I have a few, though, like @JoCat don’t tend to use them very often. As part of BDSM and power play, they’re fantastic, but for solo use, they don’t do a lot for me. Yes, they make everything super sensitive but I prefer it when it’s just my clit so tend to reach for a Melt of Womanizer if I’m solo. Appearance wise, for me, it depends a bit on which pump you use, but with the Bloom, yes, huuuuuge vulva!!! Personally, a bit disconcerting but it does go down eventually 
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This is my review of the Bloom, which goes into quite a bit of detail. Any questions, feel free to ask.
I think @Kitty-Cat01 advice for your first night was excellent 