinx - thank you for this link - I have myself some bedtime reading!
You are welcome, hope this helps.
For us, the most comfortable is for me to be inbetween his legs and he has a cushion under his lower back/bum. That way I can get a better angle, give him oral easily and he said he loves that he can see me so easily. The OH doesn't move at first, I do all the movement but when he gets more into it he pushes against my fingers. Start off with one finger and then once he is relaxed enough try two.
I agree, sex toys may come in later, though they aren't necessary. You don't want to scare him off.
Use some good anal lube, both of you relax and communicate loads. Above all, enjoy!
MM xx
This is something i'm eager to try so I found the advice you lot gave very useful, thank you :D
I'll have a talk with my OH and hopefully he'll be up for it x
@Ms M - Glad I could help!
On his back will be fine. I often like to be on all fours, but that's certainly not the only position. When he's on his back, you'll both be very comfortable, which is especially important for your first time. Hope you both love it!
@EmilyBlenkins - Hope your OH is up for it. It really is a pleasurable experience :-)
ruffledsheets wrote:
It's not as hard as you might think :-)
His prostate will be about 2-3 inches inside, towards his stomach and the main things to remember are to take it slow and to use plenty of lube. In my opinion, you have the best idea using your fingers. Toys are ok, but you'll have a lot more feel if you don't use them.
Once he's relaxed & comfortable, you should be able to slip 1 or 2 fingers inside him with ease. Then, the most effective way I've found, is to slide your fingers all the way inside then make a 'come here' motion to place pressure on his prostate. Then, whilst your fingers are still curved, pull back a couple of inches. If you repeat this over and over, he'll probably feel like he needs to urinate, but this is completely normal.
After a while, he'll begin to ejaculate very slowly. He can help this along by flexing his PC muscle or you can make an 'O' with your thumb and forefinger around the base of his penis and squeeze,whilst pulling down to the head. His ejaculation will be slow as it won't be the result of an orgasm, but it can feel wonderful. he also doesn't need to be erect for this, at all. In fact, it's much more common to stay flaccid (unless you're also stimulating his penis).
The only other advice I'd give it to communicate with each other. Find out what he enjoys and doesn't. Some guys enjoy prostate milking when it's combined with other play. Others like just to concentrate on it and nothing else.
Best of luck! I know you'll both have a fantastic time :-)
Ok, I'm going to have to get the OH to read this, and arrange a couple of hours on a night she's feeling generous to give this a go properly. We've done some anal play before, but I've never had the patience to insist on proper milking. This description, however, has convinced me how wrong I've been External Media
Would really like this to happen to me
This is something that I have considered doing with Mr B, thanks for all the tips guys, will have to have a go at some point.
You could also try giving him a bj if you are that way inclined.It really does enhance the prostate massage.You will drive him wild
@Seán&Soozie - Glad I could help! It does take patience, but it's definitely worth it :-)
@Rugbyman - I often do it myself. It's quite easy once you become accustomed to it. If you can persuade a partner, though, it's amazing.
@boobaloo - You're welcome! Hope he enjoys it as much as I do!
Thanks guys for all the tips.
we have managed once to make him climax without any attention to his penis but that was using a strapon but loving the idea that it can be a slower drawn out process, cant wait to try
@Ruffledsheets. I think I'm going to go for the cushion under bum method first to give me more access. Even if I don't find the gland, he does like a bit of anal play so all is not lost - but I'm very sure he's never been milked before. So my next question (as you seem to be pretty experienced and have offered good advice) - how am I going to know I've hit the spot?? I can only relate it to the G-spot, being that when it's found, women usually give off signals and react to it. Will he do the same or is it something he won't feel until after a while of stroking?
My next silly question, or rather hypothesis, is this - The more aroused he is before I do this, the better it will be. Agree? I'm thinking, if I excite him too much, will the feelings be too intense? Once I begin I plan to give his penis minimal attention - maybe just a nice grip, gentle pulling, ball licking etc.
Never tried the milking, But we use strapon's allot. When I hit the right spot I can tell, You know the way we move when they hit the Gspot (that arching of the back thing) well he does that.
One prob we've found when he is to aroused he has what we've nicknamed a 50/50 (im sure there is a proper name for it) where he squirts a bit and gets a bit of the feeling but its not a full feeling and he gets the unfinished feeling!! So yes we have found its better if i start with a gentle BJ (so he knows he's in luck) then move tounge balls and bum, rimming really does make it easier to play there. Then start with the inserting bit!! I leave his penis well alone after this (unless im feeling really mean and doing a 50/50 on perpose)
I'd say being relaxed is more important than being aroused, for this kind of play. Especially as it's a slower style of stimulation. If you bring him close to the edge of orgasm, he'll just want to carry on and may not have the patience for prostate milking. If he's relaxed, however, and prepared for a slower but sensual massage, he'll love it.
As for knowing you've hit the spot, it's not as easy to tell from your point of view, but he should be able to feel it. I can't really feel mine with my fingers, but I can tell when it's touched. You don't really need to worry about that, though. If you slip your fingers all the way inside, then press towards his stomach slightly and pull them back, you'll hit it along the way. I find that way particularly pleasurable, too, so I'm sure he will as well.
The position you're in will make that easy. You'll be able to use one hand to massage, which will leave the other for whatever takes your fancy. I wouldn't do tooo much that will distract him from the massage, though, otherwise his mind will be elsewhere!
Shout if you need any more help :-)