I’ve been trying to achieve a hands-free orgasm for a while now, but can’t seem to get there. I’ve tried using a vibrating prostate massager, I can milk the prostate and get precum leaking out, but the only build up of pressure I feel is that sensation of needing to pee. If I massage vigorously that pressure can cause me to squirt (urine and prostate fluid?). I have a thrusting dildo arriving tomorrow, which I’m eager to try, so I’m hoping that helps. But can anyone offer any other advice? Do I need to be horny to be successful? If so, that’s a bit of an issue... Should I always massage at a slow speed throughout? Or should I just clench my ass/pelvic floor every few seconds? The next time I see an escort I’ll certainly be getting them to peg me! :3
A butt-plug in and then a ride cowgirl-style usually does it for men! 
My husband finds a long bj mixing techniques up and slipping a finger in or 2 will usually lead to a great ending
I can thoroughly recommend a Fun Factory Share XL (sadly no longer made) being driven energetically by an OH. I have come over all feint just thinking about it!
Sadly guys, I don’t have an OH to do those things to help me. 😕 I have tried the cowgirl-style several times but it hasn’t helped. If I hit the right spot it feels great, but my hands/arms get knackered after a bit lol. Getting the right pressure is tricky as well due to too much giving that feeling of needing to pee.
I find that adopting the following position helps. Sit on the floor, legs slightly bent, feet just wider than hips but knees together, then lean further back resting on your hands. The makes the angle of penetration quite acute and rubs more intensely against the prostate. Prostate orgasms take time to achieve, as guys we're quite used to achieving quick orgasms through penis stimulation, just got to give yourself the time and relax, don't rush yourself.
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I’ve been trying to achieve a hands-free orgasm for a while now, but can’t seem to get there. I’ve tried using a vibrating prostate massager, I can milk the prostate and get precum leaking out, but the only build up of pressure I feel is that sensation of needing to pee. If I massage vigorously that pressure can cause me to squirt (urine and prostate fluid?). I have a thrusting dildo arriving tomorrow, which I’m eager to try, so I’m hoping that helps. But can anyone offer any other advice? Do I need to be horny to be successful? If so, that’s a bit of an issue... Should I always massage at a slow speed throughout? Or should I just clench my ass/pelvic floor every few seconds? The next time I see an escort I’ll certainly be getting them to peg me! :3
if you dont fight that sensation of needing to pee, just let it happen, when all your muscles start to contract and you feel a bit like your having a seizure, thats it. Its not anything to do with your penis, not unless you want it to anyway.
@WhoKnew? I’ll have to give that a try. I’ve currently been practising pelvic floor exercises whilst sitting/lying down with my butt plug. I recall getting those muscle contractions or a similar feeling of spasms when it forced me to squirt. Not sure if that means I achieved it...? For the time being, I’m only interested in reaching a hands free orgasm.
Just trying the position Who New suggested it works very well very intense and right on the spot thanks for top tip .
Now I’m very eager to give that position a try...!
Enjoy I had a lovely long session finished off with my 8 inch I think blown away dildo produced the most thick pre cum ever it was amazing!
So much patience. Sooooo much. You just gotta keep going, rocking your hips,grinding it, your brain needs to basically go autopilot and lose control and it'll happen with time.
Currently riding my replacement 6” dildo whilst on my back. I’m dribbling so much pre-cum and the girth/thickness of it is just right! It feels SO nice!
I always find after an hour or so session that I can longer milk my prostate anymore and the feeling of a dildo up my ass doesn’t feel great anymore. It feels a bit sore inside/starts to chafe even with more lube added. :-/
I have been using the we-vibe ditto after spending money on much cheaper items and the phrase of that you get what you pay for applies in this respect too...hits just the right spot and hopefully this won’t be considered as too much information but it has enabled me to have multiple orgasms and I don’t mean in an extended length of time.....all in one go, so to speak! Rather a surprise the first time it happened!
I can’t help but think that I, like the select few women out there who have never had an orgasm or can’t orgasm from their G-Spot, am just hard wired differently and can’t orgasm through prostate stimulation. Many guys have shared stories where they’re able to achieve it in seemingly a matter of minutes and get turned on in the process. I always find it pleasant and fun, but it never turns me on majorly to the point of climaxing within minutes. I’ve noticed on some occasions, if I keep doing it, I don’t get any more pre-cum oozing out. It’s like the prostate is completely empty by this point. This is usually around the time that a dildo starts chafing or it feels a bit sore/uncomfortable up my ass.
You're not alone!
I haven't yet had a prostate orgasm, though I've got very close to it.
I'm a gay male, so I'm used to anal play, however, my partner is A:) Rather small in the trouser department & B:) Not very sexual, therefore my anal play is usually solo as he doesn't even know about my toy collection.......he's also not into toys!
When I play with my dildos, I usually get a hard on naturally, but to be honest I'm concentrating more on the anal feelings than trying to achieve a penile orgasm.
If I was being fucked by a (real) big cock, or if someone was using the toys on me, I'd orgasm easily.
I tried using the Thrust Pro Mini Eva Realistic Vagina at the same time, however, I found I was trying to concentrate too hard on trying to cum......instead of enjoying the sensations from the 2 different toys.
I think at the end of the day, we're all just wired differently. No one has ever succeeded in giving me a blowjob, and I rarely cum by penetrating someone else.
I have found my nipples to be a major area for stimulation.......someone licking or gently biting them gets me off in no time........but I still have to wank to do so.
So, my advice is simple........enjoy your ass play, and if you want to cum afterwards, then do so by another means. It's what I have to do, so as I said at the beginning......you're not alone!
Yeah, I guess you’re right. I’m still hopeful and determined I’ll achieve one one day, but all I can do is enjoy the sensations, do them to enhance a regular penile orgasm and milk it for the health benefits. I’m still hopeful that getting an escort to peg me will tip me over the edge. 😌
I think being pegged will take it to a whole new level for you, because you'll be concentrating more on the pleasure, rather than haing to do the work yourself (so to speak).
I was actually quite pleasantly surprised when I read about the health benefits of milking the prostate.
It kind of makes me more determined!
I know, right! I really can’t wait for it to happen! I’m SO looking forward to it! :D And I can’t wait for someone else to be in control, dominating me, riding me like a Blackpool donkey and spanking me. 🤤