❗ PSA - unnecessarily graphic/erotic posts

Unfortunately it’s about time to blow this joint, used to be fun but I guess a few are getting way too sensitive about what’s posted on here

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I don’t understand why a forum about sex on a website that sells sexual items is so heavily moderated. Yeah I get that some things might be inappropriate but if there are threads with titles like “when did you last have sex” why are moderators then blocking descriptions of what people got up to? Thinking of leaving it as well…some threads are also becoming quite predictable with the same people essentially saying they did something which has become very much expected :joy:

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Like many articles in papers / magazines / cosmopolitan etc etc there are always peoples experiences and fantasies which don’t necessarily have to describe every graphic detail.

The love honey brand is something which is respected worldwide which ensures it tailors approach to reach out to everyone and their varied levels of boundaries / acceptance. So to manage that It’s no easy task.

We see forums for areas to share , get advice , discuss concerns , suggestions / recommendations etc etc and to ensure those that have less acceptance or not comfortable with the fine detail feel welcome or want to be part of something and run / aligned to the love honey brand. So I do understand and would not take any offence to having posts edited as need to keep a place which is for everyone.

We love erotic stories / literature but find it on the kindle or elsewhere and don’t take offence to things we read.

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Posts that are written in story form/play-by-play/present tense often end up reading as erotica. There are ways to write these without excess detail.

eg.

“I bought a coconut at the shops”

vs

“I slipped the furry brown sphere into my shiny metal basket”

Do not post erotica or graphic fantasies learn what erotica is here

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I’ve just got to say that this really made me giggle this morning! :rofl: I’m very unimaginative and can’t fathom how you came up with such a funny analogy!

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For anyone looking for a place to share their erotic fiction/descriptive fantasies in a friendly, forum-style environment, there’s always FlickLit.co.uk :slightly_smiling_face:

(I feel I need to mention that it’s currently a blank canvas, used mainly to share Wordle results. But if people want a place to practice and share their erotic creative writing, then that’s what it’s there for. :+1:)

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The site is for adults.
If any post is intentionally extremely crude or quite obviously intended to shock, i more than agree with censoring and editing.
Where it is an insight to a persons experience or fantasy and the language used is not gutter level, i see no issue.
I think there is a general agreement with members in what is acceptable and what is just intentionally pornographic

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How very Nigella!

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I am a member of a motorcycle forum for many years and in the last year or two it has gotten patrolled quite heavy handed . It has not gotten to the point where if you describe a ride your post gets moderated , yet . I personally think that if a moderator is going to reject a reply they could maybe let you know exactly what part of reply is they have a problem with . I have had a reply moderated when I used a name of a group of people that call them selves a particular name , but moderator said it was in appropriate . That one really baffled me . I dearly love this forum and most of the time I enjoy it , but I may have to take some time off or leave myself . I have bought the vast majority of my sexual products from them , but that may change also .

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I prefer shaggy brown sphere myself!

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@Ian_Chimp thank you for the advice.

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Re the coconut example… that’s kind of the problem though.

Imagine if during sex you rephrased everything so it didn’t sound risqué. Wouldn’t work, would it? This is a forum where some of the topics are to discuss these subjects…

My personal opinion is it really does take the fun and eroticism out of it if we’re having to talk about sex like we’re sitting with our parents :laughing: If you’ve got an account on a forum of an adult shop website you know the crack (no pun intended) and what sort of things might be talked about!

I think most people know the difference between appropriate/erotic and way too far.

That’s the point though, during sex the idea is to arouse. If unnecessary words are added into forum posts to arouse (yourself or others) then they are most likely breaking the rules.

The Forum isn’t here to be erotic and arouse, it’s here to inform and help.

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@Lovehoney_Brenna so presumably the lingerie photo uploads are to “inform” people about LHs products, not to arouse? Because the marketing on the LH website suggests that the products are indeed intended to be arousing :thinking:

My apologies but I’m genuinely confused with this and what the forum is actually for…

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They are to boost body confidence and help people feel confident sharing images of themselves. The positive feedback people recieve, I hope, makes them feel more confident in what they’re wearing. From a personal point of view, when people are wearing LH lingerie that I’m interested in it is also really helpful to see it worn by people other than the models.

I personally haven’t seen any of the posts pre edit that prompted today’s discussion but I think you have the forum a bit wrong. It is here to help and advice people on all things sex as well as be a nice, friendly place to hang out. It is not a wank bank! There are many other adult sites dedicated to that.

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I’d say the photo uploads exist to showcase Lingerie and promote body positivity!

What do you mean?

The forum is a resource where people can share tips on sex/sex toys. Where they can ask questions and learn new things!

One of the first lines in the rules is this:

The Lovehoney Forum is not a place for arranging hook-ups, sex chat, cyber sex or other personal solicitations. It is not a place to post links to pornography or erotica, or a place for seeking out material you may use to masturbate.

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@Shagger11 if you speak to people the way you speak to a sexual partner, then no, that is not appropriate.

I dont come here to be tuened on or to turn others on. That’s not the intention.

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Ok I’ll explain this alongside what I said about the marketing on the main LH website.

I don’t think anyone would disagree with the fact that the products on the main LH shop website are designed to be erotic and arousing. If they weren’t, there wouldn’t be much of a market. They are definitely sold by LH on the premise of being sexually arousing. If you disagree with this, have a click around the main website and think about that for a few moments.

It’s funny how the items start out as being erotic and arousing (when you’re selling them) but when it comes to the lingerie uploads it’s only about being informative or body positivity…

Same goes with comments on a forum being too erotic when the entire premise of LH - in terms of what they sell - seems very much based on eroticism and arousal.

I don’t mean to offend anyone but there really does seem to be a few contradictions between some of what’s being said here versus premise or the main LH website.

I’m still not sure I am following, the items are sexual in nature but I wouldn’t say the descriptions are written in such a way that it would be classed as erotica. The photographs aren’t taken in a lewd sexually suggestive way (like a hand masturbating a dildo). The videos are filmed in an informative matter of fact way.

The products are there to help enhance sex lives, and in use are often arousing. But on their own are just products - its what you do with them that is the arousing part.

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